What do I do with this information? (suicide trigger warning)

[NormanFuckingRockwell]

My boyfriend (of 6 months) has told me that he will kill himself one day. I know we haven't been together long but it's been very intense and it feels like I've known him for a lot longer. He has children and I have a child too.

He doesn't have any immediate plans to do it but he knows for sure that suicide will be the way he goes. I love him but now I'm living in fear that one day I'm going to receive the news that he's gone. It's all just so painful to think about.

What on earth do I do?

My dad was very abusive when I was a child and then when my mum finally filed for divorce when I was 17 he made me witness him taking an overdose in a very dramatic and traumatic way which led to him being sectioned.

It was like he installed a button in me, which he would then press every time he wanted to control or punish me. I became like a puppet on a string to my dad demands because of the suicide threats - and of course i had these awful visual flashbacks of what I witnessed.

It has affected my mental health very badly and only came to a head earlier this year when he screamed suicide threats at me in front of my 11 year old. I then realised that he would use these treats to start to control my children in the same way. Couldn't bear the thought of it and I am, at last, NC with him. My mental health will never really recover.

Please just bear this in mind, whether he lives or dies is not down to you. Don't be drawn into trying to 'fix' him as you can never fix someone else.

Also - I'm going to predict the next thing that happens. You'll go on a day out/weekend away/holiday with friends or family and he will go AWOL while you're away and not respond to texts or answer calls etc. You will be frantic and miserable because you will think he has killed himself. You will not go away again because of the constant worry.

CodeOrange

You are definitely psychic

If he won't engage with you and his GP in addressing this, there is no happy ending here. Either he uses the threat of suicide to control you for years (and sets a pattern for your child's future relationships) or he kills himself and sets off a massive bomb in the middle of your life and the lives of everyone around him.
I know someone whose boyfriend had MH issues he wouldn't deal with. Her kids found him hanging in her shed. Don't let that happen to you (even if you don't have a shed!).