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Sending intimate pictures to your dp...

29 replies

DiamondsInTheMud · 28/11/2018 22:22

Do people do this?

If you do, do you send pics when dp asks, or are the surprise pics for them? Are they always appreciated?

Used to send pics to an ex if i was away for a few days, was a bit of fun. He would ask, i would send. With a new guy, and its a long distance thing. Hes never asked or mentioned anything along the lines of wanting a cheeky pic, and although i woukd he happy to (and want to!) Send some sexy pics, im wary about sending them out of nowhere, in case they arent wanted...? But then is it more likely that dp doesnt want to ask? He is very gentlemanly and polite and i think he would worry about offending me.

Do guys generally appreciate this kind of thing?

(Feel i should mention that yes i know pics sent privately might not always remain so, but as much as it wouldn't be ideal if any pics were shared with others, the world wouldnt end and i think i look ok so wouldnt be horrified by people seeing...)

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peachypetite · 28/11/2018 22:23

Never include your face!

Faster · 28/11/2018 22:24

Do lives in a different city a few hours drive away. It’s not our thing to send each other messages like that, we don’t do sexy texting either.
To each their own.

NancyDonahue · 28/11/2018 22:25

I've never done it and never would. I can't see the attraction of getting any from my dh either. We're old fashioned - we look at each other when we're together.

ClandestineAdulation · 28/11/2018 22:26

Maybe it’s a conversation you can have? In the first instance, if conversation takes a sexual turn then alluding to what you’re wearing/doing etc might form a ‘request’ so to speak. That way, you’re not sending pics at random times of the day in the first instance but if it’s something that he wants to do too, you’ll then be pretty clear as to when it’s appropriate to do it, and if it’ll be well received.

Sparklingbrook · 28/11/2018 22:28

I can't see the appeal myself. I have told my teen DSs that it's really not a wise thing to do either.

Moussemoose · 28/11/2018 22:29

Don't send anything you wouldn't want your boss or your granny to see.

Marmaladegin · 28/11/2018 22:30

Mine would honestly think I'd taken leave of my senses. He likes to compartmentalize Grin

Baking101 · 28/11/2018 22:30

Never include your face! this.

SauvingnonBlanketyBlanc · 28/11/2018 22:31

Yeah I send dh boob pics if I feel like it

Sethis · 28/11/2018 22:31

I never would.

You have absolutely no control over that image once it leaves your hardware.

JennyHolzersGhost · 28/11/2018 22:31

I would never do it and it sounds incredibly tacky.

MrsTerryPratcett · 28/11/2018 22:32

I've never met a man who I would trust 100% not to reshare when drunk and broken hearted. So no.

Limpetry · 28/11/2018 22:33

If someone used the words ‘cheeky pic’ to me, it would all be over between us. It conjures up a world of Take A Break magazine, and the odd ‘cheeky glass of vino at wine o’clock’ and ‘cheeky Nando’s’.

Ethel80 · 28/11/2018 22:33

I would never do this, I've seen too many relationship break ups get nasty.
My partner is lovely and I'm 99.9% sure he would never maliciously share anything I sent him but I still wouldn't risk it.

Tbh, it's not my thing anyway, I don't really get it.

I've been sent dick pics and it amazes me that some blokes think this is the way to attract someone.

sirmione16 · 28/11/2018 22:35

I used to early on, but after 5 years and a pregnancy... meh.... he wouldn't care nor give me any response worth it really. He'd just be like "looking good" when if I had taken the time to take a million pics and then choose one decent one take a picture, I'd expect him gushing over it. So.

However, for some men I can totally see this being an appeal, and a tease - especially if you're long distance. But I agree with PP, only ever a sexy body shot in lingerie or something playful in clothes (unbuttoned blouse or the like)

Annandale · 28/11/2018 22:39

I did once send DH a boob pic (faceless) when he seemed very low, we were having a tough time with various crappy things happening. It worked, he was delighted in a rather lovely way.

After he died it occurred to me that his parents might like to look through our photo CDs with me and pick a few they didn't already have of DH -MIL has dementia and it's the kind of thing that sparks good memories for her. Thank God I looked at them first, he'd saved the boob pic several times onto every cd...

Halloweenallyearround · 28/11/2018 22:40

My dp never ever asked me to when we were dating, and I asked him why. He told me that he didn't want to cause any disrespect and felt that if the mood took me or it happen that would be fine.
I've sent him many now and he returned the gesture ( though it doesn't float my boat as much receiving them), when he's at work, on the way home, before he lived with me. Normally quite fun naughty pictures and never anything too gross.

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DiamondsInTheMud · 28/11/2018 22:45

Yeah it wouldnt be too graphic, im not too fussed about receiving pics, but i do enjoy the thrill of sending them and thinking of the thrill of him receiving.

Especially with the long distance things, its kind of a playful 'wish you were here...' Sort of thing.

I really think that dp wouldnt ask or bring it up in case i thought he was being disrespectful. But that doesnt mean he wants to get them either...

Glad to hear that some other people do it, was surprised that the vast majority of people would never do it!

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sazzle27 · 28/11/2018 22:48

No face included.. but yes.
It works brilliantly when we are on opposite shifts and barely see each other for half an hour a day/every couple of days..

It ramps up the excitement, he loves it, i get a thrill from doing it...

It's not a frequent occurrence, but that makes it more exciting for him..
And even better... he listens to what i want and wants to make the most of what he sends me in return!

We use a set app for it, hidden from all other messaging apps and password protected.. saves any awkward embarrassment when flicking through showing other people photos!

sazzle27 · 28/11/2018 22:49

Also.. i never thought i would be someone to send them but... i love how excited he gets.. and that makes me excited too!

Go for it OP!

LoniceraJaponica · 28/11/2018 22:49

Just remember a digital picture can never be erased permanently.

pumpkinpie01 · 28/11/2018 22:52

I have been with my DH years and I send him some now and again sometimes when i’ve gone to bed before him and he’s downstairs ! sometimes when we are apart for the night , whenever the mood takes me. Send him a flirty message wait for a flirty response then send a pic of course it will be appreciated 😀

Shepherdspieisminging · 28/11/2018 22:55

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DiamondsInTheMud · 28/11/2018 22:56

I said in my op that although its not ideal obviously if the pics i would send and have sent to exs in the past were to resurfce, it wouldnt be the end of the world, its not something that would leave me feeling overly embarased tbh.

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Andyetanothernamechange · 28/11/2018 23:09

I've done this with my current DP at times we don't see each other for a while. Usually I lead the conversation that way first - tell him I miss him, tell him why etc etc. As others have said, I never include my face and I leave everything to the imagination. But it's good fun to keep that spark when you can't be together, and intensifies things for when you are together, I find.