Do you judge people who have dirt under their fingernails?

[ElektraLOL]

I do - I really dislike it whether it's a man or a woman. Even if it's only a tiny bit!

Not really. My husband is a mechanic too, and I have horses, so we both have dirty nails sometimes. I have to really scrub them for work!

I'm a bit yuk about people with long, pointy bits of plastic or gel on their fingers personally. I had them when I got married and I can tell you they hide a huge amount of dirt behind them!

I wouldn't judge if they had a job like farmer or mechanic but otherwise I would!

So how do you decide who to judge? Do you quiz people about their lives first, or judge first and ask questions later? I have a grubby hobby, so despite washing regularly, I do have dirty fingernails at times. Is that acceptable, or would I be judged? not that I actually give a shit

No. Especially not since I've had a child with ASD whose nails grow at a supernatural rate and who detests being told to clean or cut them - I do try, but it's not always the hill I want to die on, and I don't think much of people who are shallow enough to sneer at us because of something so trivial.

Im still not sure what you’re judging them to be?

Diiirrrtttyyyyy

Nope. I work in a garage, not as a mechanic, and my hands get dirty pretty fast in the day.

Where there's engines there's dirt!... In the office, inside the printer, the card machine, the keyboard, the phone etc. Within a day there's a film over everything.

I also do a hobby that involves a lot of mud too...

If not part of their work I deffo would. Im not judgy on anything else really but dirt under nails? Makes me feel icky

Yes, especially if it's a Beauty Therapist about to do a facial. True story.

Green sleeves - I'm not sneering at anyone. Actually I have ASD and so do two of my daughters. One of them scratches surfaces as a stim and she doesn't like me to cut her nails or clean them but I force her because dirty nails is a pet hate of mine. I suppose I'm a mean mummy!

Mine are grotty this evening because I spent the afternoon digging around planting and weeding in the garden. Nothing worse than what you'd find on a fresh potato.

What I used to find grim was when I worked in hospital clinics and people's paperwork and bus passes had greasy nicotine stains from being regularly handled on the same spot.

I don't think you're sneering, Elektra. That sounds tough. Remember though that not everyone can or wants to force their DC, especially with severe Autism, if it could lead to a meltdown or if their DC is as big or bigger than them. A friend has a similar issue with haircuts with her severely Autistic now teen DC.

To Greensleeves

No. Because mine are always filthy for some reason. I'll be out of the bath all nice and clean and 3 hours later there will be dirt under them even if I'm just sitting watching telly. Not to mention if I actually do anything remotely handsy. It's a pain in the ass really.

You can say you're not sneering, but you've actually started a thread saying that you judge people for it!

That's fine that you force your dd because it's one of your personal hang-ups. I can't force my 6 foot DS, and I wouldn't anyway, because frankly what with the self-harming, suicidal tendencies and school refusal I feel he has enough to contend with at the moment. I have ASD too and the sight of his grotty nails/matted hair/stubble doesn't fill me with maternal pride either - but I'm not going to make my DS miserable and cause a meltdown just because clean nails might make me - or YOU, if you happen to see us and judge - feel better!

I don’t look at people’s nails!

When you say "judge", what do you mean?

You could offer free nail files & ask them to do a quick buff.

(Without breathing in dirty nail dust)

Yes it's rank

Also judge people who spit in public and don't cover their mouths when they cough. All on a similar footing IMHO

Cant stand it when children have long dirty nails

Cracked heels bother me & if they are ingrained with dirt, then I probably stare at their feet a bit too long.

No excuse really for dodgy trotters.

Depends. If they do gardening for a living,or a similarly 'grubby' job,I might be more inclined to overlook it. While we're on the subject,is it just me who finds long fingernails on men creepy? I remember many years ago,I went into a cafe for lunch. When I paid,I noticed that the man on the till had hideously long finger nails. It made me shudder,and ever since then,it's something that I always notice about a man.

I clean mine at least a dozen times a day, yet they look dirty minutes later. I work in a lovely clean building, no idea why it is, have always been that way. So judge me if you like, that'll help me feel less paranoid about it

Yes and no. My father was a farmer, my mother a gardener, so I have spent much of my life round dirty nails. However, my parents were pretty good at scrubbing their hands when needs be; you want hands and arms as clean as possible if you need to put them in a cow which is having difficulty calving, for example, because of the infection risk. Mind you, these days, you probably put latex gloves on.

I have seen sporn videos where they have uncovered hands, and dirty fingernails, and that I really don't like. It's not like being in the workshop.

I leave the house with sparkling nails, by mid day there is dirt under them, I work in a building that is 100 years old, is in a builders yard and we have vast amounts of plant out in the yard.

So judge away, you would be barking up the wrong tree.