Would you leave baby alone?

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I have agreed to go and pick up a parcel for a friend tomorrow. DS is 10 weeks. I am going to have to take my DH so someone can stay with the baby - the parcel is too big for me to take him in. This seems crazy. Could I lock the car and run in? I have only just thought of itm

So hang on your friend messed up and got the parcel delivered over 300 miles away. You have a 10 week old and have agreed to do a 1.5 hour round trip to pick up a parcel which isn’t yours? Does this friend have nobody else they could ask? Shouldn’t have your baby in a car seat than long anyway never mind leaving them in a car without you in it.

After a 45 minute journey I’d take the baby in with me. Someone will help you with the parcel. Otherwise your baby will be in their car seat for a long time.

If the car gets rear ended a mum sat in the driver's seat isn't going to make a lot of difference to the baby.

KT car seat no longer than 2hrs. 1.5 is fine.

Where are all these people in real life trekking across the tesco forecourt carrying a car seat and wrangling 2 other small children? I've never seen anyone getting kids out in a petrol station. And I would think they were crazy if I did.

For what it's worth I would leave a sleeping child in a car and pop into the local bakers...parked right outside and glass door/window. No harm done.

Totally fine, let's not start inventing new problems.

@mortifiedmama I can't find that information anywhere re rospa.

@SnuggyBuggy great logic.

No I would not leave a 10 week old baby alone. My DD does not do that wit( her 2 small children. Can't you put baby in pram and put parcel on pram? In future you need to think of th8gs like this until your DS is older and not volunteer. I think that is a big ask to drive for 1.5 hours to do a friend a favour when you have a baby. Leave her to sort out her own problems. You should not put her above your DS?

Just blatantly ask someone if you don't get offered.

You'll be stuck in the depot for ever because you won't be able to leave the baby for a single second. You'd best take a sleeping bag & picnic.

How is she putting her friend above her DS?

I hate all the guilt tripping that goes on on this site honestly.

She's doing her a favour and she's just pondering over the logistics.

Let's not all get carried away here.

A 1.5 hours round trip, for someone else's parcel?

Nah fuck that.

'Sorry friend, looks like that isn't going to be possible for me to collect after all'

Job done.

Sleeping baby in eye sight and locked car - yes I'd leave them for a couple of minutes.

Seriously what the actual fuck? Now I am getting accused of not prioritisng my DS?
I am so so close to PND. I am doing my absolute best - I am exhausted from trybg - and comments like that are fucking hideous. Shame on you.

It would probably make more sense, be safer, much less inconvenient and cheaper to have the parcel couriered

haunted thank you for being kind.

I do agree it's a big ask of someone with such a young baby and it's ok to say no

Can it not be re-delivered. Usually on the back of the red card it gives loads of options, including having it delivered to a local post office for a small fee.

OP please don't take some of these comments to heart.

You are only going on a drive to get a parcel honestly what a fuss.

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Play it by ear on the day, OP.

If you can get parked close to the door and there's little to no queue so you'll be fairly quick in and out, then leave him in the car. He will be absolutely fine and most likely won't even know you're gone. Despite what some people on MN would have you think, there are not child-snatchers and/or social services hiding behind every tree waiting to steal away unattended babies.

If it's busy or you can't get parked near to the door, then take him with you and ask for a hand with the parcel. If they can't carry it all the way to the car (some places won't for insurance purposes) ask them to carry it to the doorway. Put the baby in the car, then go back and get the parcel.

Can your friend not sort this out?
It is a big thing to do

Seriously love if you're close to PND don't take a 1.5h trip with a 10 week old to collect a parcel. For somebody else. It's the kind of thing that can push you over the edge.

The friend will have to make other arrangements, you can be honest about why. I reckon they don't know what they're asking.

Just say you changed your mind
You still can

I can't. It is a child's christmas present and it has sold out - she cant get it delivered.

I am so so close to PND. I am doing my absolute best - I am exhausted from trybg - and comments like that are fucking hideous. Shame on you.

And shame on the 'friend' who is piling such pressure on you. Like I said just tell her you are not able to do it. Some people are Cheeky Fuckers and the owner of the parcel fits that description perfectly.

Your friend needs to sort this out.

Might have missed upthread but why cant DH go by himself, or can you not leave baby for 1.5h with DH? I know you said baby is EBF but 1.5h isnt long. We did it when we had to register DD at the civic centre.