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Ever took an instant dislike to someone and been proven right?

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Mumshotel · 26/11/2018 19:03

There is a mum at my son's school who I took an instant dislike to. Sometime after her older children knocked my toddler to the floor running ahead of her. He was on the floor crying, she walked past with her youngest and instead of apologising or helping told her youngest to 'be careful not to fall over the boy'. She's basically Satan in my eyes now ha. I knew it from first impressions
Anyone else took an instant and unjustified dislike, then seen proof?

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MrsFionaCharming · 26/11/2018 19:55

A guy in a hobby club I’m part of. One of the first times we met, he walked behind me and did that hand-on-your-lower-back thing that men never do to other men. Instant dislike.

He then proceeded to date one of my friends, then break her heart by cheating with another of my friends, then break her heart by cheating with a third girl.

BoooForYou · 26/11/2018 19:59

Yep, a guy my DH worked with. He was just too nice you know. Too eager to please. He was flash as well but they were only doing factory work at the time.
Turned out he was robbing people on the sly. He even targeted our downstairs neighbour, he came over when we were out and the lovely old guy let him to have a cuppa as it was pouring with rain. He stole his wallet.
He got caught in the end.

Kemer2018 · 26/11/2018 20:11

Yes about twice i can think of.

  1. A mum at school. Right from reception. Never felt i could trust her always felt uneasy around her. Sadly, my DD was best pals with her DD right from reception to year 6. I kept her at arms length but never voiced my view to DD. A nasty incident in year 6 proved i was totally right. Dd and her child ceased being friends midway through year 6.

SIL met a new man online and my skin crawled when i met him.he offered to record my dd and friends in his "recording studio". I told him No right then. I refused to meet him again and sil hated me for it. The pair of them created lies about me. They said I'd called him a paedo (i had not)and threatened legal action. I've kept the txts. Also said her brother was a dogger and let his mates abuse her when young..by txt.
He chucked hot tea over fil when fil asked him to leave their house. Just to rile fil in the hope of a punch so he could sue him.
Never worked. Total con man, sponger, fantasist.
He moved in with her, only way she shifted his arse was to sell up. He evaporated into thin air.
I always trust my instincts.

Screamqueenz · 26/11/2018 20:19

Yes, so regularly that I absolutely trust my instinct now.

bumblebee39 · 26/11/2018 20:22

I wish I didn't but happens every time I get a bad vibe or think something doesn't add up.

I wish I paid attention to that feeling when it came to the men in my life not just the women...

Beamur · 26/11/2018 20:24

Every time!

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Mumshotel · 26/11/2018 20:24

Ewww horrible people there. Is it energy you pick up do you think?

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SemperIdem · 26/11/2018 20:27

Yes, more than once.

EightToSixer · 26/11/2018 20:41

Oh yes completely. Often it's quite some time before I realise why I'd taken and instant dislike to someone, so long that I doubt myself, but I always realise why in the end.

It works both ways with me too. Often I know as soon as I meet someone that we are going to be great great friends.

Stickmanslittleleaf · 26/11/2018 20:41

I have this thing where I get a 'thing' about people (too many things there I know) and I want to look at them but when I do the thought of them touching me repulses me. Like poor Aljaz off Strictly- I like him as much as the others but I want to look at him more and I have a strong feeling I don't want him to touch me. And a man in my nail shop, a man does my nails and I can't give a hoot about him but there's another man who doesn't do my nails ever but does do other people's and there's something that makes me want to look at him. I have a very, very strong feeling against him touching me. There's a woman in work I feel the same way about. It's weird because I don't get 'you're a bad person' vibes from any of them like I have done and been proven right, it's just a 'you mustn't touch me but I want to look at you' thing. I don't like people touching me in general but some people trigger a very odd response and I can't put my finger on it.

Stickmanslittleleaf · 26/11/2018 20:43

Sorry, that's not what you asked at all but I needed to get it off my chest!

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Mumshotel · 26/11/2018 20:45

I get the opposite feeling too. I've spotted someone when starting a new job etc and known we would be friends

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captainpantbeard · 26/11/2018 20:49

Yes I’ve had that ‘friends’ thing at first sight. It’s lovely!

Jellyonawonkyplate · 26/11/2018 20:50

Well I haven't been proved right yet but there's a mum at school who gives me the heebie-jeebies. I've come face to face with her maybe 3 times and each time she's stared at me like she wants to rip my eyes out and I've never even spoken to her. It's all bizarre but she gives me the absolute creeps.

Uummokay · 26/11/2018 20:50

Always! I keep it to myself as I don't want to be the smug arse who says " I told you so". But It really is instinctive and hard to explain when others are unable to see it. I always find that the people who you get a bad feeling about somehow know that you are on to them (Maybe that's all in my head). @stickmanslittleleaf I love your username!

ems137 · 26/11/2018 20:57

Quite a few times! DH accuses me of being rude when I just don't make any effort with these odd few people I take an instant dislike to. Every single time I have been proved right though!

My nana used to say she was an excellent judge of character, I like to think I get it from her

ManicUnicorn · 26/11/2018 21:03

Yes. It was also a man I was in a hobby group with. I was involved in the running of the group and had to help/buddy him at his first session, and I remember him looking at me and feeling a shudder down my spine. He looked at me like I was prey, as ridiculous as that sounds. From that moment on I avoided him and I would feel sick whenever I saw him, it was such a visceral reaction.

Fast forward a few months or so and another group member confides in me that he'd been sexually harassing her and sending her disgusting text messages. We had to ask him to leave. Then other people came forward and said they disliked him as well, but like me couldn't articulate why.

He has an unusual name and I fully expect to see him on the news one day for doing some awful to a woman.

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Mumshotel · 26/11/2018 21:03

I totally get that they are onto you. I have had people know I know they are bad news even if nothing much has been said. They know I know ha

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Fantasisa · 26/11/2018 21:05

I also get this and have been proven right in the past. There is a man in our small village who I find incredibly creepy and he makes my skin crawl but I can’t give examples here because they might be identifiable. Now I probably did something wrong because I specifically mentioned him to my DC in a ‘stay away from that man kind of way’ which was probably the wrong thing to do because he is also the father of a child at the school. But I decided that because he is often around I would mention that he is not a friend of the family etc so not to trust strangers.

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Mumshotel · 26/11/2018 21:08

There is a lady I have worked with on and off for over 14 years. First to arrive. Last to leave. Remembers everyone's birthdays and is overly nice to everyone about everything. Remembers sweet things about your kids activities and even if you have had your eye on something in a shop. But it's all to good. Too pure. Too ned Flanders. Actually myself and a colleague realised that she gives nothing away about herself and now we are convinced she will prob end up in prison committing a terrible offence one day. Despite the niceness there is an odd and creepy vibe and it's surely not sustainable. I don't trust her and I honestly have no reason not too. It's strange

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megletthesecond · 26/11/2018 21:11

yy, the Ned Flanders type always gives me the willies. Rarely a nice person underneath.

starlight45 · 26/11/2018 21:16

A school mum who later went to prison for a violent crime.
Another school mum who I found out had a Friday night cocaine club with a few other school mums. And I wasn't sad because I wasn't invited!!
Another school mum who's one dc has managed to bully both my dcs at the same time and same place. There's a three year age gap between my dcs!
Friend's dh who has broken the law in a bad way I can't share here or anywhere.
I'm quite a good judge of character most of the time. When I was younger I was crap at it and was a narcissist magnet.

NooNooHead · 26/11/2018 21:23

There is a young employee who works at my local McDonald’s and I am sure he is probably a v nice guy but for some reason he gives me the total creeps. I have never spoken to him properly or interacted with him in any way other than hand over my rubbish to him to dispose of when we baffles finished eating. There is just something ‘off’ about him that I can’t quite put my finger on.Hmm

SlatternIsTrying · 26/11/2018 21:23

As soon as I met my sister in law’s husband I knew he was a bad un. They had been together years at this point - I was the new person to the family as had just met my now DH.

A few years later the lies caught up with him and years of shady shady behaviour came to light.

NooNooHead · 26/11/2018 21:23

have not ‘baffles’! Stupid autocorrect 🙄😂

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