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Ever took an instant dislike to someone and been proven right?

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Mumshotel · 26/11/2018 19:03

There is a mum at my son's school who I took an instant dislike to. Sometime after her older children knocked my toddler to the floor running ahead of her. He was on the floor crying, she walked past with her youngest and instead of apologising or helping told her youngest to 'be careful not to fall over the boy'. She's basically Satan in my eyes now ha. I knew it from first impressions
Anyone else took an instant and unjustified dislike, then seen proof?

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MiddlingMum · 26/11/2018 21:27

Yes, a man I knew through a shared interest. He wanted to be too friendly, wanted to meet me separately to the rest of the people involved. I always refused and was careful never to be alone.

A couple of years later he was arrested for stalking.

Upoverunder · 26/11/2018 21:30

Yes, my Daughters life partner. He's an absolute bell end. I knew it then, and he's proved me right.

RitaFairclough · 26/11/2018 21:31

Mumshotel, I think your colleague might just be nice. If you have known her for 14 years and she hasn’t shown her nasty side yet, maybe she really doesn’t have one? That is a LOOOONG game she is playing!

I am hopeless at trusting my gut. I took against my best friend’s now ex-husband when I first met him. Decided I was wrong and felt bad about it for years. Then he proved my first instinct was right.

It’s hard to trust your gut though isn’t it? Especially for women, I think, when we have been trained to be nice to everyone.

Bigonesmallone3 · 26/11/2018 21:34

I think I'm quite a good judge of character and have been proved right a couple times..

daisychain01 · 26/11/2018 21:40

There is a lady I have worked with on and off for over 14 years. First to arrive. Last to leave. Remembers everyone's birthdays and is overly nice to everyone about everything. Remembers sweet things about your kids activities and even if you have had your eye on something in a shop. But it's all to good. Too pure. Too ned Flanders.

Never let a good deed go unpunished.

evilharpy · 26/11/2018 21:48

When I was about 17 I met someone who took an instant dislike to me - she thought I was stuck up (I’m not at all but I can be a bit socially awkward at times). We had lots of mutual friends so kept getting thrown together at various occasions and gradually became friends. Now 20 odd years on we’re more like sisters than friends. I’m just so glad she didn’t go with her initial feeling and avoid me like the plague!

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Mumshotel · 26/11/2018 21:49

Ha ha. Stop being so nice woman. Ha. Remember this thread tho when she is on the news. I'll be there giving my unjustified view ha.

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PawneeParksDept · 26/11/2018 22:00

Yes repeatedly and now I completely trust my instinct

Examples

Sitting with my uni group (mixed years) one of our number invited someone she knew to sit with us. Got a vibe immediately and from then on she repeatedly tried to freeze me out from the group. It took months after I'd actually GRADUATED for someone to snap and say "RACHEL you are only saying that because you HATE Pawnee" but by then I'd left

Recently, a woman started at my work in maybe February, but came last Christmas on a social visit. Something I couldn't put my finger on was off putting about her.

In May, a complaint was made about her. Not only was it not me I knew NOTHING about it. I endured 3/4 months of hostility and rudeness from her til the truth came out and she never apologised. The ins and outs I can't divulge, but I have lost any respect for her because of what she did and why. I dread working with her and I'm looking for a new job

BloomsButtons · 26/11/2018 22:01

This has happened to me. I met a woman through work who I would be working with on a short term basis. On our first meeting prior to our project I got a bad vibe but she was just so...lovely.

Turns out I was right, she was a wolf in sheep's clothing and made my time working with her a complete nightmare.

Our paths still cross but I will never work with her again if I can help it.

KenDoddsDadsDog · 26/11/2018 22:03

Yep , one of the nursery mama. Disliked on sight but was forced into a group of kids and mam activities . She sent a message about my DH to our WhatsApp group by mistake . Knew I was right and wish I’d been my usual instinctive self.

SauvingnonBlanketyBlanc · 26/11/2018 22:06

I've only ever truly disliked a couple of people without a reason.Dh former best friend and MIL boyfriend I just felt uneasy in their presence

DishranawaywiththeSpoon · 26/11/2018 22:11

This happens all the time. I think I am quite good judge of character. I don't think I'm easily manipulated if that makes sense so the smarmy, too nice people everyone else falls for I can see straight through.

SemperIdem · 26/11/2018 22:49

op I get the friends feeling too! And am rather wrong in that scenario either.

SemperIdem · 26/11/2018 22:49

*rarely not rather 😬

IncyWincyGrownUp · 26/11/2018 22:51

Yes. The wife of a friend. She is currently divorcing my ex. Fill in the gaps yourself.

Snowwontbelong · 26/11/2018 22:57

Not me but ddog. Instantly hated our neighbour when we first moved. Always did, growled at him through the window. Only him.
He murdered another neighbour a couple of years layer.
Dc know ddog decides if bf's /gf's get invited back!!
She also took a dislike to one of ds's friends.
He ended up in serious trouble for online bullying girls for indecent pics!

Taffeta · 26/11/2018 22:58

Many

One that springs to mind was an older acquaintance of DHs - a friend of his’ father. Arrogant, and wore loafers without socks in trousers. Never trust anyone that wears loafers without socks. Didn’t like him, at all.

A few months later he left his wife/ DHs friend’s mother and fucked off abroad with someone half his age. Yuk.

JuniorDetective · 26/11/2018 23:03

@Snowwontbelong wish I could borrow your dog! I've overridden my instincts too often and ended up burned. I'd love an external verification from a being with no axe to grind!

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Holidayshopping · 26/11/2018 23:13

She sent a message about my DH to our WhatsApp group by mistake

What did it say?!

BerriTerri · 26/11/2018 23:14

Sometimes, tbh more often than not I’m surprised my people I’ve trusted and known some time being pretty shitty.

nothanksbyenow · 26/11/2018 23:16

I went on a date with a friend of a friend, and it was the last date as I just thought he was trying too hard to be smooth and in control. I felt like I had to get away from him.
The friend who set us up ended up dating him... months later I found out he hit her, told her how to dress, convinced her to spend her savings on holidays and nice clothes for them both.
Current partner walked into a party and I just knew I had to find out if he was there alone. That was 10 years ago Smile

Ariela · 26/11/2018 23:45

At primary school there was 1 boy who was just...odd. Used to be verbally nasty and physically sometimes, when he thought he could get away with it, to the girls. Bit of a loner, never had a group of friends. Never liked him at all, and used to avoid him at all costs
Years (30+) later he was convicted of rape. I suspect he was probably abused as a child.

hellokittymania · 27/11/2018 04:15

Yes, and usually I'm right. My mother used to say that when I was little if the dog doesn't like someone or if I didn't like someone, she need to stay away.

Dhalandchips · 27/11/2018 04:30

I didn't listen to my friends who told me my xh was a wrong"un. 12 years later it all came out after we split. I was utterly smitten and besotted. I found out recently that my DM (sadly deceased some years ago) thought he was a wanker. I have learned my lesson!