Do you know how much your 11yr olds swear?

[pepperjack]

I've just watched a video of my sons friends and I'm horrified!

Yeah I wouldn't be surprised if my DD talked like a sailor once out of my earshot.

I've heard some very small children out and about at the park beside my house. The language coming from children as young as 4 is horrendous. (Out of their mum's earshot but within sight while they chat)

One of DS(12) classmates did a live Instagram video of himself swearing, it was all cunt, whore, fucker, bitch etc and some very derogatory bits about women in general, it was awful. But it was seen by another parent who contacted the child’s parents and told them (It wasn’t me).

Child no longer has a smartphone, his parents have bought him a cheap brick thing till he’s old enough to be trusted. I only know all this as the child’s DM told me.

I don't have an 11 year old, but in t'oldendays when I was at school 11 year olds swore a lot. It showed how grown up and cool we were.

More than I know! As long as she knows its not appropriate to do it in some situations e.g. to me or to teachers etc, I can't get too worked up about it. I have seen and read things posted by some of the lads and there are very strong swear words on there. I was quite surprised about that.

Yes, my 11 year old swears loads. He asked if he could swear around me because he wanted to “ be himself” with me. I said we could give it a try, but if I was uncomfortable I could ask him to stop. We talked about perAmeters , ie grandparents teachers and most other adults wouldn’t like it. Also the difference between swearing at someone and just swearing.
It’s been ok, I’ve not been triggered by it so far.

Mine is quite sanctimonious about my swearing.

I read my sons Instagram messages during a spot check and was at the language being used by children in his year. There was also an 11 year old talking about how she'd tried a vape that day, and had posted pictures of herself on her bed in a T-shirt and her pants in a "sexy" pose.

It's horrifying. And I'm quite a young mum, I didn't think I'd be shocked by the behaviour/language of 11 year olds given its not that long since I left school myself but I really, really was.

My DD doesn't have access to a lot of social media tbh, but I have bought music for her that is 'parental advisory' (and ones without the label that have had bad language as well, Dua Lipa I'm looking at you here) and told her that she'll hear worse at secondary.

Now she's at secondary, she does say she hears a lot of bad language!

None.

I know you’ll think I’m deluded but I know he doesn’t swear. He recently asked my to talk to his teacher as he was upset about the swearing from the older kids in the playground.

My 14 year old claims not to swear but I’m not falling for that one!

My girls are babies but I'm often shocked at how much younger kids swear. We live down the street from the local park and if you walk through there on a night there is always loads of i would say 7 to 16 year olds swearing and shouting. Even in the town centre. A new thing though is a griup of kisa standing outside the houses playing new monkey from like 15 years ago thinking is new shouting and screaming. I would be mortified if mine behaved in public like that.

My dd tells me she swears all the time at school. I have told her I don't want to hear her swearing and family and family friends do not want to hear it either. She does forget and will swear at home and after a warning for the first time in a particular instance will get money deducted from weekly pocket money if she continues.
But i have said if that is how she chooses to speak at school with her peers that is her choice. I am a bit disappointed to be honest as I do not swear or blaspheme. And she has been brought up not to swear and blaspheme but there is not much i can do about it when she is at school with her peer group, unless I have an email from school about her swearing at staff.

I've just sat and watched about 20 minutes worth of video.
I'm really shocked. It's every other word for some of them. Ds has just moved to this school. I don't know the parents well enough to mention anything. They were screaming, running round in the garden. There's no way the parents didn't hear that. Where do they hear this stuff?

Why am I getting stressed about the odd f word on a YouTube video if this is the way they talk?

Alas, they mostly hear it from their parents. I remember taking out a friends dd when she was 8 or so, and she swore about something not working - but the phrase was exactly what her dad would have said, and I know he doesn't moderate his language around his dd.

We have a no swearing rule at home, and 12 year old ds probably swears away from home, but I only swear in extremis personally

I genuinely don’t think my 11yo swears. If he does I’d be very shocked if it was worse that an occasional shit. He gets pretty heat up on fortnite etc and can get shouty, the worst I’ve heard is dammit, and 90% of the time it’s

He listens to a lot of sweaty youtube.

I check my son's WhatsApp regularly, and the use of, slag, bitch and hoe, by his friends, is quite depressing...

Another you will probably think naive, but my almost 12yo doesn't swear - she thinks the language of the y10 kids in school is dreadful. I've not encountered her peers swearing either, they use some derogatory words like nerd and dweeb, but not actual swears.

Long may I live in blissful ignorance!

DD doesn't swear, she does a kind of nervous giggle if someone else does. Her friend who's still 10 liberally sprinkles "fuck" into conversation when she's not at school, never at school though. The HT's terrifying, which might have something to do with it!

a lot and what's worse is they don't seem to filter it when I am around. They watch it in school though.

I’ve never really told mine not to swear, just that there are times and places where swearing isn’t appropriate. I know they know the words, and will hear all sorts, but it’s their own judgement if and when they use it.

I don’t have a problem with swearing in general, as expletives. What i can’t stand as pp mentioned, is the use of such words to put people down- the attitudes of some teenage boys for example referring to girls and women as cunts and whores. That’s not swearing, it’s language along the lines of using n***, it’s meant to hurt and oppress, and is hate speech in essence.

My 15yo said shit in a conversation with me at the weekend. The look of horroebwheb he realised who he was talking to

I doubt he's the worst offender but I'm certain his language is different with friends to it is at home.

You think 11 year old are bad? My 3yo (from the few times me and dp have sworn and what he's heard in TV)
He come out with the following -
Shut up
Fuck sake
Fucking hell
Fucking damn
And the otherday when his grandmother visited us, she offered to vuy us lunch and asked him what he wanted, his reply was "please can I have a burger with some fucking cheese"/
Its embarresing but funny somewhat too

Its embarresing but funny somewhat too
no it's really not funny. You need to stop swearing around him

I was brought up not to swear in front of family, and still wouldn't swear in front of my parents, we've brought the kids up the same. I'm quite sweary amongst adults only though.

Doubtless they hear it all enough (they're 13 and 11), but youngest gives us a horrified look if someone swears around us (or on TV), so I don't think he could bring himself to swear (yet...). Eldest tells us there have been a couple of new kids at school (y9) who are really shocked that they don't swear at school (amongst themselves rather that at teachers ). Not sure I completely believe that, but equally no need for her to say it to me.

Very naice BIL swears in front of all the kids in normal adult conversation and gets told off by his DC (17 & 13). My 2 can barely close their mouths in shock.

In his defence he wasn't swearing, so I think if I just reinforce the no swearing it might be ok.
I know it might seem ott, but I just don't want to hear it.
I honestly just think it's so unnecessary.
I do swear occasionally, but it's easily controlled, and never in front of the children.
I actually want to wrap him up and protect him from all the horrible things in the world, but not quite sure how to go about it!