Do you know how much your 11yr olds swear?

[pepperjack]

I've just watched a video of my sons friends and I'm horrified!

He doesn't swear. We've talked loads about how it's not cool or cleaver etc etc and we are a non swearing household so he's never heard me swear.. bar 'bloody hell ' once. Of course I swear when he's not around etc.

He's not on any social media and I said no to him being in any WhatsApp groups for now unless he really wanted to be in them. And he didn't. So will allow as soon as he really wants to

I can hear him right now playing Xbox with his mates and his swear word of choice appears to be 'BEEEPPP' shouted with frequency

I'm not naive and I know children swear. I've just spent a lot of time chatting with him about how we articulate ourselves and how we don't swear in front of teachers or family or in the street etc and he's absorbed some of that clearly as I've yet to hear him

If he was in any groups where the words slag and bitch were being bandied about, I'd be removing him from that group. At 11 it's your job as a parent in my opinion

My 14 ye old has a mouth like a sewer with his friends, he's less inclined at home but does drop the odd f bomb, he does at least manage to be ever so polite around his drs at the hospital thankfully.
My 12 yr old is starting it, but since he's started high school (and swearing) his stammer and selective mutism has all but disappeared (make of that what you will) they're not directing it me though which is a cut off point, if any of them ever swore at me it would be game over player one.

@Lunalula it's not funny, no. I'd be looking at my parenting in your situation.

Just had a big chat and he was quite open about it. He reckons about half the class swear, half don't. He says it's all very different to his old school. More arguing, not being nice, fighting. Grammar is bad (he noticed it!)

Oh joy!

I don't mind them swearing really (teens) but, I have a rule. If they use a swear word in my earshot, they must understand the meanings of the word and be prepared to discuss it with me in a sensible manner.

1 lengthy family discussion about the word 'twat' (which ds tried to pass off as the plural of twit) has pretty much resulted in no swearing from either of them for some time.

My DC are 12-15. They don’t swear around me, it’s basic respect. They’ve been taught that if they hear it they don’t repeat it...

That said, crap seems to be a normal part of their vocabulary these days so I’m sure it’ll progress.