At what point would you worry about a grown adult not being home/somewhere when they say they’d be there?

[DonaldDucksTowel]

DP is nearly an hour and a half late home from work now
I haven’t spoken to him since around 11am but he last looked at WhatsApp at 3pm
His phone is now off

I’m getting worried but don’t know if I’m being a bit OTT, he is a grown man after all and I do have a tendency to overthink
At what kind of time would you start to really worry?

He’s just rang!

And I’m a bit embarrassed

He had a conference/meal/activity thing with work this afternoon and into the evening
He turned his phone on as he left and had lots of missed calls and messages from me pop up and he’s just rang me frantically thinking something had happened 🤦🏻‍♀️

I vaguely remember him mentioning this thing weeks and weeks ago although I’m sure he didnt tell me a specific date - and he definitely could’ve reminded me or wrote it on the calendar on the fridge where every other thing goes!
Love that I’m supposed to remember all his shit as well as my own 🙄

I feel a bit of an idiot now

Thank you all for being lovely - and for talking me out of ringing round looking for a DP who wasn’t even missing 🤦🏻‍♀️

Ok first of all check for travel disruptions/accidents that might have affected his route.

If nothing, I would contact anyone he is close to and sees/speaks to regularly if you can just to see if they've heard anything.

Then I would call 101 for advice, and go from there.

Sorry this is happening, the worrying is awful

Ah sorry X post. Great news! Don't be embarrassed

Ha ha ohh I'm so pleased for you OP! Don't be embarrassed, it shows just how much you love and care for your DP. Thank god he rang before the police helicopter was out to find him 🤣

aww glad that he's well and with you again soon!
he really could have mentioed this to you this morning, couldn't he!

So happy he’s ok!

Put a calendar on your Christmas list

At least he knows you care!

So glad he’s okay!

BifsWif we’ve got a bloody big magnetic whiteboard one on the fridge!

Seriously redsummershoes would it have killed him to just say ‘don’t forget I’m home late tonight, have a good day!’ 🙄 bloody idiot!

Eurgh I don’t want him to know I actually care 😏

Oh love, glad he is home safe, now get yourself a big 🍷 and de stress, killing him can wait til tomorrow 😂

Glad he's turned up

Happy ending!

We have an app on our phone called FamCal, it's synced to both of our phones, and whenever one of us adds an event in to it, it appears on both phones. It's colour coded too so you know whether it's yours, his, kids or everyone's for example.

We had wall calendars and diaries, but this is the one thing we've found that actually works, because it's always on us and we can update it as soon as something crops up

Google Calendars does the trick for us

Don't feel embarrassed, he's safe that's all that matters

What time did he say he'll actually be home? (Having finally rung you.)

I'd have been anxious too, tbh.

Glad he’s ok op :-) my husband (boyfriend at the time) went missing for 2 hours after work, phone switched off... my mind thought of only 2 things, car accident old affair... and I actually considered which one would be the better option and I chose affair!! Thankfully it was neither, he went out for a beer with his boss after work phone died and lost track of time.. I even rung his parents who he was living with at the time who told me I was silly worrying... he got a right earful from me once i found out he was ok!

Or, not old!!!

OMG this happened to me last week! Including the tram bit! DS walked to the tram stop to see if there was any sign of him, we tried his phone, his office, he has no friends etc...

He was out after work with colleagues, told me a couple of weeks ago apparently...

Autumn he rang me as he was leaving, he was home half an hourish later
He swears he told me we’d discussed this - we bloody didn’t 🙄

He’s gloating now and going “aww did you miss me?” 😏 fucker

Brilliant 👍🙂