Dh feeling pushed out as both my dc in bed with me.

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I think he’s over romantisizng the idea of two little cherubs snuggled up to me whereas the reality is I’m just getting back to sleep (must put the bastard phone down), I’m lying on a towel after the baby puked feeling the baby sick soaking in, halfway off the bed knowing the the 5yr old will be awake soon and probably wake up the 7m old. What exactly is he missing out on?!

Of course he’s allowed to feel sad, and voice his own emotions as part of a couple abs a family... but he’s not allowed to push his needs onto you and compete for you on the same level as the children.

If he’s doing that, that’s utterly pathetic behavior which should be given short shrift!

I would tell him that unless he acts like an equal part of an adult couple, and pitches in to actually help resolve the situation in a useful way, then all he is doing is whining like a jealous infant, and demanding you click your fingers and find a solution on your own to a difficult situation that is exhausting you as it is.

Of course if he’s willing to pitch in and actually help... and that means properly help not just say ‘ah well 5yr old won’t come to me so I can’t do anything except whine about how hard done by I am’ ... well if he’s willing to help more than that, then I take it all back :)

I feel for him. It's not much fun being pushed out your own bed!
The baby doesn't need to be in the bed with you and the 5 year old gets put back in her own bed when she comes through. Then the poor sod can get his bed back! You don't oust your husband from his own bed every night. If it was a one off it wouldn't be bad, but if this is every night you need a rethink.

Well not much changes in areas of life does it. Poor menz feelz are supposed to be put to the top over everything else, bless the poppet not wanting to sleep by himself but little kids are expected too ridiculous!

Is there space to put the 5yo's bed in your room next to your bed? Honestly 4 in a king size is not comfy; the best we've managed is if me and do "top and tail" and have each other's feet in our faces. It's the only way to fit us all in!

I absolutely hate sleeping with my children! Only do it when they are ill. I think your DH is NBU to want to sleep with you in his own bed.

In theory I agree with him, in practice I wouldn't keep sending the children away. My first slept in his crib from birth, dc2 is 6 months old and he will only sleep in there a few hours before he has to come into bed with me. I'm not battling to get him into the cot in the early hours, distressing him and depriving me of sleep.

Will baby be moving into another room soon? I wouldn't want him sleeping in the same room as a child while he's still smoking. It isn't good for either of them, not great for you either really.