Cheer me up, I've just been sacked

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Just what I needed on a Monday morning. Totally didn't see it coming. Not a great start to the week!

Thank you . It was just such a shock. It was their mistake to offer me the job, it's my first time back at work in 5 years since having DD and it was just too much. And thank you to the pp who said it's not my fault, you're right. I just need to remember that

Wow! You must have done something really bad for them to do that?

Not necessarily. My dh has twice been sacked, once for causing a ruckus amongst some dinosaurs who didn't like the fact that he had just been promoted over them so the management let dh go to keep the peace (he was still within his probationary period) and once because the company was taken over by an American firm and they wanted to appoint all their own men so all the existing managers went. Sacking isn't always for incompetence or misdemeanour. My dh is still unemployed from that second sacking, 6 months on. It sucks. I am having to do a low paid job for a boss I utterly despise, just to keep the family going. I would almost prefer to be sacked but I appreciate not everyone would feel the same way.

OP, I can guess how you are feeling but it sounds like it was for the best long term? I hope you find something less stressful and more manageable very soon.

That sucks, OP - even if it's a blessing in the long run by getting you out of a situation that wasn't working for you, it's never nice to get the boot.

Onward and upward!

I've been sacked twice in my working life! Both times it stung but the fit just wasn't right. Onwards and upwards op.

The same thing happened to me a few weeks back OP. I was let go out of the blue and yes, it really knocks your confidence. I totally understand how you feel.
for you OP

That’s gutting for you OP but by your own admission this wasn’t the job for you. In time you’ll see this as a lucky escape even though it hurts now

You both may need CC if you ever dump him.

You surely meant

You both may need CC when you dump him.

Hold on to the 'tiny bit of relief' OP and let it grow.

They made a mistake, you suffered for it, and now you don't have to any more.

Also, you've learnt something important about saying 'no' when you go for your next interview (which you must have impressed your recent firm at, for them to offer you a more senior position).

Take today for yourself, try to focus on the freedom of being out of a stressful environment and then start looking again tomorrow. You will feel better when you have got back on the horse.

I wouldn't look on it as being sacked. The main reason for a probation period is to check that the fit is right, and if it isn't then either side can pull out of the agreement with comparatively little hassle & fuss. I've been terminated during probation due to fit in the past, and resigned during probation for the same reason.

Could you really see yourself there going forwards, or maybe you would have left further down the line anyway?

I wouldn't look on it as being sacked. The main reason for a probation period is to check that the fit is right, and if it isn't then either side can pull out of the agreement with comparatively little hassle & fuss

^^ I strongly agree with this and that would be the way to phrase it when you next have an interview. Mutual agreement that the job was considerably more senior and complex than the original job specification etc.

Sympathies, OP.
BUT it sounds like they have done you a favour - they would have broken you. Hope that you find something much more suitable soon.
You are allowed to feel fed up for today, have all the chocolate you may need and then crack on tomorrow!
Good luck for future endeavours!

Sorry to hear that OP it could be a good thing though- one door closes and all that..

Try to keep positive

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So sorry ok. Make sure you have had a nice warm drink. It isn’t you at all. Like some of the posters have said, it is explainable in future job interviews. Your health is so important and being in such a stressful environment would have affected it.

Sorry to hear this OP, I'm sure something more suitable will come along. It's not your fault , sometimes these things happen.

Ghoul
Wtaf, take the job and if he doesn't want to use childcare tell him to drop his hours to care for dc.

Yes;some jobs are not right for everyone
What sort of job was it ❓
This makes me think about the positives of having horrible things happen in life -having all the bad traumatic experiences in life has made me resilient and so I would probably be able to handle situations that other people can't
Don't feel bad about it -there are jobs out there for you
Best of luck

Hey OP-you have had some useful responses on this thread and I wanted to second some of the things pp's have said. Whilst it must have come as a very unpleasant shock, please don't let it get you down - onwards and upwards to better things, here's hoping for a job that you really enjoy

That's shit. Was it one incident or just an overall impression of you that forced their decision?
A return to work after a period of not working is stressful in itself, without adding to that a massively responsible job.
Is it in social work by any chance?

It was for the NHS. Yes I was in a probationary period and I was feeling a bit overwhelmed with what the job involved. General consensus was that whilst I could do the job itself, and was doing it well, I was so engrossed in doing it 'right' that I was coming across as cold. No, I was just trying to not cock up the job! Ah well. I'll learn from it in one way or another. Giving myself the rest of today to wallow and will then pull myself together and start again tomorrow

Hello, just adding my voice to those saying that you weren't sacked as such, just they made a mistake employing you in the first place, but of course, it is still an awful thing to happen on a Monday morning! I've been sacked myself, unexpectedly, though during my probationary period, from a job I hated. It was so long ago, I can't remember feeling anything else but relief, and I can't remember what I did next, either! Could you not say to them, what about the job I originally applied for? Though I suppose it's gone already and also might be unpleasant for you to be seen within the company to have gone down to something less senior.
For future interviews, maybe you can say that it wasn't the job you'd applied for, but that during the probationary period both sides realised that you'd have been better suited to the job you originally applied for? Or something (I'm sorry, I've been out of the job market so long that that is probably not helpful at all.)
Good luck in the future!

Sorry, OP, cross-posted with your last - I imagine things are done differently within the NHS, anyway.

I agree with the general consensus. I have been on the edge of getting sacked for the same reasons (being hired into a job that was way over my head and struggling with it) and saved myself through a step down move into a different department where I thrived. So don't beat yourself up, breathe, dust yourself off and move on!

So sorry you've had a crappy Monday, OP. If it helps, judging by my (admittedly small) sample pool of friends who work for the NHS, there are often issues with recruitment, staffing levels, management support etc.

Though what you've just said (that you were doing the job well but they said you were cold) is very odd. For me if there was some question about how you appeared to others, that would be something to discuss and hopefully work on as self awareness. It's not really a performance issue in most jobs.

I was sacked during my probationary period three times in a row, in quick succession, at the start of the recession.

I got really down, then did some soul searching and realised I hadn’t really done anything properly wrong at any of the jobs. People just were very threatened and scared then and I was the easiest person to get rid off when they saw a drop in business/income.

So I retrained and set up my own business (masseuse) as I didn’t want to be subject to that again. Yes, a client might drop me due to money worries, but it won’t be all of them all at once, and I have more control over pricing and incentives.

Muddy I was warned by one of my colleagues to be careful because it was very much a case of 'if your face doesn't fit...'
I was so scared of messing up, and the potential impact that could have that I was very focused on the job. I certainly didn't intend to come across as cold or unapproachable, I was just worried about screwing up!