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Has anyone done a Ancestry DNA test??

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loopylass13 · 17/11/2018 21:39

Has anyone done a Ancestry DNA test?? How did it go? Did you get any answers in terms of relatives? Whether close and distant etc. Please tell me your experiences.

I am debating whether to do a test myself. One question - wondering if females can only trace the mother line and if males can only trace the father line, or whether the test links to all family no matter the gender?

Thank you x

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Linnet · 04/01/2019 21:49

I would like to do a DNA test, I have a few brick walls in my tree and I wonder if it might help. But I’m a bit worried about one of these companies holding my DNA and what hey could do with it in the future.

KingfordRun · 04/01/2019 22:05

I think you are more at risk with a supermarket club card. If climate changes you can choose to delete your DNA from system & opt out of storing it.

Cauliflowersqueeze · 04/01/2019 22:14

Does it show both sides of your family?

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KingfordRun · 04/01/2019 22:19

Yes - it can identify a shared common ancestor on either maternal or paternal side approx 5-7 generations back. Sometimes further back. The closer the ancestral cousinhip connection the more DNA shared.

StarryGazeyEyes · 04/01/2019 22:30

NC to ask - there is a question over whether my sibling and I have the same father. Would an ancestry test be able to answer this if we both took it?

WhyDidIEatThat · 04/01/2019 22:32

Yes, you’d come up as ‘close family/half siblings’ or potentially ‘first cousins’. I’ll screenshot

WhyDidIEatThat · 04/01/2019 22:40

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WhyDidIEatThat · 04/01/2019 22:41

Great redacting there 🙈

StarryGazeyEyes · 04/01/2019 22:42

Thanks so much - that is incredibly helpful

KingfordRun · 04/01/2019 23:06

That wasn’t AncestryDNA, their cousin matching ‘science’ is very sound as this thread proves.

Graphista · 05/01/2019 00:03

While I find the idea fascinating (I'd love to know why my family of supposedly predominantly Irish-scots are SO dark - olive skin, dark almond eyes, full lips, almost black very curly hair - except me! Redhead, White freckly skin, thin lips, small eyes wtf!) the idea of a commercial company owning my DNA info concerns me. Especially given that duplicating DNA is now possible and the potential for misuse by con artists or even govt is deeply disturbing!

I also wonder if people doing this are fully prepared to discover:

Their parents aren't their parents (there's a stat that there's a high number of men raising children they don't know aren't theirs) an affair is bad enough - what if you find out you're the product of a rape? Or even incest?

Their grandparents aren't theirs (very common in my parents age group and older for babies born "out of wedlock" to be claimed to be the maternal grandparents child and the mother described as their aunt)

Their background isn't what they thought - I think some in denial racists could be in for a shock!

To discover relatives they didn't know about who were institutionalised and "forgotten" for a variety of reasons.

I've known a few people find out other ways that their aunt is actually their mum and their parents grandparents and it's caused all kinds of heartache.

I've known one person find out due to medical issues that their dad isn't their dad and their mums sworn them to secrecy! Which has placed a huge burden on them.

I also know a family who through one tracing the family tree through traditional means discovered a relative with what we now call severe learning disabilities was still alive, none of the rest of the living family knew about them and at the time were living in an institution. They'd not even had a visit for decades. It changed the family's view of certain "lovely" relatives who it was discovered knew about and ignored this relative.

When you go looking...you never know what you'll find!

I'm also concerned that adopted people or people who grew up in care may try and use these kits to trace their biological family and it could potentially put them at risk, certainly of emotional harm because there's no counselling support in place to deal with the results.

Anyone who watches "who do you think you are?" On a regular basis knows that family lore is often wrong - a sort of inter generational Chinese whispers thing occurs. 5 X great granny once holidayed in France becomes "we're descended from French nobility" 😂

On the other hand a friend of mines dad has done their family tree - normal working class family - turns out they ARE related to the current Royal family, and not as distantly as you might think!

"Any scandals uncovered would be interesting not upsetting." Are you certain that applies to your relatives too?

"it had a warning on the box saying that if you or a family member have ever committed a serious crime then it is not advisable" might not be advisable for the criminal - useful for police though. I'm willing to bet most rapists, paedos & murderers that haven't yet been caught aren't going around telling people even relatives what they've done! I have no sympathy for the criminals but feel sorry for families who will then discover this truth and possibly even be approached by police.

That BBC article is FULL of cautionary tales!

"On a fertility site I used to be a member of there were a significant number of people who didn’t plan to tell their donor conceived child about the use of a donor. I think that is untenable in these days of DNA testing and as it’s increasingly likely that medical treatments will be targeted based on various genes etc." Totally agree!

"as I thought Jewish applies to religion not race?" It's arguably both I believe.

The donor eggs/sperm thing, it's great that people struggling with infertility can get this help but I've always wondered how those involved can feel remotely confident that genetic sexual attraction issues can be avoided.

"They all have privacy policies." I can see these easily being set aside for criminal investigations. Surely it would simply be a case of getting a warrant for the information.

Mloo the post above answers your question really - medical info! You want just anyone knowing your genetic medical info?

GrimDamnFanjo · 05/01/2019 00:34

I've done the Ancestry autosomal dna test and my dad agreed to do a ydna test for the international surname group I'm a member of.
I'd been working on my tree for almost 20 years and the ancestry tests have helped to make some connections. At the moment I can't uncover a paper trail to connect to some dna connections which makes me suspect a potential skeleton in the closet.
My dads ydna test cost several hundred pounds and was very detailed and interpreted by a group of experts. My paternal line connects to vikings from norway pre1066.
The Golden State killer was tracked and arrested last year after a relative took a dna test and uploaded the results to Gedmatch an open source dna database. Police had uploaded the killers dna sometime previously and this was enough to enable them to find him. I think we will see more of this in the years to come...

lljkk · 05/01/2019 01:02

Anyone into family history should know that 50%+ of their traditional family history tales are fairy stories. Using ordinary tracing methods (not DNA), I found a forsaken sibling on DH's side; also scandals of men running off with other women (abandoning own wives). A zillion children died before adulthood. I can take it.

DD has an ancestor who was adopted as a baby out of a London workhouse in about 1840. Now that WOULD be interesting if we found a trace for who his people were.

I assume ancestry is like FTDNA; if someone is your double 4th cousin they get indicated as your 2nd cousin. Makes finding real connections confusing.

WhyDidIEatThat · 05/01/2019 01:04

Graphista -I don’t think you can prepare yourself for many of those outcomes you describe, it surprised me quite how bothered I was about some of the discoveries made along the way. First the extent of inbreeding in certain strands, it really turned my stomach even though that very lack of genetic diversity makes family trees easier to build Hmm and of course while it’s understandable that minority groups will intermarry to preserve religious identity etc it’s just something else to see your predecessors marrying their first cousins over and over again

then, despite myself, a deep and embarrassingly immature disappointment in some ancestors for so often being on the Wrong Side - in conflicts and so on

No regrets though, except maybe wish I hadn’t gone for the health reports with 23&me.

I do love matching with various of the projects on sites like ftdna, some of them (like the Lost colony) will probably never lead anywhere useful but others like the surnames or geographic/tribal projects might

Graphista · 05/01/2019 01:20

Graphista -I don’t think you can prepare yourself for many of those outcomes you describe

Exactly - which is why I think the ease and lighthearted approach/advertising if these things I think is wrong.

"I've always wanted to go to Lisbon" well you didn't need to do a DNA test and possibly find out your mother cheated on the "father" you adored to do so - just go!

Spotsbeforemyeyes · 05/01/2019 01:37

I don't know who my dad is.

My mum died 42 years ago

She'd had a son that she told us died. I have reason to believe that he didn't die but I don't even know his name.

Would something like this help?

SouthernSeafront · 05/01/2019 01:40

Took the 23and me one which appears to be the best on the market in my opinion. It was amazing, very insightful. Bought another one for my SO & even his Nan! Haha

I wasn't sure who my bio father was, so this really helped me with that too. Was able to use the information to do some digging!

KingfordRun · 05/01/2019 07:57

Spots - you could likely identify your Dad with work and in time. Your mother’s son would need to be on the database or one of his descendants.

Ancestry has the biggest database, something like 15 million to 23&Me’s 2-3 million. Anyone looking for relatives needs to test at AncestryDNA/23andme/My Heritage & FTDNA. The latter you can upload raw data to from the former. Each will give you a bit more data to help.

Birdie6 · 05/01/2019 08:16

My neighbour did his, and he was matched up with a daughter who he'd fathered 40 years ago. It was an amazing coincidence that she was doing her family tree at the same time as him , and they got a match. They actually featured on a television show about genetic matching .

DonutCone · 05/01/2019 10:37

I have a first cousin match!! I don't have any cousins at the moment so this is amazing and will hopefully let me work out who my Grandfather is.

Note to all. In the 40's you could Father a child and do a runner. No more. Your descendants will track you down from your very DNA.m

WhyDidIEatThat · 05/01/2019 10:43

Oh my goodness! So exciting. Do they have a public tree? Can you glean anything via which matches you have in common?

LittleCandle · 05/01/2019 10:48

I did one and it was really interesting. It confirmed a link between myself and a previously unknown cousin on my DF's side and I got back in touch with a cousin from DM's side who I have not seen since I was very young. She also gave me a head's up as to why I couldn't find a set of great-great grandparents and we are going to meet up to discuss it all.

To be fair, I didn't expect any skeletons to come tumbling out of closets and none have. If I had thought there might be any, I would have thought long and hard about doing it.

BadlyAgedMemes · 05/01/2019 11:26

I would be really really interested in doing this, but the idea of a commercial company having my DNA has so far been putting me off. Also, my mum has expressed her wish we not do these tests... (which makes me more curious, to be honest).

I think I have my family tree fairly well mapped out from paper sources, but there are some branches that have gone dark. Eg a great aunt had a child out of wedlock, who was placed into adoption. DF has a feeling he heard the child had gone to live in another country, which seems a bit odd. Also several people moved abroad to Australia and Canada in the early 1900s (and one into Soviet Union as soon as it was formed, for some reason), and while I think my DGM still had some contact with some in the 1960s, it would be interesting to find if I have living (although a bit distant) relatives there now.

Another thing that interests me is my grandfather, who by all accounts was a womanising cockwomble, and left my DGM when their children were tiny. He had a few separate, legitimate families, but I'd be interested if my DF actually has/had some more secret siblings around. I don't think DF would want to know things like this, though...

DonutCone · 05/01/2019 12:58

I would do any genetic test if a relative told me not to! There is no good reason for you not to want someone else to do one.

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