Friend lied about her wedding!

[Tillytoes1]

Hi,
I have a really good friend who I have been friends with since our children were 5 (they’re now 12), we had pregnancies 6 weeks apart and spent a lot of time together and also I’ve been there for her during her grief when she had her miscarriage and also when her brother died suddenly and always have made time for each other for a coffee etc. Last year I knew she was getting married to her partner, which she had told me had taken place in her home country, as she said she didn’t want a big wedding and only wanted close family there. Last night I saw a post which someone had shared with her on Facebook and she had actually got married locally with many of her friends and family present, some being friends I also know who we both met through our children’s school.
I am so puzzled why she felt the need to lie about her wedding, which I can only assume that she did so because she didn’t want us present on her big day, she even showed me pictures of her wedding dress before the big event.
I honestly don’t know what to think? Should I mention it when I see her next?
Has this friendship been one big lie and she actually doesn’t like being around me?
I’m not sure if I’m over-reacting but I just don’t understand why she lied to me about her wedding, I understand if she didn’t want me there on her big day but why lie to me about the whole thing.

Amazed that OP is getting comments like she is 'desperate' and 'chippy' - her close friend completely invented a fake wedding to conceal her actual celebration!

Who on earth wouldn't be confused/surprised at least - I for one would be upset. I'd just phase her out OP, life's too short for that kind of headfuck.

@MyKingdomForBrie. Exactly. Well put!

But she doesn't have to choose to totally phase out friendship , just knowing that will naturally build some space in & downgrade friend to "bit of a liar, not close friend, meet up only if it sounds fun and friendship has legs"

Simply comment on the photos ‘looks as though you had a lovely day. You look beautiful’ or some other similar neutral remark. Then wait for her to get in touch.
Forget the class thing.
Forget trying to fathom out why she has behaved the way she has.
You will probably never find out the real reason for sure anyway.
Unless she makes contact with you and tries to offer some explanation that seems plausible, honest and genuine, I would just cool things off.

But the comment will make sure she’s aware why you don’t want to be friends any more.

How do you usually contact each other? Is it likely she'll be texting soon about a coffee?

When did you last meet up / have contact?

Is it at all possible (clutching at straws here) that she got married abroad but had a reception locally, and your invitation got lost in the post or she thought she'd invited you verbally?

If not, I suppose the grown up thing to do would be to say nothing and gradually fade out the friendship. I'd personally be tempted to say something (I've seen your wedding photo, thought you got married abroad but it looks like here??) in the hope that it might make her feel bad, but I doubt you'll get a satisfactory explanation beyond some guff about numbers.