Would your DP have come home?

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About an hour ago, someone tried to open our side door. Thankfully it was locked. Door is at the end of our drive in a quiet close, so unlikely to be someone just wandering past. Really made me and the dog jump. Dog spent ages pacing around before settling down. I’m home alone with 2 DC’s asleep in bed. DP is at the pub. He’d been messaging me so I mentioned what had happened. He’s not drinking, has the car with him so could easily come home. He hasn’t. I’m a big girl and not easily frightened. DP often works away so I am used to being home alone. I checked on DC’s and checked all doors and windows are locked. For info, there have been a few break ins nearby recently, one where the family was at home and were assaulted by the intruders. Whilst I didn’t ask him to come home, I think maybe he should have done anyway. What would your DP have done?

He'd be home in a heartbeat. He wouldn't think twice.

Stayed in the pub probably. As would I, if it was the other way round (more likely in our family 😂) It is a shocking thing to happen, but what more could he do that you haven’t already? Maybe call police though if there has been a spate recently.

DP would have been home like a shot (his words, he's just read the OP).
Especially given the fact that there have been similar occurrences in the area.
And if I was out and he messaged me that I'd have been home like a shot as well...

Yes. He would (and did when it happened to me).

That sounds scary op.
I would hope he would come home, not much would bring him out of the pub but I think that would.

Yeah head have run home if he had to. That’s a horrid thing to happen. Oh and I would do the same for him too.

I've just asked my husband (read him your OP) and he said he would.

Hoping you are feeling OK after this unpleasant experience .

He’s just messaged to say he’s on his way. Probably because it’s closing time! I’m slightly irritated that he could easily have come home and chose not too.

Yep, dh would come home, I can't be arsed going downstairs and asking him, but I know 100% he would.

Thank you Screaming. I’m ok. Dog is curled up next to me and I haven’t heard anything else.

He’s home and being an arse about it. He says if I’d wanted him home I should have asked. I think he should have wanted to come home regardless of whether or not I asked.

I agree he should have wanted to - but you also could have asked.

Somebody tried to break into your house, with you and two children in it, and this was his reaction?

I find that so bizarre.

He sounds like he doesn’t believe you that it happened or that you misheard something

Did you call the police? I would have done - non urgent number. Perhaps he’s thinking it wasn’t serious as you didn’t Phone local police.

No, mine wouldn't. But he's a selfish idiot!

I'm a grown up. If I was scared, I would have rung the police. And yes, if you wanted him to come home then why not just say that?

On balance, with the local break ins, DH would have come. But you should have asked.

Would have freaked me out.

I would have told him not to bother to come home & he would have come anyway. He'd be more freaked than me.

Thanks for all your replies. For those asking, I didn’t call the police. Someone tried the handle and the door was locked. If they’d made a serious attempt to get in, of course I’d have called them. DP probably would have come home if I’d asked. Eventually! But he has form for being selfish. Obviously he doesn’t think he is, which is why I asked what your DP’s would have done.

I think mine would probably have come home in the circumstances you've described, but I think he would possibly have asked me if i wanted him to come home first and then based it on that.

Yes dh would have come home immediately. He probably would have brought friends with him to help deal with it if there was someone still trying to get in.

How scary for you op and I'm not surprised you are questioning your dps actions. It does seem uncaring.

People saying call the police like they’d have attended immediately on blues and sirens.

They could have taken hours to respond to a report of someone trying to open your door. I’d have been frightened too, and my DH would have absolutely come home. He did exactly that when it happened to me (door also locked) and brought his mate too just in case!

This might sound off the topic, but bear with me

How is your 'time away from home' divided up? How often does he go to the pub while you are home with the kids? If this were his one evening out of the year, I would understand not wanting to disturb him, in which case i would probably not have told him til he got home.

How often does he stay home with the kids while you go out?

If you are already resenting him having more time away, that might compound your disappointment that he didn't rush home.