I have been in a fantastic and loving relationship with my partner for almost 4 years and have recently found out that I am 8 weeks pregnant. I was not using any contraception (naively perhaps) after having my copper coil removed in August, as I thought that being so much older and overweight I wouldn't conceive, add to that it took me over 2 years to conceive my daughter in my 20's! I informed my partner exoecting him to be overjoyed but he is anything but. We both already have children from previous marriages (I have 1, he's has 2) so I guess this would be the time of our lives to look forward to focussing on ourselves and our future lives together. This pregnancy has come out of the blue for both of us as we had plans made for next year etc.. My partner has for very valid reasons said that because of the difficulties he has had with maintaining contact with his existing children, having this baby would be about the worst thing that could happen right now. My dilemma is that should I keep the baby against his wishes, I am not in a financially or emotionally stable enough position (after raising my older child mostly alone) to boldly begin life again as a single parent, should he leave me to it. I am constantly swinging from knowing that a termination would logically be the right thing to do, to feeling emotional ( damm hormones) imagining what our baby would be like and how amazing it would be to have that in our lives again.
Time is ticking away and I want to make my decision without letting my older child know or sense what is going on.