Hand hold please. I think my mom is dying

[CherryBlossom23]

My mom fell ill with pneumonia a few weeks ago. The last month has been a cycle of her getting better and about to be released from hospital and then going a bit downhill and having to increase her oxygen, etc. She finally seemed to be fully on the mend last weeekend when something happened yesterday (we're not sure what yet) and she collapsed. She is now in ICU on life support. Her doctors say there is still hope but who knows if they're just saying that.

I'm only 28, I don't know how to live the rest of my life without my mom. Right now I feel like I'm losing my mind, I guess it's just the shock. Please, if anyone has any positive stories from similar situations, please share. I need some hope in my life.

Really good to hear that. Take care.

Thank you for the update OP, I had been watching the thread to see how you're doing. Hope you're getting some sleep, even if it's in tiny amounts. So sorry, this sounds like such a difficult time.

Holding your hand here Cherry. Where there is life there is hope. Keep going.

About 2 years ago now I got pneumonia and was in a coma for 2 weeks. Like your Mum, I went from bad to worse and all my organs started to fail. It's all news to me as clearly I didn't 'experience' any of it, but I don't think my heart ever stopped (not that I've been told anyway). But I did live to tell the tale and I hope your Mum does too. Thinking of you.

The thing DP told me was that I was in a thing like a space suit (his description) thing on my head. I'd love to see photos lol but I guess it's not really something you share on Facebook. When I woke up, I was delusional for about 2 days. Thought I had rescued a baby from the sea and rescued another from a carpark at a garage (WTF?). My dreams were very vivid to me when I woke. I was still in them so to speak. So your Mum, please God when she wakes, will hopefully be the same. What I'm trying to say is that I was in no pain or suffering, I was busy rescuing babies lol. So I'm sure your Mum is also happy and entirely oblivious. I'll say a little prayer that things turn around for her.

Unfortunately my beautiful mum passed away shortly after my last update. We are all heartbroken but it doesn't v seem real. I keep expecting her to be waiting for us at home. I can't believe I will never talk to her again. I can't believe I have to live the rest of my life without her. I'm so worried about my dad, he will be lost without her.

Oh Cherry iam so sorry.

xxx

My mum died just over 3 years ago and at first like you. I used to panic about having to live without her. However I do feel like she's still here and if she were to walk in now it'd be like shed never been away. Perhaps because in spirit she is here. Same with my dad
I still have days were be sobbing for mum and dad, though.
Im not going to sugar coat it losing someone you adore such as parent is something you do eventually learn to live with, but You never recover from it. X

I'm so sorry.

Anyone who has lost much loved parents. Nothing I can say will make it easier, it will be hard, but be kind to yourself and allow yourself time.

I'm so sorry

Nothing prepares you for losing a parent but as time goes on the memories become sweeter and more welcome. My mum loved herons and I'm sure whenever I see one it's her checking up on me, same with my dad and robins.

Take care of yourself and allow yourself to grieve in whatever way you need to.

Really sorry to hear that Cherry. I was really hoping she would pull through. Take care of yourself and your Dad.

I’m so so sorry darling x

I'm so sorry for your loss. x

It will take time for you to not automatically associate your Mum with everything. But with time you will.
For now, just take comfort from the memories of her.
I'm so sorry to hear of your loss.

Ah shit Cherry I'm so sorry.

One foot in front of the other for now is fine. Lean on each other.

We're here for you too.

I'm so sorry for your loss, Cherry. My wonderful mum passed away earlier this year and it's really shit, I'm not going to lie.

You will be exhausted so try to take some time for yourself, even if it's just an hour or so.

And don't feel like you should be feeling or behaving in a certain way, there's no right or wrong with grief. Much love to you. X

So sorry Cherry. My Dad died last year and I felt what you described feeling. I still feel anxious about things sometimes. Just keep going as best you can. If some days your best isnt great or is downright awful just don’t worry. Sending love to you, your dad and your family. X

💐 I’m so sorry Cherry

It’s such a huge shock, don’t expect to take it all in at once. When my dad died I felt like it was happening to someone else, if that makes sense.

Just keep on keeping on.

I'm so so sorry. I was thinking about you. Look after yourself and let people look after you if they offer. You and your dad will get through this, it will take time.

I’m so sorry for your loss. Much love xxx

Cherry I'm so sorry for your loss. My own mum passed away a week ago, and it sucks. So be kind to yourself and each other while you deal with the initial shock and loss.

I'm so sorry.

My dad died 3 weeks ago and I feel utterly lost still.

Sending you love and hoping you find some strength and peace at this awful awful time

So sorry to hear about your Mum. Look after yourself. You have people around you IRL which is good. Maybe try talking to CRUSE. They have a bereavement counselling helpline. Keep talking in here if it helps too.

Thank you everyone, you are all so kind. I'm absolutely dreading the funeral next week, don't know how I'll make it through.