Hand hold please. I think my mom is dying

[CherryBlossom23]

My mom fell ill with pneumonia a few weeks ago. The last month has been a cycle of her getting better and about to be released from hospital and then going a bit downhill and having to increase her oxygen, etc. She finally seemed to be fully on the mend last weeekend when something happened yesterday (we're not sure what yet) and she collapsed. She is now in ICU on life support. Her doctors say there is still hope but who knows if they're just saying that.

I'm only 28, I don't know how to live the rest of my life without my mom. Right now I feel like I'm losing my mind, I guess it's just the shock. Please, if anyone has any positive stories from similar situations, please share. I need some hope in my life.

So she has made a miraculous turnaround! She is still very ill but is now conscious and they have weaned the ventilator down to a lower level. Next step is to see how she does without it in a couple of days. Not being able to talk is frustrating for her but she has a pen and writing pad. Whatever meds she's on are making her hands very shaky but she's managing to write. She seems ok mentally which is a relief to us all. Thank you for your good wishes everyone.

That’s wonderful Cherry, I’m having a little cry here.

That is fantastic news.

That's fab news.

Sending good wishes to you and your family. What a stressful few weeks you’ve all had. Make sure you eat well and look after yourself too. Really hope your mum continues what sounds like a great improvement.

So pleased 💕

That's good news, 💐

Fingers crossed for your mum Cherry and a gentle hug to you

W00t!

Great news Cherry ! Stay strong x

How's things Cherry ?

Not good. A number of things has happened since Wednesday and she has gone rapidly downhill. The doctor said they are doing everything they can but her chances are slim. We are clinging to a tiny shred of hope but trying to prepare for the worst.

Oh Cherry

Thinking of you and yours xx

Cherry I too am thinking of you.

Thinking of you. Take lots of support from this thread

Oh, I'm sorry to hear that Cherry hang on in there

Sending you strength and . Look after yourself, and spend as much time your your Mum as you can. Talk to her. Tell her the important things. About the good times you've had, that you love her.

I'm not trying to predict how things will go bit these are important things to do right now.

She has multi organ failure and her heart stopped this morning. They revived her but we have decided to let her go if it's stops again. She has suffered so much the past couple of weeks, all of it undeserved.

So sorry. Didn’t want to read and run. My mum died last year in v similar circumstances. It’s truly shit. I hope you have family with you. Take care

Cherry, how awful, I'm so sorry you're having to go through this.

I lost my mum to pneumonia this summer. She had cancer but caught pneumonia and didn't recover. It is unutterably shit seeing a loved one so ill.

Strength to you and your mum.

Thanks you everyone, and I am sorry to everyone who has lost their wonderful mum

So sorry , mind yourself

Cherry have you got support IRL? Is your Dad around? Have you got Aunts/Uncles/cousins?

Here's a virtual hand hold and an unmumsnetty hug.

Yes I have plenty of support, eveyone is being wonderful