People with no online presence

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After a morning of nosing around old classmates facebook pages and seeing what everyone is up to these day it got me wondering about the one or two who have no facebook and one in particular who has no online presence at all. I come from a small village and I think I am facebook friends with virtually everyone in my year at high school except one girl, who will now be 40 and a guy who does have a twitter but no facebook.

The girl is just off grid nothing comes up for her. I do know her brother and I know she went to art school in London and lives in Copenhagen now with her Danish husband. She was always a bit of a loner at school but nice. I guess I am just pretty nosey about her and wonder why she or anyoen doesn't have any social media or linkedin at all? I used to think people who didn't use social media had something to hide or that looking at other peoples lives just made them depressed but it sounds like she has done well for herself and I find it a bit sad she doesn't keep in touch with the old country!

I know a lot of people do give social media up if they find it overwhelming or depressing and some just don't care. This isn't meant to be judgmental I'm just curious about why people don't do social media, especially if they have normal or successful lives?

She's probably just not interested. It's not essential to everyday living despite what sons think.
Also maybe she's glad to 'escape' a small town and doesn't want to carry that 'know everything about eveyone' thing into her adult life. Everyone knowing your business within hours is something I don't think city people believe happens but that's how small towns and villages are. It's claustrophobic. Being friends with every single person you went to school with sounds tedious to me but you guys obviously like it. People like different things.

Also are people really interested-in where almost strangers are going on the holiday or pictures of their kids?

Facebook is boring to me and a lot of it is fake. I also know it's used as gossip fodder and have seen people pour over photos someone's put up and bitch about them. Not for me thanks.

There are plenty of reasons people don't use social media. My DH is just out of the first Facebook generation and cannot for the life of him see the value in wading through my cousin's endless moans about her ex. Various relatives are teachers - they don't want kids 'finding' them online and so don't have any social media. One social media-free friend is a JP, another is an actor who's had issues in the past with stalkers fans, so keeps any social media in his professional name only and doesn't put any actual personal details on there at all.

Bear in mind that if something random but newsworthy ever happens to you, the first place the Daily Fail will go to screengrab embarrassing photos of you wearing a peel-off facemask while drinking tequila will be Facebook.

Sons = some.

I don't have any social media accounts. I have a very active social life and work in TV so I am a rarity among my colleagues.

I have friends all over the world and still manage to keep in touch with them.

I think it's quite amazing how some people manage to make a sort of business out of their SM, and hats off to them, but I just can't be arsed. That's literally the only reason 

My mum has no online presence at all. She has a work email address but not a personal one and a mobile phone but not a smartphone.

She has no interest whatsoever in publishing any details of her life to anyone. She has a weekly phonecall to her sister who lives a fair distance away where she tells her only the details of her life that she wants to.

Her and my dad run a very sucessful business that employs 30 odd people. The company uses email but doesn't have any other web presence. A company facebook page was set up a couple of years ago but is never used.

I deliberately got rid of my social media prescence after two incidents, an ex colleague who had made my life a misery started stalking me after I left the company and then a company I left a review on started harassing me claiming I knew one of their disgruntled employees and had left a bad review on their behalf! I didn’t know the employee they were a friend of a friend and had no idea they worked at place or that they were disgruntled! Both instances alarmed me and because of this I cut out my social media\ internet prescence

I'm early 30s and the only social media I have is Snapchat and I don't even use that that often. I have a good job, get on well with my family, have a good group of friends, it's just a personal choice. I had Facebook in my early 20s and deactivated it about 9 years ago....I just got bored of people portraying a different persona online and it was all a bit fake and over the top...I guess that's more a reflection of who I had in my friends list though rather than Facebook! I had an Instagram account until a couple of months ago, but found I was wasting too much time scrolling so got rid!

I don’t have an social media presence because I’m on a witness protection programme.

no facebook. Mn is pretty much the only social media I use, don't twitter etc. I do text a lot, but to private numbers.

Not on linked in as I work for myself, and don't see the need.

hmm, not sure where else you would find me?

Oh, someone did track me down through my kids school - I am a governor, so appear on their website, but under my married name.

lol yes I am nosy but I have no malice and don't bitch about people honest!

I'd be hard to track down on social media but that's not because I think I'm "special". I just couldn't be arsed with it.

My colleague is 36 and has no online presence at all. He previously worked at GCHQ. He said if he tells me anymore, he'll have to kill me. He's joking. I think .

I have no social media presence at all. If you google me absolutely nothing comes up.

Part of it was not liking seeing lots of boastful posts and it making my anxiety worse. Mostly it was because there was one particular ex that some horrible things happened with and I don't want him to ever be able to see me. Obviously I didn't explain this to any friends on Facebook before I disappeared from it, so I suppose some of them may wonder where I've gone

I'm 38 and have lived in 30 different houses. I've moved all over the country, to other countries, have shifted jobs and even careers.
As such, I have virtually no long term relationships beyond my immediate family. When social media became a big thing, I didn't bother - not due to concerns over privacy or technophobia, or even the early posturing over rampant egotism. Instead, I literally had no one to talk to on there. So I didn't join.
Recently, a work was becoming a bit hindered by my lack of FB presence; so I joined. I added 2 friends on there: one for a purpose, one as a practice. Every day it gives me 100s of friend suggestions. I don't know any of those people. I've basically done nothing with it.
As for Twitter. Don't often find I have much to say....

I was off social media for years after a traumatic bereavement. I couldn't bear the thought of people I hadn't seen in 20 years rubbernecking over my grief. I couldn't square my harrowing sadness with everyone else's chirpy updates about their shopping / fitness regime / meals / holidays. It made me feel like I was living in an alternate universe.

I am also very nosy, and it began to freak me out that I could recognise people on the street who I had never met in person because they were a colleague's boyfriend's sister or whatever and I'd been poring over their holiday pictures for no reason I could explain to myself. I felt much more sane when I came off. Now I'm on FB under a fake name and only have 15 friends and strict privacy settings and it's fine.

I'm not on any social media apart from MN. Never been On FB or linkedin. Because I'm intensely private and have no interest in what people I once vaguely knew are doing. And I don't want to feel obliged to respond if they searched for and found me.

I have a FB account that is incognito.

Someone could look me up by name but no be able to confirm it's me (I have no personal photos in my profile and very little personal info)

I only joined FB to sign up for a few groups related to my DC3 genetic condition. I have no-one I know in "real life" as a FB friend.

I don't have Twitter or Instagram.

I have no social media, nor do 4 closest friends, nor my sister and her husband nor my daughter. We've got nothing to hide and if we want to share anything, we do, by email or phone. No use for it. No interest in it.

I don’t have FB/Twitter/Instagram/Snapchat or any of that bullshit
It’s all so fake and staged I just don’t have time for it

I make time in my life for real people and only the ones I really want to spend time with, and I don’t live my life for ‘likes’ ... this used to be normal

Perhaps she is just not interested OP? It isn't everyone's cup of tea. I'm glad you said you used to think people had something to hide etc as I really don't think that's the case.

For me it's just that I'm not interested and there's enough going on in my own life without wanting to know everyone else's. I've got a decent job/career, lovely family and some good friends, lots of hobbies so I don't have the time or interest for anything other than MN.

I have no social media. No Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, Instagram. I am part of 1 WhatsApp chat of 6 people - that is it

My dh has LinkedIn that’s it,.

I don't have any social media- I like to think people who have a genuine interest in my life can call or text me or I see them regularly.
And me the same for them.

My life isn't out there just for Nosy Parker's that I haven't seen for 20years!

I don't do any "social media" either and don't plan to do so in the future.

I also tell people that, I don't own a computer/email nor a mobile.

she probably just has no interest in it. DH has no Facebook/Twitter/Instagram etc. Not because he thinks he’s special (), but because he has literally no interest in it.

Personal social media accounts are discouraged in certain job roles.