Is our room arrangement weird?

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6yo twin dcs had a little friend over today with her mum

It came up in the conversation that dd1 and ds1 (the twins) share a room and 3yo ds2 and 2yo dd2 share the other one.

She seemed really shocked that we didn't have the girls in one room and the boys in the other.
I explained to her why but she was still pretty funny about it.

I'm pretty sure it's her being weird rather than us but I was wondering what the general consensus was on it?

It's fine untill they are 11 or 12

It’s not strange now but in a year or two you will need to split the sexes.

She is being weird. Nothing wrong with your set up. They're 6 and under not 16 🙄.

She's being weird.

Makes sense to me, in that situation I’d make a ‘girls’ room and a ‘boys’ room before the older ones reach puberty, but as it is the younger two are more likely to need you in the night than the older two, and I’d guess (obviously I don’t know) that there’s slightly different bedtimes for the older two and younger two, so you can deal with them separately without disturbing the others

She’s weird. And uptight.

It's fine untill they are 11 or 12
8 or 9 would be more appropriate. I had breasts and pubic hair by 10 and started periods at 11!

I agree Matts. That’s the sort of age my two started to become more self conscious.

Sorry but I’m struggling with how you describe your kids.. how come dd1 is younger than DD2?

I'm guessing that the OPs twins are 1 year old Cath.

Cath dd1 is 6yrs old and dd2 is 2yrs old.

Sorry yes! Ignore me!

Sorry but I’m struggling with how you describe your kids.. how come dd1 is younger than DD2?

I've read the OP. The twins DD1 and DS1 are 6 and DS2 is 3 and DD2 is 2.

Not sure what's so confusing?

And OP, it's fine for at least a good few more years if it's working. Don't make it a problem until it's a problem!

It's partly because of bedtimes and partly because it's easier with shared toys but mostly it's because the twins are joined at hip.

Unless they want to swap before then we're planning on leaving them be til they start high school.
We're definitely not moving them before dd2 starts school though so they'll all have the same routine.

DS and DD are 8 and 6 and share a room, and will do for at least another 2 years.

Your arrangement makes perfect sense to me, as long as your twins are happy. Proclaiming that they need to be separated by sex at that age is just adults projecting their own stuff on to children. Due to the housing cost lots of people don’t have the luxury of giving opposite sex siblings their own rooms before it’s absolutely necessary.

Did she clarify exactly where she thought the problem lay?

She is weird. I think your twins should be able to share for as long as THEY are happy with the arranagement.

Perfectly fine at that age. I am dreading ours getting a bit older. DSD is 14 and has her own room. DD and DS are 6 and 4 and share. But when DD gets older, we are realistically going to have to move to have more space, or put DD in with DSD (which DSD won't like as she will be like 18 or something, and with how things are I am almost certain she will still be with us as its not like it was when I was that age and could move out)

Sounds fine to me. My kids share. My boy is 5 and my girl is 9. I have no choice in the matter. They will continue to share until such time I magically grow another room.

Not seeing a problem with this at all. DS & DD shared a room until he was 11 & she was 7! Made it easier to keep all their tat in one place - and the only reason it changed was because we moved house, and they could have their own rooms.

We have 5 bedrooms and despite this 9 year old DS shares with 15 year old DS and 6 year old DS has a room to himself but sleeps every night in 13 year old DD's room. His room is just a play room. Whatever it "should be" kids have their own ideas and preferences.

I shared with my brother until I was 7 and I'm pretty certain that's a fairly normal experience. She's being weird.

I’m sorry but why must they be split in the future, unless they want to be of course. Family members of the opposite sex are, god forbid, allowed to see each other naked. FFS

Kids going through puberty generally want privacy.