When does being a mum become 'normal' ?

[AvoFriday]

I'm still less than 2 weeks PP so it's early days still, but I was wondering when this weird 'oh my god I'm a mum now' feeling (that I have every morning) will wear off?

I feel a bit weird and overwhelmed by it all. Like I'm living in a dream... like it isn't real.

I love him so much. When will it become 'normal'?

I have a 2 year old. Still feel kind of weird about it

I'd love to know this too! I have 6yr old and a 1yr old and still don't feel grown up enough 😂

After 3 for me. Children that is, not years.

Was chatting to a friend about this the other day. We’re both in our 30’s, professional jobs, mortgages and have a child each, both over a year old. When the fucking fuck did that happen?!?

4 years for me, still don't feel like a mum! 😂

Umm 17 years in and on number 4 and i still have moments of shit im a mum. Mainly like when did i grow up and become an adult.

In the everyday crazy of mumming you kinda forget that your still you...somewhere.

My little one is nearly 6 months and although it is still weird sometimes it does feel a lot more normal now and less omg I'm a mum! Xx

I still have "oh my god I'm an adult" and I'm 29 

I feel like I'm playing house even though I'm married with a DS!

I have a 14yo, a 13yo, a 9yo and a 4yo.

Bring a mum very definitely feels "normal" to me. As to when that happens, there's no pin-point it's just a gradual change. Like when you realise you are a "grown up", it creeps up on you.

Congratulations!

My son is 2 and a half and I still look at him every day and feel overwhelmed with love for him and think to myself "I can't believe I'm your mum".

My eldest turns 2 in three months and I’m still a bit “huh?” about this mum business. Every now and then my DH will say something jokingly like “you can’t do that, you’re a mother now” and I’m like “am I? Really? You sure?” Lol it’s surreal in a weird way.

It's a lovely feeling. Very unnerving though.

Huge responsibility.

I don't like feeling like I'm in limbo. I want some normality back.

I'm a very anxious person so when I know something is new or different, my fight or flight is permanently activated. I'm exhausted by my mad pp thoughts!

I sometimes look at mine and think, “When are your parents going to come and pick you up? I’ve had enough of baby-sitting.”

They are 14, 17 and 19.

I still can't believe I grew him... he's so tiny and beautiful. I don't want him to grow up...

Mines coming up on 3 and pregnant with DC2. It's still weird!

Ah Op you sound just lovely. Have a little sniff and snuggle for us all.

Congratulations @overagain :)

@Faster thank you. I'm just smitten!

My dd is 13 months old and I still don't feel like a "mum".

I've just got this eccentric little person in my house who has taken over everything, only eats yoghurt and points at me and goes "oot".

I mean, logically, I know I grew her and gave birth, but sometimes it does feel like she's an alien that has beamed down to take residence in our house and poke her finger up my nose.

I am, if truth be told, completely flummoxed by the whole experience.

I'm still not there. I think I'm 17 then realise that was 30 years ago and I'm supposed to be the grown up in charge.

My DTs were 12 weeks when I finally felt like I was actually their Mum. I’m on ads for pnd now, and tentatively starting to feel feelings which is super, and it’s becoming normal that they’re mine, and I’m theirs.

Congrats on your new baby, enjoy the snuggles 💐

My daughter is 4 months old and I still feel like this. Currently stalking her on the baby monitor- I’ve been in a constant state of worry since I had her. DH and I offer stare at her and talk about how weird it was that she came out of me. 😂

I think this is reassuring, in that the fictional "normal" mother, who has her shit together, who runs a tight ship, looks polished, and whose house looks like something out of the Ideal Homes magazine, never runs out of bread and milk, whose children never embarrassing her with untimely expulsions; is just that, fictional!

Its when you leave the house for the first time without them and look at people and wonder if they know that your a mum 😂 just me?

I've never really believed I'm an adult, who like pays their own bills and everything. Just on to DS2 and still dont feel a mum. Cant believe anyone would leave me in charge of two small humans!

I asked my mum the same question a while ago. She has three children and four grandchildren, and her answer was still 'I don't know - what makes you think I've got used to it yet!'