I'll be sad FOREVER if you go to work, mummy

[ZackPizzazz]

Wailed out by DS1 (almost 4), apropos of precisely nothing, as I tucked him into bed tonight.

Tear my heart right out, why don't you, child.

I'm shortly to return to work after maternity leave with DS2 and have been doing some KIT days in preparation, which evidently have not gone over well with DS1. He has always been the guilt trip master, but this is a new high (low?). AIBU to ask for your stories of your DC being tiny little guilt-trippers?

DD: wishes aren't true.
Me: how do you know?
DD: because I wished for a better mummy and you're still the same.

 I can laugh about it now,but that day I nearly left..long sucky tiring day at work,house was a tip,OH was being a dick.

"But Mummy I just want to be wherever you are all the time!" DD (also nearly 4) when I explained that the new job I started this week after maternity leave meant I would also be going in to work today and tomorrow. DH is now primary parent at home, also with DC2 (9 mths), and tbh I think everyone is used to the new regime already! I do feel a bit guilty but I've also really enjoyed being at work. Good luck!

So, basically, nearly 4 year olds are the worst?

He has a real genius for going for the emotional jugular. He was fine about it when I was at work after having him, but evidently he's enjoyed having mummy at his beck and call even if it came at the price of a little brother.

RebelWitchFace, ouch! I think you win.

nearly 4 year olds are the worst?

Teenage girls get a bad rep but it's the teenies you've really got to watch- they know their power. Mind you, when they start sending you notes from school that say

'I will luv yoo no mata wot'

they're really at the peak of their manipulative powers.

My 13 year old is always on at me to get a full time job so we can have a second car and more income.

When you die mum I will have your house and I will live with two puppies.
Cheers Son

@roseynosehunny. Cheeky bastard. Tell him to get a paper round

"I had so much fun at holiday club mummy, it was a great day and now you've ruined it' ds, 4, because I handed his brother water first and he wanted to be first.

And regularly 'if you do / don't do that I will be so sad'

DS, at 8 years old - "Why don't I move in with Nan and Grandad? I stay there all the time anyway so it would be better for everyone". DH started work at 4.30am and I worked away quite a bit, so he did stay there a fair bit, but it did sting.

I don't want you to be my mummy any more, I think I'll go and live at Sophie's house because her mummy is a lot nicer than you are.

(because I wouldn't let her eat sweets).

I apparently sat on the stairs at bedtime aged about 4 and told my wonderful, beloved DM ‘some Mummys don’t go to work’. She can laugh about it 35 years later...

Your stories are much appreciated. I was feeling a bit ambivalent about the return to work already... but it is happening. Is it better when they suffer attacks of aggressive sadness every time you leave the room, or when they want you to go away and quite possibly die?

So, basically, nearly 4 year olds are the worst?

Nah, they get different awful.
I get the emotional blackmail from the tweenagers about work, though they don't complain about the freebies and extra cash.

Aged 2 and a bit my DS used to greet me at nursery pick up with “I did cry Mama because you left me.”
(And he used to cry for all of 15 seconds after I left before having a lovely day- I used to wait outside the window after leaving him and listen in.)

Dd age 7:When I grow up I want to live in this house mummy.
Me: Where will I live ?
Dd: You can just live in a nursing home!

‘Mummy came back!’ from my just turned 2 year old, when I picked him up from nursery after a night away with work. I’ve been away before, he’s perfectly happy with daddy, we FaceTimed and I have always come back! Major guilt trip!!

My (twin) nephews at 14 told my sister they wanted to live with me because I swear and her rules were pants. My own hellions regularly want to live with various randoms because their mum's don't work ft/ make them eat veg/ make them eat with cutlery/ buy them expensive shit. They're just pushing boundaries, it'll pass.

Here’s my 12 nearly 13yo’s response to me saying to her sympathetically, “you look tired” - “well you look annoying”...

Enjoy the unconditional regard whilst it lasts.

I remember telling my own mother that I wished my best friends mum was my mum instead. It was because my friend was always bought the toys I wanted and my own parents couldn't always afford it. I have children now and feel absolutely awful about saying that!

DD1 proclaimed she'd be 'sad forever' when DD2 (then 8mo) ate her bun.

She's cheered up since.

DD1 proclaimed she'd be 'sad forever' when DD2 (then 8mo) ate her bun.

I guess I will hope DS1's "sad forever" is just as longlasting.

DS recently turned 5 and his favourite line is that I've "broken his heart" and his best sad face

Mummy, why weren't you there for me?

In the playground at pick up time. He didn't see me wildly waving and so was sent to the back of the line.

No amount of 'I was there' could convince him. Ouch, those words really hurt.

DD1 proclaimed she'd be 'sad forever' when DD2 (then 8mo) ate her bun

Don't blame her. DC2 stole my chocolate brownie at that age. Not forgiven, not forgotten.

A PP's comment has just reminded me when I was little being sat in the bath and my mum came to check on me and I was thinking about how much I wished Lara Croft was my mum but I didn't tell her cause I knew she'd be upset 😄😂