I'll be sad FOREVER if you go to work, mummy

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Wailed out by DS1 (almost 4), apropos of precisely nothing, as I tucked him into bed tonight.

Tear my heart right out, why don't you, child.

I'm shortly to return to work after maternity leave with DS2 and have been doing some KIT days in preparation, which evidently have not gone over well with DS1. He has always been the guilt trip master, but this is a new high (low?). AIBU to ask for your stories of your DC being tiny little guilt-trippers?

DD1 (age 4) regularly says she doesn't like me, daddy is her friend not me, she doesn't want to play with me any more. It's lost its sting from over use.
DD2 (20 months) knows exactly the right level of cry of the word *mummy" to induce guilt and tug at the heart strings.

My four year old regularly accuses me of being about to put her in jail and/or throw her out of the window

"If you loved me properly you would make me sausages"

It was the "properly" that broke my heart. I think I had made something disgusting and inedible like chicken btw.

"Why are you punishing me?! You've broken my heart now!"
Distraught 6 year old after I said no to buying a toy.

My 6 year old has perfectly timed ‘it’s all about .. his little sister’. First time I fell for it and sat him down and had a massive heart to heart about how she needs a lot of attention because she’s young Yaddaaaa yadda.

Then I laughter the second time. He’s stopped saying it now!

This thread is so sweet, my heart is melting! DD is 18 months and has a few words but no sentences yet. I’m looking forward to being made to feel guilty....

"Your breaking my heart mummy"

3 year old whenever I say anything she doesn't like.

They just know how to pull at our heart strings!

My MIL went back to work (part time) when my DH was around 12. He made a comment about how it was better when she wasn't working and she stopped working, just like that! She says she couldn't bear the guilt. Obviously this was in the days when it was rarer to be a working mum, but I do think she made the wrong decision. She's an intelligent woman and I think she missed the intellectual stimulation in her later life.

I came from work after my second day back and my 4yo sobbed "Mummy, I haven't seen you for days!"

Man that got me.

(I'm really enjoying being at work and she got over it!)

'I know, big sister puts little sister into push chair, we can all go out and look for a new mummy'
When I explained that you only get one mummy she cried her little heart out and said but I want a new one.
This was after an illness got the better of me for that day and DP did everything for me whilst I was curled up in bed. I had apologised to the kids saying sorry for mummy being so bad today and hopefully tomorrow will be a better day. DD then came out with that little charmer. I went to bed and sobbed.

The next day, I spent ignoring my illness and pain to show her she didn't need a new mummy.

I am now better and in full time work after 5 years. Although that comment cut me so deep, it actually pushed me to fight on!

My 4 year old DS 's favourite threat at the moment is 'if you don't do X, then I won't give you any hugs'. He is also very keen on putting people in his naughty books, or if you have particularly annoyed him then in his double bad books. He once even went as far as his triple bad books but that was reserved for failure to give him sweets!

I missed dd’s birthday party. I was in hospital at the time. Ages later we went to a birthday party for someone else and dd said ‘oh so you don’t miss EVERYONES parties then? Just mine’ .

Also not guilt inducing but watching tv with dd and an add for weight loss stuff came on
‘Oh you should use that mummy to get less fat’
‘Dd it’s not nice to say things like that’
‘Oh sorry’
Advert for make up comes on
‘Oh mummy if you used that you’d be prettier’
‘I just told you it isn’t nice to say things like that!’
‘Why? I’m saying you COULD be prettier if you tried’

Dd aged 9. 'When I win the lottery when I am older I am going to buy a big house, a pink car and lots of ponies and clothes and yada yada yada. You and daddy can live in a shed in the garden, a nice shed though...'

Ds age 4 'I love you mummy, and I love daddy but I love Maggie most of all'.

Maggie is the dog. Sigh.

My 2 1/2 DD says "Mummys gone to work to get money to buy me toys"

Sadly for DS, I am not appropriately moved by his heart tugging declarations that "My happiness is ruined FOR EVER mummy if you don't put the tv on RIGHT NOW".

I do try to leave the room before laughing though

DD at about 3 responded to my "I love you to the moon and back" with "I love you to the radiator. And not back."

I am enjoying all these stories. Especially the revelation that I could have it a lot worse and there could be TRIPLE BAD BOOKS.

Oh, and there is definitely no possibility of me giving up work just because DS1 is a little emotional-judo sod. I don't think he'd like an angry, depressed and broke mummy nearly as much as he thinks.

They pick up on your mixed feelings and turn the screw. Tell him lots of positives about work, for him and you, family

"Mummy, why does dad have to go to work and not youuuuuuuuuu!!!!!! Why can't YOU just go away all the time?" wingewingecrycrysob etc.

Me - "Because we'd all be eating cardboard and dust and sleeping in a one bedroom shed if I had to support all of us on my old salary".

DD at about 3 responded to my "I love you to the moon and back" with "I love you to the radiator. And not back

LMAO

When my brother was two, my mum had another little boy who sadly passed away when he was a week old. I was born when my brother was then four, and in the car going home she said my brother turned and looked at me in the car seat, smiled and said "when is this one going in the ground?"

Different sort of story but four years old are savage 

lovetherisingsun she's now 11 and had the decency to look horrified when I recounted this story to her the other week.

Discussing buying a pet, I said well we can't get a cat, your dad hates cats. One moment pause and ds age 5 said so if daddy dies we can get a cat.

My then 8 year old once sneaked downstairs at night and called me whilst I was doing a sleep in, to tell me how ill she is and how much she needs me.

I call DH and he tells me there was nothing physically wrong with her. He didn't know she came down and used the landline.

She is my youngest and had a lot of my time, she really struggled when I started working. She will be 10 in January and she is over it now.

I don't want to go to school I'll miss you too much

You are the worst mummy in the world I wish you were dead

Said within the same 5 minutes 🙄

Every time I brush her hair...

It hurts your hurting me stop it you are the worst hair brusher in the world your ripping it all out etc.