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Mother pushing pram

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Charlotte98 · 30/10/2018 01:13

Hi, myself and my boyfriend took our 2 week old son to the park for the first time and we were joined by my mother, she got so annoyed that my boyfriend asked to push the pram down a slope as he was being protective, my mum has said she feels so upset and annoyed about not being able to push our son in his pram, it’s got to a point that they have fallen out over it and I’m stuck in the middle... I think we have every right to not let anyone else push our pram but the thing is she did get to push him a little bit?!?!

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ChanklyBore · 31/10/2018 11:13

Of all the things to get anxious about with a new baby, a hill?

Sorry OP but a hill never even made it onto my anxiety radar so I’m going to say it’s an overreaction from you.

PinkHeart5914 · 31/10/2018 11:17

The baby is 2 weeks old, his been a dad for 2 weeks ffs and he wanted to push his child well I’d say his got more right than your mother tbh. Yes maybe it’s a bit daft but when we had a young baby we’ve all been like that

Your mother was in the wrong to complain about him wanting to push his own child imo

SpareASquare · 31/10/2018 21:31

when we had a young baby we’ve all been like that
No. No we haven't. Confused

Your mother was in the wrong to complain about him wanting to push his own child imo
But that's not what happened, is it? I do understand that, to you, pushing the pram is a gift to be bestowed only on the worthy but that's not how normal people operate.
OPs mother was pushing the pram, having been 'allowed' to do so, and the DP would not let her do so when they came to an incline. Rude and insulting. Not cute and endearing.

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GunpowderGelatine · 31/10/2018 22:43

Very precious behaviour on the part of your OH, you will look back and cringe one day. I'd feel offended too like he thought I was some kind of imbecile being unable to push a pram 🙄 but first time parents in the early weeks are kind of allowed to be precious and weird, it's a very strange and stressful time. Make up with one another and move on

GunpowderGelatine · 31/10/2018 22:48

Reading some of these comments makes me wonder if some people think older people just plopped into this planet at some point to get in their way and try and "take over" by using the medium of prams. Instead of people who've raised children themselves and have come up against worse than pushing a fucking pram down a hill. When you're a FTM or dad and your baby is 2 weeks old your parents will have more experience and knowledge in their little toe than you have in your whole body, dont cast them aside so easily.

Is it ageism that spurs this on or just ignorance?

Tadda · 01/11/2018 05:34

…...Or maybe it's just a new dad getting a bit protective over his brand new baby, saw 'Hill + plus pram' and just instinctively took a 'I'll do this one' roll without thinking it would offend anyone....totally understandable!

GunpowderGelatine · 01/11/2018 07:12

Is it understandable? I don't think it is. It's not being protective it's being completely precious and ridiculous.

Dlux · 01/11/2018 11:08

she should remember that in another month or so they will be both begging her to have the baby for an hour or two

Not the norm for all, we have never done this

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 01/11/2018 11:19

I don't blame your mum. I imagine she's feeling treated as though she's stupid. She's raised you and any siblings you might have. I'm sure she knows how to push a pram down a bloody slope.
There's being a protective new parent but That's Just over board.
Its your dh I'm having a pop at by the way, not you.
Congratulations on your new babyFlowers

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