Is anyone up?

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My 5 week old DS has decided he wont sleep anywhere apart from on me. We have been trying since 9pm to get him to sleep. I have just managed - but he is asleep on my chest and I am sitting up in bed.
He will .not be moved. I am so so tired.

, I've been there! I'm up but it is only 9.30pm where I am.
I remember sitting in a chair with a small baby, it was the middle of the night and I felt like I was the only human on the planet that was awake. My youngest is 6 now though. He doesn't sleep on me anymore, not often anyway!

You have my sympathy OP.

Do you know what though? As shit as things seem right now, it does get better. Honest.

I’m seven hours behind you, so it will be a while before I go to bed.

Is your husband/partner around? Has he had some rest? If so get him to watch you whilst you both sleep, prop yourself up and sleep whilst he watches so you don’t drop etc baby. Or if you’re feeding have a look at the unicef safe co- sleeping guidelines, I never thought I’d bed share but it saved my sanity many times!
It DOES get better but at the moment you just need to do whatever maximises your sleep. It’s so tough, so so tough.
I’m currently sat rocking my 7 month old, so maybe I’m not the best person for advice 😂.

I've been there too OP. It's so hard being exhausted we ended up safely cosleeping with DD in the 'C' position. You'll get through it.

If it makes you feel better she's happily slept alone in her cot in her room since 4 months. It was a slow process though lots of cuddles. And I'm currently up with her as she has a cough and woke up. We are holding hands through the cot bars til she falls asleep.

So grateful for people being awake.
My DH is upstairs asleep in our spare room.
I cant even barricade DS on me because the pillows are on the floor.
What do I do? Just not sleep tonight? I think he must have silent reflux.
The moment i put him on his back his arms start waving and he opens his eyes.

Red thats so cute

We have co-slept for the last couple of nights. But tonight he will feed and stay asleep on his side, the moment i try to lay him on his back up come the arms again.

Can you slide down the bed and turn on your side with him on his side beside you? Will he stay asleep if you do that?

Can you text your other half to come in and help put some pillows around you?
I remember the wanting to sleep only on you phase. It will go. No help now I know!

I would keep trying, then wake DH up for a turn when you know he’s had some sleep. Then you sleep!
Or if you’re comfortable look at safe co-sleeping.
Also for future nights we found swaddling (easy gro snug thing) really helped with DD.

P.s- my DD is now asleep again in her own room/cot. Quick feed/rock. Not a brag but just so you know it WILL get better. Those newborn days were brutal.

Hi op, yes. I was also wondering if you can move yourself into a lying position with him lying close to you, I seem to remember doing this while humming some sort of lullaby at the same time (not sure why- to try and distract from what I was doing I suppose). I know how it feels. I had a baby that seemed to cry 23 hours a day at least and I was so unbelievably tired.

Thanks wveryone
Telling me it gets better is honestky helpful!
DH will be out for the count. Unless I take baby with me upstairs and wake him.
We have swaddled him but he has geown out of hia grosnug and we are both shit at normal swaddling. Im trying to find an alternative on amazon.
If I do as Betrand suggests he is still sleeping on hos aide which goes against SIDS advice. He will prob wake up if i move anyway and he is so overtired poor thing.

Sorry for the shocking typing!!

I’m up too. Full sympathies. Currently up with 10 month old asleep on me who also won’t be put down 🙄
He was the same as a newbirn, then got better, then last few weeks have been utterly terrible. I’ve survived (just) by doing shifts with my husband

Look at Woombie as an alternative to the Grosnug they saved my sanity

I sent DH upstairs. Cant even get to pillows to barricade myself in.
I may have to make my peace with tonight being sleepless

I'm up with my 6 week old. She just wants to feed through the night. I am shattered and just wish she would sleep a bit!

Weirdly knowing others up is helping as it's easy to feel like you are the only one up.

Mine are adult now, but I remember those days. I

Try warming the cot etc with a hot water bottle. Remove it just before you place baby down.

That way they don't notice the temperature change and don't suddenly feel 'abandoned'.
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Thanks Lucky. Sadly I tried that to no avail!

I’m up too with a sleeping 4 week old who seems to have reflux or something. Happily sleep on my chest but often needs to burp randomly and gulps a lot too.
I’m on this shift until 3 ish then will hand him over and sleep til 7.30 before needing to do the school run.

Yawn

But secretly these nighttime snuggles are very precious and the tiredness WILL abate but these memories last a lifetime.

Been there both mine were like that. I think its lying them down in a cold bed that wakes them. You'd wake up too if some sod lifted you when you were cosy and put you in a cold bed.

Not much use tonight, but I would warm their crib with a hot water bottle. Lift it out before putting baby in, hopefully with a warm cosy bed they stay there.

I'd then get into my bed with the hotwater bottle (which helps keep it warm). If baby wakes later swap baby and hotwater bottle.

I dont feel I can ask DH to do shifts because he is working.
I also dont trust him to follow safe sleeping guidelines.

I’m up! Teenage daughter off to Russia for A level trip in about half an hour. I remember those early days so well. They do get better

Avoiding I've tried that. I also used my t-shirt as a sheet - made nada difference!

Im not going to risk moving until rhe next feed. He loves this position though so could be 6am...