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My 5 week old DS has decided he wont sleep anywhere apart from on me. We have been trying since 9pm to get him to sleep. I have just managed - but he is asleep on my chest and I am sitting up in bed.
He will .not be moved. I am so so tired.

Have you got the wonder weeks app? It shows when they’re going through mental leaps and growth spurts. Sure there’s one about 5-6wks.
Doesn’t fix it, but might make you feel a bit better/understand why baby’s gone a bit mad.

Miss yes we do - it is very reassuring!

Dh went to.bed at midnight. Would i be unteasonable to call him at 3 to get me some pillows? He got 7 hrs straight last night.

Yeah I’d wake him at 3, especially if you’re letting him go back to sleep!
Could he get up early, say 5am, and take baby for a walk so you could at least get a couple of hours?

Suggesting a walk as you said he wouldn’t follow safe sleeping advice.
My DH never slept while taking our kids, he would sit up awake while they slept on him, or had them in the sling or walked in pram. That is after he’d Had some sleep and so I could get some

DH is the best sleeper I have ever met. He could sleep anywhere. He would def have to walk or be up - no way he could stay awake with DS on him.
We will end up having a row I suspect as he will say I shoukd jist go to sleep but its just not safe without some pillows

Tried phoning him. No answer. Gah.

If you're still up... i had a very vomity baby and my midwife reasdured me that side sleeping was safe when bedsharing... whixh was lucky as dd turned herself into her side from very early on.

Bedsharing on purpose is so much safer than falling asleep accidentally in dangerous positions. Look into safe bedsharing. Wishing you some sleep mama x

Thank you. Yeah we tried to co aleep tonight but he just cant seem to stay asleep on his back.
I have bought another swaddling product on amazon tonight, maybe that will help.

My 4month old likes to tummy sleep, but she can't comfortably roll back yet. So, we cosleep most of the night. She falls asleep on my chest & I either barricade her on or when she's in a deep sleep I turn her sideward. My back is not enjoying this. I'm hoping that once she can confidently turn to her tummy & back she will sleep on her tummy in her cot, but we will see.
Hope you do get some rest soon

mumma i just worry about him sleeping on his side.

DH has been super helpful - DS and I co slept so well last night, so he has gone thinking everyone will.be tickety boo.

I am up also with a 4 week old that only sleeps on me and a poorly 2 year old in bed with us too.

Goodness me I am so tired but it is comforting that I'm not the only one up. Sorry this doesn't help much!

Andon sorry to hear u r having a rough ride too x

Morning ladies! I have 4 day old DD asleep on my chest. Feeling very grateful though because my beloved mother stayed up with her until 4am so I could get some sleep for the first time since Friday.
Could anyone recommend anything online to read/ listen to as I have exhausted all usual avenues!

I'm up because my body likes early morning.

Wish I could go round you ladies with babies bringing cups of tea and extra cushions.

Maybe I should start a support group where you can text and someone does just that.

sassh i would happily pay for that!

@Mumma Thanks Mumma! First baby so everything is a bit trial and error! Going to try the pregnancy pillow and have a look for a Ewan.

It does get better, it doesn't feel like it now but it will, mine would only sleep on me for a while then got great at sleeping although is having a rocky patch for the past month. I have been up hourly with 9 month DS who likes to get up for the day at 4am so currently sat on the sofa on my 3rd coffee and have to get ready for work soon.

Another one here wishing I could bring you all tea and toast and cuddle your babies while you get some rest!!

I've been up for a few hours after my 3 year old crept in between DH and I, then asked for water, then poured the water over my head. An accident (I think!!). She and DH now snoring away but I just can't nod off.

My first baby only slept on me and by 9 months old I literally went crazy. So whilst pregnant with my second I completely researched and tooled myself up and I cannot recommend doing the 4 's' enough.

There's a great YouTube clip I'll try and link to, but basically swaddle (tight), sssssh (loudly), swing (tilt baby head down, gently swing) and suck if needed (pacifier).
It was like a magic trick once we got used to doing it properly.
We also bought an Amby hammock, which gently rocks with any movement your baby makes in the night. They're pricy but we got a second hand one and sold it again for the same price.

Hope you're all getting some shuteye now

Hope your sleeping now.

Im know it goes against all SIDSs advice, but when this was us, we went for side sleeping.
We made the decision that the only risk factor he had was sleeping position (so, term baby, normal weight, breastfed, none smoking house, nothing else in the crib) and that me, as sole carer during the day - and driving to appointments - on minimal sleep was as much of a risk to him. The lack of sleep was also affecting my mental health.

So we didn't put him on his back, and sleep cycles stretched to 1.5- 2 hrs.

This goes against all safe sleeping advice, but it is what we did.

Oh, I remember those nights! I did on one occasion put DC in the bouncy chair. I figured he slept in it during the day so it would be ok that night. Then slept on a camping mat on the floor next to him holding his hand.

The video clip has been removed annoyingly, but I guess it's because no-one would need to buy his book if they watched the clip, but I think this one covers basics (although I've had to watch it muted as still in bed with DH and toddler!)
The key is swaddling properly so they feel as restricted as they did in the womb.

Next thing that I felt was important was to put the baby down to nap/sleep whilst they were calm but still awake do they didn't become fearful of falling asleep without me.