aibu to not tell dh scan results?

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Had a scan at hospital today to check for ovarian cysts. DH couldn't come as he was working, absolutely fine with me, not something I would expect him to attend. Scan was this morning and he hasn't asked how it went so I haven't told him. We talked about it last night so he shouldn't have forgotten. AIBU ?

sounds like your withholding telling him just to prove a point thst he hasn't asked so yes YABU . surely you would mention it to your husband in general convo..

You are a bit. I reckon he's waiting, frozen with fear, for you to tell him how it went.

How did it go?

I agree with Flibberty, he's waiting for you to say.

Stop playing games.

I disagree, I think he should have asked as soon as he got home, or messaged you in the day to ask.

How did it go OP?

YABU. Seems a weird thing to play games with.

I’d be upset if my husband forgot an important appt. especially if it could be life changing. I’d of shouted at him about by now tho. Xx

Can’t you use say it’s disappointing that he forgot?
Far playing wil kustlead to further resentment, so Yabu.
I imagined me the results were fine or you’d focus on that?

Maybe he didn't forget and thinks the OP is not mentioning it because she got bad news and can't bring herself to tell him. He's not a mind reader, neither is the OP. This is how resentment starts. Over nothing.

Sorry, I seemed to go into Dutch there.
I meant game playing will lead to further resentment.

Not unreasonable to be upset he’s not asked. Playing games about it isn’t particularly sensible though. If you need a row about it get it out of the way. Is he normally crap at this sort of thing?

Results were as expected. Cyst on ovary to get another scan in a few months. I just know that if it were the other way round and he had been I hospital for tests I would have phoned or text throughout the day to see how he was. I very much doubt he is scared to ask, don't think there is much we wouldn't say to each other. Maybe AIBU though.

Grow up and tell him.

My dh would assume it was all ok unless I told him it's not. His view is that if he needs to know I will volunteer the info.

He is a bit of a twat but no less loving or caring for that. Just how his brain works. Could your dh be similar?

My H is the same, I’m being investigated for a medical issue and he moved his car out of the way for me to get to my appointment for more tests..even said good luck.
He didn’t ask how I got on but I figured he had probably forgotten as usual!

Do tell him how today went, without rancour. I'm sending you my best wishes for the next scan.

Yes he should have asked, but this game-playing by not telling him the results is only hurting you, not him OP. I think you'll feel better if you tell him.

Hope the cyst isn't causing too much pain OP, and that the time passes quickly until the next scan.

Really rather childish of you tbh

he didn't care enough to ask.. tell him Zilch

I understand where you are coming from !
My Dh is the same, can remember Radom stuff but sometimes forgets the bigger picture
Hope you are ok xx

Well you can go on playing silly games or you can behave like a sensible person.

I wouldnt have married someone who I thought could genuinely just not give a shit so would assume he had somehow forgot, wanted to wait for a more comfortable time to ask or was waiting untill I was ready to mention it.
Sounds quite petty to turn this into a game and refuse to tell him.

Grow up and tell him. Game playing like this has no place in a marriage.

Stop being childish. Just act like an adult and tell him. Its what normal people do. Bet hes nervous to ask. Hope results were ok x

I would have messaged him the results straight away, and he would have done the same the other way round, its called communication and really quite useful in a marriage