Do you/would you like to have flowers delivered at work?

[Bestseller]

I wouldn't and I wonder about those who receive them.

It seems controlling to me, like a DP is marking his territory. It also feels like a reminder (from him to her colleagues) that she's not allowed to have a professional life separate to him, or even a reminder to her colleagues that she's a mere woman, who's head is turned by flowers, rather than a serious professional.

Also, of the women I've worked with over the years who have received regular bouquets, I'd say the vast majority had horrible relationships and the flowers were usually an apology for awful behaviour that would soon be repeated.

My partner sent me flowers to work to let me know he liked me. He didn't tell me, we were only friends then so I spent the whole day trying to figure out who they were from before he confessed. It was the most romantic thing ever 😊

However, I'd hate it now. Back then I worked 10 minutes walk from work, now I have an hour and a half commute and they'd get destroyed.

@Bestseller he's in the military, sometimes he won't be home for weeks, if not months, after the date itself, so flowers when he gets home would be well past the occasion itself. I work with about 5 people, so it's not really a big 'look at me' gesture. He genuinely does it because he knows I love flowers in the house and am thrilled to receive them. He sends them to home if I'm at home, he sends them to my parents if I'm there, it's not limited to the workplace, just wherever I happen to be.

I do genuinely believe I have a good relationship, but I'm unlikely to shout about it. I'm not posting pictures of flowers on FB or wishing him a happy anniversary via FB status when I could have WhatsApped him instead. He's more likely to gripe that I'm always at the yard with the horse and I gripe that he's a hopelessly messy hoarder that leaves the toilet seat up. We love each other, but not in a showy way. When you spend so little time together due to work keeping you apart it's nice to do what you can to make your spouse happy from a distance. Receiving flowers makes me happy and I'm grateful that he recognises that. I don't know why I feel I need to defend him really. I just think it's sad if genuinely decent men trying to do something to make their partners happy are lumped in with abusive, showy men putting a facade on an unhappy relationship, because that couldn't be further from the truth of how I feel about my marriage or DH.