Do you/would you like to have flowers delivered at work?

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I wouldn't and I wonder about those who receive them.

It seems controlling to me, like a DP is marking his territory. It also feels like a reminder (from him to her colleagues) that she's not allowed to have a professional life separate to him, or even a reminder to her colleagues that she's a mere woman, who's head is turned by flowers, rather than a serious professional.

Also, of the women I've worked with over the years who have received regular bouquets, I'd say the vast majority had horrible relationships and the flowers were usually an apology for awful behaviour that would soon be repeated.

I might be a moody cow but no I've never liked it (only happened twice).

It's floral harassment in the workplace.

No I wouldn't. No need for the rest of the workplace to know what's going on in my private life and why I'm being sent flowers.

In my twenties it was nice. I don't work anywhere now to receive them but I guess if its your anniversary/birthday and you won't be home it makes sense to send them to where you work. My OH occasionally buys me flowers. They tend to come from Lidl.

I have a great relationship with DH, and as he meets my colleagues every couple of years, he has no wish to 'mark territory', also because he is a human being and not an animal.

He would send flowers to me at work because I'm not at home to receive them during the day.

'mere woman, who's head is turned by flowers' How does liking flowers diminish your status to a 'mere woman'?

You seem to have a low opinion of yourself that you overthink something when somebody makes a gesture to make to feel special and to put a smile on your face.

What a weird thread to start!

I've had flowers delivered at work- I'm there long hours and wouldn't have been at home to receive them otherwise.

Oh god I'd cringe so much if DH (or anyone) sent me flowers at work.

Yes I have received flowers at work and i love it!
I get them for my birthday, valentines day or our anniversary (not guaranteed every year). I love flowers and dont really understand the need to find malice in the gesture.

No I wouldn't. It's a look how great partner I am statement with little regard for how the recipient is going to transport them home. They are to be envied by others, not an intimate statement from sender and recipient. Yes, it is controlling and is a yes I am great you are unreasonable to think any different, adore me statement.

Used to work in a florists and the only customers who did this were those of the "look aren't I great she's lucky to have me", "ooops I'm sorry I tripped and landed in somebody elses genitals" persuasion. This would then turn to "geeze aren't you over it yet, shut up about it" and "I'm sorry my fist met your face, I'm entitled to a drink to unwind aren't I"

Not the done thing at my work except for leaving gifts from colleagues. They would quickly die as no vases!

No, I'd hate it, total cringe. Fine if they were in a closed box like M&S ones so they weren't on display but not otherwise.

Yes, that's it placebobebo! I also think it's a lazy "grand gesture". It's easy to ring/book them on line and then the receiver has the hassle of getting them home. If the recipient isn't going to be home, then buy them yourself and take them with you when you see them, but of course that won't garner nearly so much attention

I had a boss once who would every so often receive the most beautiful elaborate bouquets- she would give them to the office juniors.

It turns out her husband was having an affair, which at the time she suspected but had no evidence of- she later told us he would send the flowers every time she questioned him.

I've never thought the same about receiving flowers at work since.

I have had them out of the blue from DH and it was lovely. I was going through a tough time and he just wanted to cheer me up.

I once worked in an office which was mostly younger women and on Valentine’s Day it was like a florists! Sounds like a lot of people would have hated it.

My DH works away and is frequently not about on our anniversary/my birthday etc. That's not his fault, it's the nature of his job. He'll leave me a card and gifts and bits but he'll quite often send me flowers too. If he were to send them to our house I wouldn't get them as I'd be at work, so he sends them to my office in order that I do receive them on the day itself.

I work in a tiny office with minimal colleagues, so he's not staking his claim, he's the least controlling man you could ever meet (and I have previously been in a relationship with an emotionally abusive, controlling arsehole, so I'd like to think I can tell the difference!) he just feels bad that he can't be about for whatever the important date is and wants me to know he's thinking about me.

If someone were receiving them every week or for no reason I suppose I might query it after a while. But generally speaking, and particularly if someone receives them on a birthday or an anniversary or something, I wouldn't think there was any malicious intent in it at all, it's just a nice gesture.

I've received them twice from my husband. He knows I hate it and find it really embarrassing. Both times he was trying to apologise and make a gesture. I just found it really awkward and really wished he hadn't...it was more about him wanting to do it then me wanting to receive them.

There's also no hassle in taking them home with me. I just put them in my car... It's not like every single person uses public transport to get to and from work.

I've only ever received them from a company which wanted my business (business they didn't get I should say - it would take a lot more than a bunch of daffs to get me to end an arrangement with a trusted supplier). They had to stay at work as I cycle home. It did make my colleagues smile though.

Carrying flowers home on London transport is a PITA, have done it a few timed and flowers got mashed!

Say what ? Place !

I think that's what makes me feel uncomfortable about it though toastfiend. If he's already arranged a gift and card, why send flowers at all ,if not to make a grand public gesture? Surely one gift is enough, or he can bring flowers when he comes home.

It's the whole "look at me", whether that's look at what a wonderful DH I am, or look at what a wonderful DH I have. There's no need to shout about it and it makes me cringe, especially as I have come to realise with experience, that the people most likely to tell you how good their relationship is are the ones who have all sorts of dark secrets. Obviously there are going to be exceptions, but that's how it seems to me.

I would hate it. It is absolutely not the done thing here and everyone would stare and ask questions.

Also, I work in a building with 4000 people, and our reception staff are utterly shit, so the flowers would never make it to me anyway and I would never know about said show-offy grand gesture.

I’d hate it - smacks of trying to salvage a crap relationship. By contrast if a colleague or client wants to give or send me flowers I’m all over it!

I once received some with a little box containing the end of a tube of rolos - just one left.

I never found out who sent them.

But in general, I haven’t enjoyed receiving flowers at work. It doesn’t happen anymore anyway!

I've had a few times and while I hate being the centre of attention it has always been done with the nicest intentions. Current partner would do it because we can't always get together on birthdays etc. My ex used to do it because he liked to embarrass me. Don't think I've ever known anyone do it to prove ownership or to be belittling.

I’ve known two women who used to have flowers delivered or work.

One her P at the time was godawful and extremely abusive. The flowers were or make him look like a wonderful partner.

The other had an extremely weeelthy partner and they were very much in love and he’d send her flowers because she liked it and felt pampered.