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Is my DM a massive snob

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TheFuckfaceWhisperer · 21/10/2018 11:41

Or does she have a point? I'll start off by saying I live in a council house. I'm the only person in my family in a council house and grew up on a private estate.

I really want some white wooden tier on tier shutters... I know they're expensive but much less to buy direct and DP can fit them. They just look so nice and clean and I've just always loved shutters. I was showing DM what I wanted, she said "People in council houses don't buy nice things like that! They're for people that are homeowners..." I have lived in this house for SIXTEEN YEARS and have no plans on moving for the foreseeable future, my DS is Autistic and would hate to move from the only home he's known so not like it would be a waste of money, but apparently council house tenants shouldn't have such nice things! Would people think I had delusions of grandeur if I got wooden shutters for my council house?

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Caprisunorange · 21/10/2018 11:43

I think your mums comments are bizarre but I also think shutters only suit certain houses. I would love them but have a 1930s semi and they wouldn’t look great (I still wonder if we could just about get away with it though)

HollowTalk · 21/10/2018 11:46

Sometimes you just have to not share things with people who don't want what's best for you.

Have you seen the shutters on other houses? If they look good, buy them. Do what makes you happy.

Huokvcderwdh · 21/10/2018 11:48

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sixtyeleven · 21/10/2018 11:50

There's a modern flat near my work with them installed and (from the outside at least) they look lovely. Go for it, you might live there for another 20 years.

EnidButton · 21/10/2018 11:51

Capri I've seen them in quite a few 1930's houses and they look great. If it's the type of house I'm thinking of. Arched porch doorway, large bay windows? They suit the window shape imo.

TheFuckface I'm afraid your DM is either being a dick or has very rigid ideas about the dos and don't of living in a CH and needs to move with the times. Either way, yes she's being a snob and you should ignore it.

mummyhaschangedhername · 21/10/2018 11:53

I guess the point she is maybe trying to make, and failing, is that some people would view spending large sums on a house you dint own as a waste. Homeowners can mentally off-set some of the cost against the valued added to the house, whereas if you rent, that money is just gone.

However, I think you should do whatever you want to your house, I don't see why it makes a difference to her. If you like them and can easily afford them I don't see why you shouldn't.

NoArmaniNoPunani · 21/10/2018 11:53

Get them. I've got shutters on my boxy 1950's ex council house

SparkyBlue · 21/10/2018 11:54

My neighbor has them and they are beautiful.

Halfahunnerstillastunner · 21/10/2018 11:56

Yes she's a massive snob, or extremely rigid and blinkered in her thinking. Either way, it's unpleasant.
Do what you want, OP, you live there and if you'd enjoy them, why not?

MrsJayy · 21/10/2018 11:59

Your mum is a twat buy your shutters and enjoy them, in fact have a shutter party invite friends family and snobby mother round to admire them Grin

AviatorShades · 21/10/2018 12:32

I've always lived in countries with shutters since I left home x years ago Always my preferenceSmile
Only question is - are white shutters the best option here? If your house is redbrick, might green or brown or even red perhaps be a better fit?.
Your mum? Everso nicely, tell her to zip it. Your choice,your money. Smile
Have fun with your shutters, OP.

Neshoma · 21/10/2018 12:37

Do you think she is jealous? She knows they will look good so doesn't want you to have them.

user450788 · 21/10/2018 12:42

I can’t really fathom what motivates people to say things like that - if you like the look of them and want to spend your money on them, it is nobody else’s business.

Otterseatpuffinsdontthey · 21/10/2018 12:49

Do you mean plantation shutters?

GreatDuckCookery6211 · 21/10/2018 12:51

Do you think she is jealous? She knows they will look good so doesn't want you to have them

What!? The old jealous comment is getting ridiculous now.

wowfudge · 21/10/2018 13:25

Reverse snobbery. Bizarre thing for her to say. Ime most people who buy former council houses do work, etc which makes it obvious they are no longer council houses. I wouldn't worry about it. Maybe she things you shouldn't spend a lot of money on the house (shutters are expensive) because it's not going to change its location, etc.?

wowfudge · 21/10/2018 13:25

Thinks, not things

Bluearsedfly36 · 21/10/2018 13:33

Sorry, she's being a dick. Do what you want. I tell my mum nothing.

OneStepMoreFun · 21/10/2018 13:35

Get what you like. I think your mum sounds a bit set in her ways. We live near some council houses and a few of them have wooden slatted shutters. They look fine there, just as they do anywhere else. The houses that have them tend to be the cleaner, neater ones. They make a place look cared for.

SpoonBlender · 21/10/2018 13:38

She's an awful snob.

Remember you're supposed to register your intent to make a change like that to a council house though.

MrsJayy · 21/10/2018 14:01

We were council tennants for 15 years we put in our own kitchen AND bathroom did have to get permission though our council kitchen had zero storage

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TheFuckfaceWhisperer · 21/10/2018 14:03

Thanks everyone! I’ll ignore her comments...

*Remember you're supposed to register your intent to make a change like that to a council house though•
I didn’t know this... I didn’t tell them when I put my blinds up, I don’t know anybody that did. Did I do wrong?

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Didiusfalco · 21/10/2018 14:04

Your mums wrong obviously, but I must admit to spending too much on my council house when we had one. When we moved I felt a bit silly about it.

MrsJayy · 21/10/2018 14:39

Is it inside or outtside shutters ? If it is inside you don't need to inform your LA because they are window dressings like your blinds but if it is outside you might need to because it changes the property, btw you did nothing wrong you are allowed to have blinds

maddiemookins16mum · 21/10/2018 14:41

I think the shutters are the least of your problems with your mum.