Is my DM a massive snob

[TheFuckfaceWhisperer]

Or does she have a point? I'll start off by saying I live in a council house. I'm the only person in my family in a council house and grew up on a private estate.

I really want some white wooden tier on tier shutters... I know they're expensive but much less to buy direct and DP can fit them. They just look so nice and clean and I've just always loved shutters. I was showing DM what I wanted, she said "People in council houses don't buy nice things like that! They're for people that are homeowners..." I have lived in this house for SIXTEEN YEARS and have no plans on moving for the foreseeable future, my DS is Autistic and would hate to move from the only home he's known so not like it would be a waste of money, but apparently council house tenants shouldn't have such nice things! Would people think I had delusions of grandeur if I got wooden shutters for my council house?

Is it inside or outtside shutters ? If it is inside you don't need to inform your LA because they are window dressings like your blinds

Ah thanks, they’re inside ones to replace my blind. I panicked then thinking I should have been informing the council every time I put blinds up!

Put an old sofa in the front garden cover it on old nappies ( borrow them if u have to) then set fire to it. Leave it there for 6 months, garnish with an old broken kitchen appliance.
See if that makes her happy??!!

statetrooperstacey She would have an absolute fit! Growing up I wasn't even allowed to eat anything outside as it was "common" let alone have anything in full view! What would the neighbours think...

I have these in my new build flat and they're one of my favourite things that we chose. They look so neat and more put together from the outside than our curtains on the other side.

Go for it and tell your mum to shush.

what a nasty thing to say

mine would say similar, i spent years trying to get her approval in general, ive given up now and am much happier

Is she trying to say that may be they won't suit your style of house? I think that sometimes if houses in a street are all a particular style and then somebody dresses their house up differently (shutters, pebbledash, window boxes etc) sometimes it can look a bit odd.

Ah - sorry to panic you! I just remembered filling out the form when we put a shower in at mums. I did think you meant outside shutters.

Listen to your mum! They are ubiquitous and will be the very expensive avocado bathroom suite equivalent (along with down lights) in a couple of years.

For me I wouldn't do it because it isn't my actual home if you have one of the older style lifelong tenancies then I can see why you would though.

I am probably your Mothers generation and it really was considered by many as dreadful to eat outside in the street apart from maybe fish and chips at the seaside or ice cream. On my fiftieth birthday I bought a cake for breakfast because I could and thought I will eat this in the street because I can :) my Grandmother was a Victorian and my Mother had me at an advanced age so I was brought up in a very old fashioned way back in the late seventies and early eighties.

Some older social norms are seen as snobbery but some of the behaviors are really about having what were considered good manners at the time. Those manners such as eating in the street are seen as irrelevant by most today but it really was a thing back then for many.

It is the op home though she has been in her house years it doesn't sound like she is planning to move anytime soon

What a sad comment sad that she is so rigid in who can have what ! Personally I don’t like them partly because they have taken over whole streets and often just don’t fit the look of the buildings - I think of them as southern states USA/Caribbean etc. Really odd to see whole streets of Victorian or even Georgian properties with them. Think my real objection is that they are so expensive and seem a real ‘keeping up with the jones’ Type needless spend. I realise iabu here. I like them a lot just not on many uk properties.

She sounds like my mother, who's declined to visit our house for the last 22 years because 'It looks like a council house ' (ex RAF house) and in the previous twenty years refused to come because we were farmers and she didn't like the smell of animals 😳☹️
I don't think she's visited me more than a handful of times and only if brought by others!
Go for it OP, life's too short to be iinfluenced by the unreasonable.