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Worried about my unborn baby after car crash

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lulocket · 20/10/2018 09:34

Hi everyone, I was hoping to get some advice/ reassurance from some fellow mums/mums to be at this time. I found out last week that I was pregnant for the second time. We have a lovely little girl who's just turned 3, so we were very excited to find out little one number 2 was on the way. I'm probably only about 8 weeks so early days at the minute. I'm a postie by day, ( so early mornings don't phase me lol😉) however yesterday just threw my life upside down. As I was on my way to work about 5.30am my car was crashed into by someone going too quickly and lost it trying to turn into the junction. Ended up on my side of the road and hit the front of my car. Air bags, smoke, couldn't open my driver's side door and had to try and scramble out of the passenger side. My first worry wasn't for my car, or even myself, all I could worry about was my baby. The ambulance said that it was too early for the hospital to do anything so I should just check for anything different. Should I be worried? I feel like I've been battered with baseball bats, but I don't care about that, I just can't stop worrying about my little bean. Just don't have anyone to talk to.

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ItchySeveredFoot · 20/10/2018 09:38

God that sounds scary! I think you should make an appointment with your gp at least and they can either reassure you or refer you as needed.

LIZS · 20/10/2018 09:38

Have you booked in with a mw yet? You could ring them or the epu for advice.

Magstermay · 20/10/2018 09:39

for you.

They’re quite well protected at this age so hopefully all will be well. You could contact your EPU as they may do a scan if it is causing you so much worry, or you could look at a private scan, I think I had one about 9 weeks.

Rufusthebewilderedreindeer · 20/10/2018 09:40

I would go and see the dr for a scan

It is early but as i was at risk of miscarriage i had one at about 7 weeks so it is doable

Just to set your mind at rest

LongSummerDays · 20/10/2018 09:47

I would go to the gp to put your mind at rest. it sounded horrendous! Look after yourself x

Musicalmistress · 20/10/2018 09:49

For your own peace of mind it’s worth going to doc but - they are incredibly well protected by your body at this stage. 💐

Teakind · 20/10/2018 09:54

I’m so sorry that happened to you. It must have been terrifying. From my understanding, they are still nice and protected in your pelvis at that time so hopefully it won’t have caused any damage. Have you had an cramps or bleeding? If not I’d feel reassured.

I also think you should call your local EPU though, explain what happened and hopefully they will offer you a scan. At 7/8 weeks that should definately be able to see a heartbeat. Let us know how you get on x

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lulocket · 20/10/2018 09:55

Hi, we've got our first appointment on Tuesday. I rang the centre yesterday and spoke to them and they said to go to a and e if anything major changes. So far ' bean ' seems undisturbed. Even my morning sickness has arrived on time today lol

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Howmanysleepstilchristmas · 20/10/2018 09:58

I’d get checked out- they can do internal scans if needed/ check heartbeat- but just for your peace of mind. The baby is very well protected at this age so likely fine. If you were bleeding I’d wonder about placental abruption, but you’re not so I think all is v likely fine. FWIW I fell all the way from the top of the stairs at that stage in my first pregnancy, damaged muscles in my back and hurt my stomach. I literally couldn’t walk, but they didn’t check the baby as they’re so well protected early on. He was fine.

sunshinerobots · 20/10/2018 10:05

I was in a major crash at 23 wks pregnant, car flipped twice, air ambulance etc. I was lucky to not have worse injuries and I was terrified for the baby (airbags etc). Remarkably he was just fine, his movements reduced for about 3 days as midwives said he would be startled too, they monitored me closely for about 2 weeks but my 6 wk old baby is now sleeping soundly on me. It's more than likely your little one will be absolutely fine. Try not to worry and make sure you are resting eating and drinking, it's such a big shock. Take care

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lulocket · 20/10/2018 10:44

Thank you everyone for your kind words. It is so hard not to worry, even when everything seems ok. My back and my shoulder are very sore this morning and I must have smacked my knee on the underside of the dash in the crash as it's gone a lovely shade of purple this morning. But if I'm honest , I've probably had worse injuries while out delivering the post lol . Seriously though, it's hard to tell if anything is 'wrong' at this stage. I've had no bleeding or stomach pains. My morning sickness seems to be as usual. I'm hoping all this means everything is as it should be for now.

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Babdoc · 20/10/2018 10:53

It’s difficult to envisage any mechanism by which your pregnancy could have been impacted by a low speed car crash at this early stage, OP. Your uterus will still be entirely within your bony pelvis, and has not been subjected to any shearing forces or massive deceleration.
I’m prepared to eat a very large hat if the crash has had any effect at all, other than to give you a shock and some bruising!
Try to put the horrible experience behind you and look forward to seeing your first scan. Miscarriages do occur naturally, but your accident really shouldn’t have increased your risk above baseline.

StillMedusa · 20/10/2018 11:05

I was cut out of my car at 30 weeks after a drunk driver hit us at speed. I had to be monitored overnight as baby went quiet for a few hours, but was absolutely fine . Our bodies are built to protect :)

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lulocket · 20/10/2018 11:06

Babdoc, thanks for the reasurance. My car was totally written off. He took a tight corner at over 40mph and smacked headfirst into the front of my car on my side of the road. Not exactly high speed, no, but the impact was enough to crush my engine and set both air bags off. The massive jolt that I received has caused me pain elsewhere but I was just worried that it,not the seatbelt strap tightening across my lap might have caused problems for the baby. But as you say, if it's still fairly safe low down at the minute, I'm hoping that they were all fine .

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lulocket · 24/10/2018 17:05

Hi everyone, just thought I would update this thread. Things started to go downhill on Sunday. I started bleeding a small amount so I contacted NHS who contacted the midwife. Well long story short, I ended up having an early scan and some blood tests, however, the scan hasn't shown anything significant. Unfortunately my hormone blood tests have not been positive as the level has dropped since Monday 😢. I've got a long agonising wait for another week or so before they plan on doing another scan to say for certain if the pregnancy has failed. I really can't comprehend what's going on , but I obviously need to be prepared for the worst and that I'm losing my baby.

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noenergy · 24/10/2018 17:21

So sorry to hear this but sit tight for the next week, all may be ok.

I hope the other driver was caught, the idiot deserves his license taken off them for a start

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lulocket · 27/10/2018 18:28

Hi everyone, it is with a heavy heart that I am going to tell you that last night I ended up having a full miscarriage and losing my baby. 😢😢 They feel that the car crash ruptured something and they felt that a silent miscarriage had occurred at the time and it took the following week for my body to reject it. My husband and I are devastated at the minute, but we have to be grateful for the beautiful little girl that we already have. I wish everyone out there all the luck and love in the world with their pregnancies and little ones, as this has taught me that life can be cruel and we should be thankful for what we do have. Thank you for all of your kind words, Lucy

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QuestionTime2018 · 27/10/2018 18:32

That’s awfully sad Lucy.

Hope your crash injuries heal. Hope the driver gets punished for all the pain caused.

DontCallMeCharlotte · 27/10/2018 18:37

Oh God how sad. So sorry to hear that and I make no apologies for sending hugs

SheBangsit · 27/10/2018 18:42

That's awful and I'm sorry to hear of your loss. I genuinely wouldn't have thought a baby would be in any danger, but perhaps a car crash is more violent than I thought. Take care.

Nicknacky · 27/10/2018 19:05

I am so sorry to hear that, how terrible for you all x

OrdinaryGirl · 27/10/2018 20:57

Oh Lucy I am so sorry to read this. I saw the thread when you posted and didn't have anything useful to add - but want to send you a huge hug now. (((((L))))) Holding you in my thoughts.

crimsonlake · 27/10/2018 21:53

That is just terrible and so sad. I was just reading this thread and it all sounded quite positive, then this. I am very sorry for your loss.

Enko · 27/10/2018 23:01

sorry to hear your news. be good to yourself

Howmanysleepstilchristmas · 28/10/2018 00:03

There are no words to express how sorry I am for your devastating loss.

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