Half Job Harry / Harriete

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Enlighten me with your OH's half job anecdotes

Hangs laundry and leaves it outside for 5 days.

Notices out of date yogurt, takes out of the fridge and leaves on counter for 4 days, or until I deal with it, whichever comes first (second always comes first)

Lighthearted. No "you should count yourself like that ...." please 😁

Istherainwvercomingback -

I call Dp half a job Bob he does a lot of these.

Can’t bear a half a job Bob me.

Lighthearted was the intention!!!

OK, I will think of my half jobs that probably drive OH's mad!

Mmhhh but I think those are whole jobs, I NEVER wash the car and I Rarely do the vacuuming.

But those are whole jobs!

Honestly just meant to be funny, it can be your sister, or friend!!!!

I just thought I got frustrated at him "changing the sheets" this morning and instead of making drama I would have a good healthy laugh!

alright arthur
half a job bob

i did not know there were names for this!

it's like they're working to rule!

and is actually a consequence of the fact that subconsciously they don't see any of the stuff as anything whatsoever to do with them, it's not their "job". So the women (generally) have the lists in their heads on top of everything else and the men just bimble off like a teenager and do a half arsed job at something that deep down they feel is not their job...

I have one of these a bit but I am frank and say I;m not your fucking mother wtf i asked you to lay the table - just cutlery? what about plaets cups jesus christ man you're not 12 and then he looks sad and does it...

TBF I am a PITA to live with as well

But I do think this is a consequence of entrenched subconscious views about who does what. This is probably also why so many of us put up with it as well...

To add some balance, I’ve probably been more guilty of it than dh. I start with a great vision or idea (usually has some root in Pinterest 🙄) and then something gets in the way and errrm it just doesn’t get finished 😳. I’m not as bad for it these days as have a lot going on elsewhere and I have the self awareness to know I’m not going to see it through

My favourite is when something is left in the proximity of the rubbish bin but not in it.

It's the washing in this house. The process for dh begins and ends with putting a load in the washing machine and switching it on. It would sit in their wet for days if I didn't step in.

*there

'can you take the loo rolls upstairs' = loo rolls, in packaging, deposited in the middle of the bathroom floor. Presumably ready for me to remove them from the packaging and place them in the cupboard. I'm relieved I'm not the only one, I thought it was just that my partner was a bit stupid. But why do otherwise sensible and helpful men do this? (I'm sure I also have many failings that annoy my partner)

@WraithBabe I know the answer to this one!!!
Apparently you need to specify and say "could you put these in the cupboard"

😄

Washes the pots and 'cleans' the kitchen, all without wiping the crumbs from the surfaces. I've started making a point of supervising his cleaning and finally he seems to be getting the point about wiping down the surfaces. I hate nagging him, but short term pain for long term gain I guess. I ignored it for five years, I can't take it anymore!

Wraithbabe look at my post earlier

Deep down and subconsciously, they dont' really feel like it's their "job".

I also hate putting laundry away.

It loiters in baskets at the bottom of the stairs for ages.

Of course I have just realised that I subconsciosly see this as "my job" - as it never crossed my mind that DH could carry it upstairs and put it away. Of course he will if I ask (tell) him to and that's one job he actually does properly - he knows whose socks are whose and which drawer etc which is actually quite tricky as me and the DDs all have the same size feet

My DH has not unpacked half of his clothes from when we moved 3 years ago. That's the mere tip of the iceberg.

In the interests of fairness, I have to be asked to do the dusting. I can be relied upon to hoover as I enjoy that, but I can never be arsed to finish the job by dusting as well.

When DH sweeps the floor he insists on just sweeping it all into one corner and abandoning it there, with brush propped next to it. Every fucking time

Takes the empty toilet roll tube off the holder but then rests it on the bath rather than put it in the bin, one step away.

I call him half a job Charlie!

Nothing I think you're absolutely spot on. Sad, isn't it? My partner is a great, hands on Dad, we split the housework 50/50, he's liberal and enlightened but still there is this underlying assumption about our roles that he's not even aware of!

Mine washes the dishes but doesn't put them away. Washes clothes, but again doesn't put them away. Half tidies up a room, like literally half the room.

He does finish diy jobs though at least, and he fixes my car. So he's useful sometimes.

DP is a 'cleans the dishes but never the sides' bloke too.

I dust around objects, as I'm too lazy to move them.

When DP or one of the DSes empties the dishwasher, there are always several things left out that they just can't seem to cope with putting away.

So, the lid of the pressure cooker, the lemon squeezer, the pyrex jug, the salad spinner...basically anything more avante garde than plates, cups, knives and forks seems to blow their tiny minds.

Does my capable female nut in.

Ah SheSparkles my twin! My bathroom has born the brunt of this. I started sanding the skirting boards. I have literally stopped halfway round the door. Ran out of sanding paper. Never quite got round to buying more. It’s been two months.

We still have no bedroom curtains after 3 years. I have everything to make them (which took 2 years) but just haven’t got round to it.

My ds’s quilt is half done. I say half, I mean I have sewn it together but just have to finish hand quilting it.

I have four rows left to knit on a jumper. Four. It took me a year to knit and I have four rows left.

But my DH hasn’t painted the porch ceiling for 3 years so we’re totally even!

@Moreisnnogedag nothing worse than facing those last few rows and tucking in the yarn tails!!

Mine is another one who does the washing up but never wipes down the worktops.

Feeds the cat but always leave the empty box in the cupboard when he uses the last pouch.

Uses the kettle but puts it down on the counter instead of back on the stand, which is right next to where he’s left the kettle.

I’m rubbish with the laundry though, do a few loads a day but never put it away once it’s dry. It just piles up in the washing basket until I can’t fit anymore in.