Social media getting me down

[whymewhyme]

Hi,
Just wondering if anybody else feels down when they go on social media? by that I mean Instagram ( don't do Facebook) I go on and see all these happy shiny people with fantastic lives with show homes for houses, they don't work ( l know insta is their job) there children are perfect and they have days out to amazing places and are constantly doing hauls ect!

I can't relate at all, I have a house but it rented and we're trying to save but I still thinks it's lovely even if I have a second hand sofa lol my job is great but challenging as I do nights so I'm often tired and my child is going through the hell of the terrible twos and as for days out they don't happen much because we are both working and we haven't got a lot of spare cash. But I do have a lovely outdoorsy life spent with dogs and a horse so this is by no means a pity party. I know that half they stuff they have is #gifted or paid to do hauls ect but I still find myself feeling deflated when they are going on day trips to Disney land Paris and we're spent the morning painting and the afternoon with our horse and then eithe myself of my Dh goes to work. It's all so "perfect" I think a part of me is envious tbh.

Just to add I'm not slating anybody who does this for a living at all and I do enjoy following theses ppl just occasionally it gets to me. I think I'm going to have a little break, get on with my life instead of focusing on others!

Just wondering if I'm alone in this one or am I just being pathetic lol 😂

You need to remember it's staged!!

A few have admitted to living in social housing...rented,same as you!

dont follow people like that then

My mother always says:

if you don't like the music, leave the band

Repeat slowly after me:

IT. IS. A. MANUFACTURED. REALITY.

HTH

Get rid of it. I haven't got any social media accounts whatever and I am far, far happier! Been social media free for just over 2 years now!  I don't care what anyone else does or what they are up to!

OP there are thousands and thousands of articles about just this - it's not a revelation, people have been saying the same thing for years now..

Just unfollow/leave IG - I promise you won't miss them/it..

Deleted it! I feel better already!

Yes it's awful. Get off it. I felt so much better after a month off facebook.

There are those on SM who post every detail of their perfect lives and perfect kids with teams and reams of photos.

It makes me wonder how much their kids see their parents looking at a screen and uploading shit rather than paying attention to them. Fine for a photo but not much else.

It's not real, don't be tempted to go back.

It's really not all it seems. Look at that awful story in the news a few months ago, a family seemed to have the perfect life and lots of smiling faces and talk of love and how blessed they were, turns out they were deep in debt and he was having an affair and he murdered his pregnant wife and both kids www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-us-canada-45254320

Enjoy your lovely life OP, social media is not always all it seems

I lasted about half a day on instagram. It was just wall to wall rampant showing off.

Many years ago, I happened to be massing a friend on social media's house and, as I had something to drop off that they wanted I messaged ahaead and said I'd drop by.

Her house was not immaculate, yet her FB profile pictures showed it was. Always.
Her kids pictures were up on the kitchen cupboards, they looked like the normal blobs of paint a 4 year old would do NOT the oh so clever this looks exactly like a tree/swan/angel etc (which were clearly adult painted for FB to look like a child had done them - those were not on display)
And her bilingual 4 year old who could play the piano could not speak French or play the piano (beyond bashing the notes unharmoniously)..

It's all a lie.

Can I recommend a book? How to do everything and be happy by Peter Jones. I dont compare myself to others now because I have my own happiness goals. Thats how I measure - by measuring what I do against my goals.

‘Poor old me with my lovely horse, outdoorsy life and lovely time with my kids painting and doing lovely things. Oh woe! We rent the lovely roof we have over our heads which the job I love pays for ’

You see? Everyone does it.

paid to do hauls
constantly doing hauls ect

What is hauls?

I don't have Instagram but I did have fb and snapchat, I deleted both on Sunday and I already feel so much better.

Social media is great for keeping in touch with people but my god it was making me depressed 😬

I finally snapped on Sunday and delete them after having fb for 8/9 years, it's hard to know what to do with myself now because I'm so used to having a look when I sit down but I'm getting used to it.

We're going through financial difficulty atm and I was just getting rage with people constantly bragging and showing off, talking about Xmas (our Xmas is going to be crap this year 😢 dreading it)

Oh OP. Don't believe the hype. Glad you deleted social media - I say as someone who's idea of SM is mumsnet and even this is depressing sometimes!

Life without social media is amazing. I have been living it (twitter, facebook, insta and everything else) forever because I never joined any of them in the first place so I never see this crap and ignorance is bliss. Plus it is the sure fire way to fade out useless "friendships" and CF

whose FFS

queenbeetofive

This too will pass

I actually feel a bit sorry for them, having to pretend and stage your life all the time. It's a very shallow way of living.

Once when a work colleague of mine went on holiday with her bf, and she was posting lots if happy pictures of them both looking like they were having a great time.
When she came back to work, I asked her how her holiday went. "It was awful" she said "all we did was argue"
That was not the holiday she had portrayed on Instagram

@MrsIcandothis thank you,I know it will but just so hard atm

@MrsIcandothis I see I was logged in with my other username lol whoops 😬

I am friends with someone who's business is promoted through SM.

I will see her photos, dressed up looking amazing going out somewhere amazing. I text and ask where she's off to, she send me the unedited photo where I can see her legs still pjs!
It is totally staged.

Comparison is the thief of joy

Think back to the time before the internet - you put pictures of happy and shining and important instances of your and your loved ones lives in a fotoalbum or pictures that embodied your wishes.
You didn't take fotos of the shitty moments.

It's only different because today you can have easy access to other peoples 'albums'. If you don't like what they post, don't look. It's not like they force you to sit through a dozend of family albums you can't politely escape from.

Or do as my DD does - follow people who share one of your interests and ignore the rest.