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Social media getting me down

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whymewhyme · 18/10/2018 15:32

Hi,
Just wondering if anybody else feels down when they go on social media? by that I mean Instagram ( don't do Facebook) I go on and see all these happy shiny people with fantastic lives with show homes for houses, they don't work ( l know insta is their job) there children are perfect and they have days out to amazing places and are constantly doing hauls ect!

I can't relate at all, I have a house but it rented and we're trying to save but I still thinks it's lovely even if I have a second hand sofa lol my job is great but challenging as I do nights so I'm often tired and my child is going through the hell of the terrible twos and as for days out they don't happen much because we are both working and we haven't got a lot of spare cash. But I do have a lovely outdoorsy life spent with dogs and a horse so this is by no means a pity party. I know that half they stuff they have is #gifted or paid to do hauls ect but I still find myself feeling deflated when they are going on day trips to Disney land Paris and we're spent the morning painting and the afternoon with our horse and then eithe myself of my Dh goes to work. It's all so "perfect" I think a part of me is envious tbh.

Just to add I'm not slating anybody who does this for a living at all and I do enjoy following theses ppl just occasionally it gets to me. I think I'm going to have a little break, get on with my life instead of focusing on others!

Just wondering if I'm alone in this one or am I just being pathetic lol 😂

OP posts:
ItLooksABitOff · 18/10/2018 18:45

I deleted FB and Insta nearly 9 months ago. No lie - I feel soooo much better.

whymewhyme · 18/10/2018 21:13

@Mumbojumbob no I don't see? I was trying to get my point across that I'm happy with my lot and have a nice life and I feel like it gets me down because I can't relate!

Thank to everyone else who replied, least I'm not the only one!

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cantquitebelieveit12 · 18/10/2018 22:18

honestly just delete it, I quite enjoy parts of it but think it would be a better world particularly for our youth if social media didn’t exist.

PersonaNonGarter · 18/10/2018 22:34

Well done for deleting, OP.

I have Fb (for messenger) and Insta for interior design ideas. I hardly ever go on because both leave me feeling weirdly stressed for at least half an hour afterwards. I have to fast scroll over the random people I know taking insanely sunny smooth skinned selfies. It’s awful!

The mad thing is - I truly have a much better life than 90% of them by any objective measure. SM just brings out a horrible feeling of inadequacy in me.

Ellisandra · 18/10/2018 22:50

I love Facebook. Only have friends on there, and I’m happy to see their happy posts (they are mostly happy posts, the nature of the beast).

I don’t follow random on Instagram. Not because it would make me feel down, but because it would make me feel bored. I will never understand why people give a fuck about following these stuff! Specific stuff like crafts or fashion maybe? But just general “have a look at my (fake) life” stuff? No. I feel really old because I just don’t get the rise.

Well done for deleting!

citiesofbismuth · 19/10/2018 00:05

I don't have Instagram, but I'd love to do a realistic one.

Messy house, chaotic life, eating non healthy foods, poor school reports, crap outfits, unkempt garden etc. 😂

SpoonBlender · 19/10/2018 00:50

I've never understood why simply unfollowing anyone who's pics don't make you happy is a tricky concept. JFDI.

I've ended up following a couple of dozen (real life) friends, a couple of authors who take/make lovely photos, and some science stuff. It's always positive and never makes me jealous or down.

On the other side I don't do Facebook at all except occasionally for people's birthdays. Facebook is the pits.

Except for Twitter. Twitter is the very depths of hell. Friends don't let friends do Twitter.

SpoonBlender · 19/10/2018 00:50

*whose dammit

TillyVonMilly · 19/10/2018 09:46

IG life = perfect loving partner who helps with kids and home
Cute intelligent children always well behaved
Perfect show home
Fabulous family holidays in exotic locations

Real life = partner who may or may not help with kids and house but will drive you nuts at times
Kids will do your head in, rub Nutella in the carpet while you are trying to unload Lego from the washer, answer the phone and save the cat from a two year old terrorist

Your home will look like a hurricane passed through yesterday despite having been nice and tidy the day before

Holidays are normal life but in a smaller space , and with extra arguments Grin

PurpleCrazyHorse · 19/10/2018 10:16

I deleted my FB account earlier in the year and although I now have a new account, I only follow two groups and have my DH as a friend (because we need it for our sat nav app). My bio says I don't accept friend requests and don't post. Honestly I've not missed it.

I'm still on Instagram but mostly to catch up on groups I follow but everything is staged. Even my photos (which I don't put up much), I choose the 'best' one, maybe move stuff out of the background etc. I like the idea of a real life IG account though Grin

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