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'It is what it is'

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Doonewanker · 12/10/2018 17:38

Has anyone else now had quite enough of this phrase? It's been around for donkey's years but surely it's now facing a total overkill over the past year or two on telly, social media and amongst friends. Politicians and reality tv slebs use it as frequently as each other.

DH has started to use it now and said it to me quite earnestly over the phone this pm. He has no idea how it makes my teeth itch. I should tell him. Before I kill him.

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DoYouLikeBasghetti · 12/10/2018 19:17

You are so right, it drives me insane. It sets my teeth on edge and makes my toes clench. Flowers

DoYouLikeBasghetti · 12/10/2018 19:17

That sounded sarcastic. It wasn't. I agree with OP.

Bluetrews25 · 12/10/2018 19:24

You might try to make us all stop saying it. OP, but at the end of the day, you can only do what you can do. This might be a step too far.
Grin

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Doonewanker · 12/10/2018 19:24

Basghetti - all in here!

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Doonewanker · 12/10/2018 19:27

Yes. At the end of the day, when all's said is done, what can you do? End of. 150%.

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PumperLucy · 12/10/2018 19:28

Is it wine time yet? 😤
No, it's getting fucked on wine time you pretentious twat!

User24689 · 12/10/2018 19:30

DH is from Stoke where they use the great phrase " It's just one of them". First few times I heard it I was mentally asking '... One of what?'

HappyEverIftar · 12/10/2018 20:11

I bloody hate this phrase. I do all I can to avoid it, but DH and colleagues use it all the time.

In my book, it means we can't change what we may be able to. It's so defeatist.

Lobsterquadrille2 · 12/10/2018 21:08

Agree; I hate it too. It reminds me of working in local government, along with forward planning (as if there's any other kind), inform the process, and don't throw the baby out with the bathwater.

Growingboys · 12/10/2018 21:09

Everyone is suddenly saying this and it is the most annoying phrase ever.

Can't stand it.

DragonGoby · 12/10/2018 21:11

Yes! See also ‘we are where we are’.

Cuttingthegrass · 12/10/2018 23:09

What comes around goes around

Or is it what goes around comes around?

blackheartsgirl · 13/10/2018 01:34

Ooo i like it Blush

It summed up a shit time for me back in may which luckily had a good out come in the end but i didnt know it was a trend.

I hate lets get it all 'boxed off'. A manager used to say it all the time in our 'huddles' grrrr

MistressDeeCee · 13/10/2018 01:45

Well at the end of the day...when all said & done..it is what it is

anyone who says this utter tripe to me is under threat of imminent death tho

user1493423934 · 13/10/2018 06:57

Note to self
It is what it is
What will be, will be
Build a bridge and get over it

Any time I hear any of those sayings I want to stab someone (usually person saying it).

OliviaStabler · 13/10/2018 07:05

NO. "This is it" is NOT fine! Grin

This is it is a very good song by Huey Lewis and The News.

StealthPolarBear · 13/10/2018 07:11

User I thought you were trying poetry!
To the pp who mentioned local government, working there was the first time I heard it too.

PinkAvocado · 13/10/2018 07:13

I’ve noticed it being used a lot more recently; especially on shows that I’m not the target audience for (The Circle and Love Island for example). It seems to be used when someone is treated badly but cannot see a way to do anything about it.

Nettled · 13/10/2018 07:35

Yes, it’s maddening, but the football pundit’s favourite, ‘It’s a game of two halves’ is marginally worse, and it’s someone chirping ‘The proof is in the pudding!’ that makes me want to beat them to death with my shoe.

thenewaveragebear1983 · 13/10/2018 07:53

My Dh says ‘we will see what we will see’ and it makes me want to punch him. It’s usually when I am speculating and pondering, usually the worst outcome of some situation, or several possible outcomes of a situation (for no reason except that it’s conversation and interesting to think about) and it’s basically his way of killing the conversation. It gives me the rage.

He also says ‘we’ll play it by ear’ and that also enrages me. I like firm plans, dammit. It was nearly a deal breaker when we first got together because I was a single parent with very limited free time, I’d get a Saturday night free and he’d say ‘we’ll play it by ear’ so I’d end up not knowing what I was doing on my very rare free night.

ButAIBUtho · 13/10/2018 09:09

I hate it when my husband says that.
It's not a fucking answer. It's a pointless waste of breath.

Another thing I hate, since we're here, is when I ask him a question and he says "I don't know I haven't thought about it."

Errr well me asking you means you turn your brain on and think about it. I need a bastard answer. It will be something I need to know, like what hours he's working next week or what he wants to do for dinner.
"I don't know I haven't thought about it"
IS NOT AN ANSWER.

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Doonewanker · 13/10/2018 14:29

I do like the concept of being able to say, 'it's a bit of a shit situation, this, and we seem to be stuck with it'.

I just don't like this effing phrase. It's overused and bloody annoying.

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CrispbuttyNo1 · 13/10/2018 14:32

The other latest phrases seem to be “can we not” and “ you got this” .. both equally annoying

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Doonewanker · 13/10/2018 14:32

And it's usually said in a shouty or smug/shut dowm way which has probably made me hate it more.

But its frequency and trend is what has set me off the most.

It needs to go into Room 101.

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MarmiteTermite · 13/10/2018 14:40

Our CF neighbour used the phrase “we are where we are” after they built their wall in our garden Angry