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Oh my god. I’m so embarrassed.

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Mummysharkdoodoodoo · 09/10/2018 20:30

My 9yo ds heard me and his dad have sex. I’m so embarrassed!!

We got carried away downstairs about half an hour ago, I don’t moan or scream etc but must have been abit loud!!

Just went to make sure they are asleep and ds tells me he needs new headphones as his have stopped working. As I walked out he said he was going to use them to go sleep “so he doesn’t hear anything”.

How the feck do I fix this.

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FunSponges · 09/10/2018 20:32

I'm going to live up to my username. But WTF were you thinking having sex in a communal area of your house at 8pm? It's not likely that a 9 year old would have been asleep, he could easily have come down, mine always come back down at some point.

You can't fix it.

AnneLovesGilbert · 09/10/2018 20:34

You check the DC are asleep BEFORE being noisy together downstairs Hmm

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Mummysharkdoodoodoo · 09/10/2018 20:34

They never do once they go bed then that’s it.

It was actually the first time ever, and thought our bedroom would be more louder as it’s right next door 🙈🙈

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Mummysharkdoodoodoo · 09/10/2018 20:36

Plus he normally has his headphones on and can’t even hear my shouting his name really loud 🙈

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Echobelly · 09/10/2018 20:36

You never speak of it again. Wink

One morning after doing the deed we opened bedroom door to find DD (then 6) sitting crosslegged right outside and asking 'What were you doing?'

'Nothing!'

buttybuttybutthole · 09/10/2018 20:36

Ah I don't think it matters too much, it's more healthy for them to know you have a loving relationship than hate each others guts (unless you do)!

I would apologise and explain that you should have kept it privateGrin

buttybuttybutthole · 09/10/2018 20:37

Ha ha yes we do 'nothing' a lot. And talking about ChristmasGrin

llangennith · 09/10/2018 20:38

I wouldn't mention it!

FissionChips · 09/10/2018 20:39

Hmm There’s a thread about almost this exact same scenario every 2 months or so, perhaps searching for those will provide advice.

ThroughThickAndThin01 · 09/10/2018 20:42

Ignore ignore ignore.

Ds then aged 16 complained he had heard us having sex with a disgusted look on his face. I was just pleased he had got to 16 and it was the first he’d heard it.

Crunchymum · 09/10/2018 20:43

Is this a stealth boast? Grin

SummerStrong · 09/10/2018 20:45

I think if you're having sex in your sitting room at 8pm then you probably aren't that bothered if your DC see it hear you, are you?

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Mummysharkdoodoodoo · 09/10/2018 20:45

I wish it was, it was the first time in a month 😂

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Yonijust · 09/10/2018 20:45

Take a day off of work together and make the most of it.

Fiffyshadesofgreymatter · 09/10/2018 20:49

Learn your lesson now. Your kids are getting older, so behaviour like that needs to stop unless you want them to walk in on it. Kids know to knock on a bedroom door, but they will just bound into a communal room so that's not allowed during normal hours anymore!

TheBigFatMermaid · 09/10/2018 21:01

I have children who repeatedly come downstairs after they 'have gone to bed', but now DD is a teen, I often go to bed before she does.

They DC do feel free to walk into communal areas, but they do knock before entering our bedroom at least.

As for taking a day off when a couple want to have sex, are you serious? Most people get 4 weeks holiday, plus bank holidays, that they might want to use to go on holiday as a family.

Stick to the bedroom, suggest your DS wears his headphones with actual sound going into them. He is of an age to know what loving couples do when alone in the privacy of their bedroom.

AynRandTheObjectivist · 09/10/2018 21:02

He'll have to confront the fact of his parents' sexuality at some point, might as well be now. Just carry on. Parents have sex. Even yours.

Kittykat93 · 09/10/2018 21:04

Obviously you can have sex but I wouldn't be doing it in the living room when there's a chance he could come downstairs.

Stick to your bedroom in future and be quiet.

tillytrotter1 · 09/10/2018 21:07

Back in the dark ages, when such things happened, we once realised on a lazy Sunday morning that we had a little audience!

amilosingitor · 09/10/2018 21:10

One of mine is a creeper. We were midway once and hadn't heard her creep in the door and into our room where we suddenly noticed her literally standing there her face next to ours! Luckily lights were off and she's a bit younger and I think was potentially still asleep so didn't give it a second thought afterwards!

JeanPagett · 09/10/2018 21:10

Well you don't have sex in your living room when your kids are in the house. What if your DS has actually walked in? I find that a bit grim to be honest. How's your son going to feel about sitting on the sofa now?

Use your bedroom and teach your kids to knock and then wait before coming in.

MrsGrindah · 09/10/2018 21:11

Well you deserve to be embarrassed don’t you? Yes it’s good that kids know about sex within a loving relationship but that’s completely different to bloody listening to it when you are only 9. You need to have a chat with him and apologise. Both of you.

Moussemoose · 09/10/2018 21:14

Oh get a grip. Parents fancy each and have sex shock!

How many kids have heard parents have a flaming row?

We live in a house together, we are human, things happen, we ignore it and move on.

PolkaDoting · 09/10/2018 21:14

Some very judgemental replied on here. Don’t worry about it and don’t mention it to him again.

continuallychargingmyphone · 09/10/2018 21:16

Aye, right