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Oh my god. I’m so embarrassed.

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Mummysharkdoodoodoo · 09/10/2018 20:30

My 9yo ds heard me and his dad have sex. I’m so embarrassed!!

We got carried away downstairs about half an hour ago, I don’t moan or scream etc but must have been abit loud!!

Just went to make sure they are asleep and ds tells me he needs new headphones as his have stopped working. As I walked out he said he was going to use them to go sleep “so he doesn’t hear anything”.

How the feck do I fix this.

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MrsGrindah · 09/10/2018 21:18

But he’s a little kid. They are adults and it was completely avoidable.

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Mummysharkdoodoodoo · 09/10/2018 21:18

Tbh he’s just turned 9, whats the chances of him actually knowing what we were doing?

He seems fine, he’s now fast asleep 🙈🙈

Normally we wait until we are in bed, but it’s been a long month, with different shift patterns and tbh, it’s the first time in months I actually wanted it as Iv recently been diagnosed with something and my tablets are finally working and making me feel normal, and in love with my dp.

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Deadringer · 09/10/2018 21:22

I think apologising is a bit much tbh, I just wouldn't mention it again. And maybe do it a bit later next time.

Cat2014 · 09/10/2018 21:26

Good god don’t worry, some of the replies are ridiculous! It happens.

purplecorkheart · 09/10/2018 21:26

Ignore, if he mentions it again just say you will keep the tv volume lower.

DistanceCall · 09/10/2018 21:30

Ignore. It's not going to traumatise him.

AynRandTheObjectivist · 09/10/2018 21:31

Jaysus, don't start doing apologies and Big Talks or any of that. The only way you could make your kid more embarrassed about hearing you having sex is forcing him to endure you talking about you having sex. He's clearly not traumatised by it (why would he be?), just keep it in the bedroom in future, keep calm and carry on.

ButchyRestingFace · 09/10/2018 21:35

I heard my parents having sex as a kid - both before and after I knew what they were doing. I'm sure it's hardly an unprecedented occurrence.

I'm still here. Therapist's couch is so far unsullied by my fat arse.

Just try to keep it down to a dull roar in future.

Rebecca36 · 09/10/2018 21:36

He probably thinks nothing more of it, you're the one who is embarrassed. Just try and put it behind you, it happens to a lot of people, you're human beings. Don't mention it to your son, that would be making too much of it.

Anyway, glad you did get together :-).

Try and get some time off at the same time so you won't be interrupted.

Notjustanyone · 09/10/2018 21:38

He will be at school tomorrow comparing notes with his mates on who's parents are the loudest 😂

Purplehammer · 09/10/2018 21:38

DD told mil “mummy has scarey dreams I can hear her going ooooh oooh now now.”
Was my face red.

Lweji · 09/10/2018 21:49

At the very least make sure you put the TV on really loud, if you're doing it in the living room at 8pm.

shonkyklingonmakeup · 09/10/2018 21:52

Don't worry about it.

I had the opposite experience: I got to my teen years and realised I had NEVER overheard my parents have sex. It was part of what made me realise that their relationship was on the rocks. That was bleak.

notacooldad · 09/10/2018 21:53

Wait until your 18 year old comes home unexpectedly after not seeing him for 3 days and walks in on you!!
I think all our responses was ''Oh for fucks sake!!!!'

shonkyklingonmakeup · 09/10/2018 21:53

Oh and at 9, he can type "sex" into google and will have seen everything that comes up when you do that. He'll know what he heard.

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Mummysharkdoodoodoo · 09/10/2018 21:57

Maybe I’m naive but he’s not the type to google stuff, he doesn’t have access to google etc. He doesn’t even say Fat because he thinks it’s a swear word. He tried to tell me someone told his friend to get lost yesterday but didn’t dare because “it’s naughty”

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Middlrm · 09/10/2018 21:58

Don’t mention it again, it’s perfectly natural otherwise you would have a son!😉 just perhaps living room was a very risky location for being seen in the act! So at least it’s not more embarrassing 😂

LoniceraJaponica · 09/10/2018 22:01

I am getting to grips with the fact that your 9 year old was in bed at 8pm!

Even in infant school I couldn't get DD to bed that early.

PyongyangKipperbang · 09/10/2018 22:05

Cannot get over some of the replies!

"That sort of behaviour" "Apologise, both of you"

In some countries, and this country not that long ago, it's normal for whole families to share a single room, and mummy and daddy still manage to get a bit of action in without anyone being traumatised! He hardly walked in on a BDSM session with Daddy in a gimp suit and Mummy with a whip!

Just dont mention it again, it happens.

ThanosSavedMe · 09/10/2018 22:05

You’re not the first and you won’t be the last.

Forget about it

Charolais · 09/10/2018 22:12

A little boy was with his dad in the park noticed two dogs mating, so he asked his dad what they were doing and his dad told him they were making a puppy. A few weeks later he walked into his parents bedroom while they were having sex. The little boy, startled, asked, "what are you doing"? His surprised dad replied, "making you a sister". The boy told, "turn her over, I'd rather have a puppy".

OohMrDarcy · 09/10/2018 22:15

Just to give you an idea of what some kids that age know....

DS is 8 (9 in Jan)
He learnt a dance called the Hump (yep) from mates - something to do with fortnite...
He didn't get why it was called that so looked up hump in a dictionary at school - dictionary mentions sexual intercourse...
He looks that up to understand that
He know tells me he knows what sex is (and explains correctly)

All done at school, without the use of Google.

He knows.

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