Wedding “Save The Date’s”

[IsTheRainEverComingBack]

How early should I send these out? We’re getting married in June 2020, so a long way off yet, but I know people often book things pretty well in advance so want to send them early enough but not stupidly so.

I put them in Christmas cards for an august wedding the following year

I'd say a year before. We have just discovered that my uncle's nephew is getting married next summer. Anyway, had it not been for the Brexit uncertainty we would have booked to be away that particular week so the earlier you let people know the better.

I'm past the wedding attendance time in life, but when I was working I would NOT prioritise a wedding over the right time to be on holiday, which is June or September for the kid-free.

may be of no relevance to the OP, but the date is when it is. People can either go or they can't and two years notice won't change that.

just tell people, although even the most manic planner I know only plans a year ahead.

Maybe it doesn’t change it for you, but if I had a close friend marrying I would just book my holiday the week before or the week after and if they announced their wedding date was when I’d already booked something I would be sad, I like to celebrate with my friends.

Weddings can be fun but most are really hard work. You see almost nothing of the couple and I have only been to two where the other.guests were people I knew well and enjoyed spending time with.

Given the option - the med every time!

Fair enough! I love weddings, don’t find them hard work and always enjoy them. I also enjoy sharing such a special time with the couple - who are obviously good friends or family if I’m at their wedding.

I'd want it a year before.

I would prioritise a wedding over most things too.

Really surprised at people who say don’t bother.

OhyesIam

I think people are saying It's just an expensive way of telling people something you could tell them anyhow, not that the B&G should keep the date a secret

Getting cards (or fridge magnets or whatever other novelties the wedding industry has come up with to take money from B&Gs), spending time writing out the envelopes, buying all those stamps, etc, is a total waste of money when you could stick the date in a Whatsapp group / on Snapchat / Messenger / FB or you could text people or e-mail them or phone them or tell them face to face when you see them, or create a google calendar thingeemajig.

The point being, you don't need to post an annoying little card out to people, not that it isn't a god idea to confirm the date with people - which has always been done, once you have firmed up the date, long before the wedding industry came up with another way for you to spend your money.