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DH and my ex had a fight

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DoILookArsed · 05/10/2018 20:28

My DH went out with some mates last night and bumped into my ex. Apparently my ex (who is biological dad to DS age 3) said something derogatory about me and DH punched him. He told me as soon as he came in and I believe they had a scuffle which was broken up by friends. I am not impressed

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twoheaped · 05/10/2018 20:32

Well yes, your ex is an arse to run you down to your dh.

SneakyGremlins · 05/10/2018 20:33

I'm not surprised you're not impressed with your ex. What a douche.

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DoILookArsed · 05/10/2018 20:34

I'm 32 weeks pregnant aswell so don't need the stress!

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SillySallySingsSongs · 05/10/2018 20:34

I wouldn't be impressed with either of them ex for the comment and DH for fighting.

Fighting is never the answer. What's he going to do next time he bumps into your ex?

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DoILookArsed · 05/10/2018 20:35

Hopefully he won't bump into him. My ex has nothing to do with DS he's just a malicious piece of crap

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Hideandgo · 05/10/2018 20:36

They ate both bloody idiots.

SillySallySingsSongs · 05/10/2018 20:38

My ex has nothing to do with DS he's just a malicious piece of crap

He may well be but this isn't just on him. Your DH needs to control his temper. Is he going to punch everyone who says something he doesn't like?

Thatstheendofmytether · 05/10/2018 20:38

I would not be impressed by your ex, I would be very proud of th.

Thatstheendofmytether · 05/10/2018 20:38

The fact dh stuck up for you, even if he did punch him.

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DoILookArsed · 05/10/2018 20:40

I don't really think violence is the answer.
Yes Sally he did lose his temper but he can hardly be blamed

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SillySallySingsSongs · 05/10/2018 20:42

Yes Sally he did lose his temper but he can hardly be blamed

He can be blamed for losing his temper like that. He is responsible for his actions.

As I said neither of them come out well from this.

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DoILookArsed · 05/10/2018 20:57

Well neither have covered themselves in glory I admit

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Aprilislonggone · 05/10/2018 20:59

If dh had walked away and left him slagging you off would you have been happy either?
Dh is backing your corner imo.

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DoILookArsed · 05/10/2018 21:35

No I wouldn't but fighting in public isn't great is it?

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DC18 · 05/10/2018 21:58

To be honest I'm not sure why you are annoyed at DH as all he did was defend your honour which I applaud.
I get that 'violence isn't the answer' but you can't blame DH for reacting that way if your ex was being derogotary about you x

SillySallySingsSongs · 05/10/2018 22:00

No I wouldn't but fighting in public isn't great is it?

No it isn't. It could have ended very badly.

all he did was defend your honour

Are we in the 1950s? Why not have a duel instead.

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DoILookArsed · 05/10/2018 22:09

I've told dh he could end up with a criminal record because of my shithead ex

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LookImAHooman · 05/10/2018 22:14

Well, no, he’d end up with a criminal record for not keeping a lid on himself and being an adult.

Absolutely fair dos to defend you but there are enough ways to do that without lowering himself to crapbag ex’s level.

Leeds2 · 05/10/2018 22:46

Just be aware that Ex now knows exactly how to provoke a reaction from DH in the future. Your DH needs to be prepared, and able, to deal with this.

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DoILookArsed · 05/10/2018 22:53

Hopefully my ex will disappear from our lives again

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TheSerenDipitY · 05/10/2018 23:19

Hopefully my ex will disappear from our lives again
or he might decide to start visiting your son just to annoy the both of you

dontgobaconmyheart · 06/10/2018 04:30

Your DH could have defended you without assaulting someone, I'm not sure why anyone would be impressed with or feel additionally valued because someone hit someone 'defending their honour'. (I know you haven't said this op)
You're right to be disappointed- this could have backfired badly if there was a serious injury or charges pressed, it only takes a punch in the wrong place for it to go very wrong. He absolutely can be blamed and in the nicest possible way your bias is showing. He wasn't made to punch anyone rather than use his words or leave. He didn't need to engage at all even. I'm sure your ex is a twat but if your DH got a criminal record no jury is going to agree he did the right thing or your ex got what he deserved in this instance. You can't claim self defence against insults.
I wouldnt be proud of my dh for this i'd be mortified and wonder if I'd swapped one dickhead for another tbh.
What was said that he felt warranted this behaviour, or is it just bravado over property at the end of the day. Hopefully your ex chooses not to press charges for your sake with the baby on the way. Very unfair of them both to behave so childishly as grown men.

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DoILookArsed · 06/10/2018 09:24

DH is definitely not a dickhead. My ex has no interest in me or DS he just like a causing trouble.

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Branleuse · 06/10/2018 09:27

Good for dh.

specialsubject · 06/10/2018 09:29

Punches can and have killed. If your husband doesn't want to be in serious shit he needs to learn to walk away.

I hope you haven't swapped one arse for another.