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What do you think your children are like at school?

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HarrySnotter · 05/10/2018 17:59

A friend of mine used to be a TA and she used to say that people have no idea what their children are like at school and often refuse to believe they have believed in a certain way.

I've been volunteering in a school recently and am gobsmacked at how rude some of the children are to staff. Not to me as I'm kind of on the outside of it all, but I am genuinely taken aback by some of the behaviour of the children, many of whom I have known for years and know their parents. Constant backchat, sneering, general rudeness, ignoring requests to work etc. The staff follow the behaviour policy and sanctions are given but I don't get where this all comes from. If I had spoken to a teacher or anyone else in my school like that I would have had my arse handed back to me on a plate. I just wouldn't have done it.

Made me worry what the hell my own are like at school.

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steppemum · 05/10/2018 18:04

what age?

I helped a lot in my dcs primary, and to be honest the kids were pretty much the same in school as out.
Not many surprises.

Interestingly my oldest is a cheeky sod at times at home, but his teacher always tell me he is very polite and well mannered!

youarenotkiddingme · 05/10/2018 18:14

That's true about what they are like.

I recently discovered my child who I know is quiet was actually far quieter than I thought and is an absolute delight manners wise - reported to me by his friends and his HT.

I've suggested he proves it to me at home Grin

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HarrySnotter · 05/10/2018 18:20

It's a middle school but I'd say the Y7/8s are the year groups I've noticed the most. Bloody shocking, some of the behaviour.

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CiderBrains · 05/10/2018 18:20

I was walking through a doorway once carrying a heavy box, trying to get through it whilst holding the door at the same time. Some (primary) children were walking towards the door and two actually tried to climb under me to get through the door, instead of offering to hold the door so I could get through! Shock

Some kids can be extremely rude in school no matter what background they are from!

BabySharkAteMyHamster · 05/10/2018 18:28

An absolute joy. He's the kid the teachers hope to get in their class because he's so laid back and engaging.

I have a closer relationship than usual with the school as my son has SN so will have a meeting at least twice a term. I'm on friendly terms with all the staff and email contact with his teacher.

He's a lucky boy having so many people who truly care about him. I love being his mum. Smile

BabySharkAteMyHamster · 05/10/2018 18:31

And ds is 17.

We went through a bit of a rocky patch with him a few years ago when he was struggling with his mh but he was consistently well behaved in school........in the main he's no bother at home but can have his moments. Like any teenager.

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HarrySnotter · 05/10/2018 18:34

Lovely post Hamster.

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TeaByTheSeaside · 05/10/2018 18:34

If I found out my DD was being rude to the teachers at school, she'd definitely get her arse handed to her on a plate - by me!

woodenfences · 05/10/2018 18:35

I am a teacher.

Most kids are OK most of the time.

Honestly.

Conseulabananahammock · 05/10/2018 18:36

My kids are little angels at school. Model children. Head teacher has been out several times to compliment me on this. At home they are horrific ... go figure

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HarrySnotter · 05/10/2018 18:40

That's good to know Fences, I used to think I quite fancied being a teacher, but after the last 6 months I can't think of anything I'd rather do less. Grin

I've seen them get a hard time on here, but oh my fucking god you couldn't pay me enough to do that job.

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woodenfences · 05/10/2018 18:43

Year 8 is the worse year IME

HoraceWimpIsThisYourLife · 05/10/2018 18:45

I know exactly what my son is like. He’s what polite people might call spirited Grin

Taylor22 · 05/10/2018 18:48

I always get glowing reports.

But I can believe hands down he is a twat sometimes. He's 4. So really at a bit of a bellend age.

NonaGrey · 05/10/2018 18:52

I know what my kids are like in school, it’s the very first question I ask at Parents’ Evening.

I also check their behaviour with their extracurricular teacher’s and coaches and with their friend’s parents.

I’ve always had the same answer.

IHeartKingThistle · 05/10/2018 18:54

I was thinking about this earlier but it's so hard to imagine. I teach secondary and my DD has just started in Year 7. I just can't imagine her in my Year 7 class - they seem so young and I see her as quite grown up at home, but of course she's the same as they are at school. I know she's enthusiastic and that's enough for me!

Bookridden · 05/10/2018 18:58

My DD is extremely quiet and shy at school. At home she can be a right little madam! I often wonder if teachers know they see some kids at their best behaved! 😂

WipsGlitter · 05/10/2018 19:09

Apparently my child is nervous in school. And scared of speaking out. Totally different at home. I find it really perplexing.

zeebeedee · 05/10/2018 19:15

Like WipsGlitter I hear that mine is very quiet at school, and needs to contribute more - at home I can't shut him up!

The older two were pretty much the same at home and school

woodenfences · 05/10/2018 19:19

It’s not really perplexing; kids behave worst where they feel safest. Backhanded compliment really Grin

MishMashMosher · 05/10/2018 19:29

I have one angel at school. Wants to please the teachers, does all her work, polite ect and the other is probably the child all the teachers dread having in their class. To be fair I have tried to get the teachers to support me with changing his behaviour but they make me feel like I'm an inconvenience.

woodenfences · 05/10/2018 19:33

What do you expect the teachers to do?

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HarrySnotter · 05/10/2018 19:36

Well while I don't think that teachers can wave a magic wand, it would be nice if they were able to support Mosher with suggested strategies etc so that school and home are singing from the same hymn sheet.

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PhilomenaButterfly · 05/10/2018 19:38

I helped out on a year 5 school trip last year. DD was very disobedient and cheeky, she saw that the teacher had no control and took advantage. I gave her such a lecture that evening! When I've helped on DS2's trips, I've found that his behaviour's improved if I've let other people deal with it.

PhilomenaButterfly · 05/10/2018 19:41

Cider at my DC's school they're taught to hold doors open for people, so this would never happen.