My date suddenly started singing at the top of his lungs

[Sonjing]

I went out on a first date yesterday night with a man met on OLD.

I feel like he made such a fuss to organise what he thought was “the perfect date”. He took me to a park to show me a romantic spot (he even said he had planned the stroll from where we met to the park, in order to ensure the stroll was scenic and romantic enough!). After drinks and dinner, he insisted on taking me to a romantic belvedere terrace to show me the view, even though I said I was feeling cold.

Once we get to the belvedere, suddenly the guy starts singing “Bella Notte” from the Lady and the Tramp. Properly singing at the top of his lungs, like he was the protagonist of a musical. He then insisted I should sing with him too, and he got visibly disappointed when I said I can’t really sing. He kept singing for a solid 5 minutes and attempted a few dance moves too, while people nearby were staring at us in disbelief.

I genuinely feel like I should delete all dating apps and resign myself to a life of singledom, if this is the alternative

You'll never forget him will you lol

A year from now you'll see him punting his way down the high street in a gondola on wheels towed by a full Mariachi band

I snorted at that. I'm on a bus

Musical Man has indeed texted expressing what a wonderful time he had on our date and that he hopes we'll go out again soon. I must find a kind to way to essentially say never again

Leave him a singing voice message. Really belt it out. Either ‘I’m Gonna Wash That Man Right Outta My Hair’ or ‘Some Day You Will be Loved’ by Death Cab for Cutie. Or ‘So Long, Dearie’?

You could always brush up on the scores of the musical classics....”Everybody now - Ooooak-la-homa where the wind comes rushing round the bend”!
Now I'd join in enthusiastically with that! (Admittedly I only really know that line but I can sing it with gusto!) Or the Lonely Goatherd from The Sound of Music....
I must find a kind to way to essentially say never again
Just say that you feel you're musically incompatible!

He actually stood on the mini-stage, by himself, wearing a suit and tie and singing some shit song (Mac the Knife or whatever).

Mack the Knife is not a shit song!

Misses point of thread.

Depends who’s murdering it Andy let’s just say my memory of it is tainted now.

I’ve just looked it up and Brecht was one of the co-writers ... who knew?

notimaginingit I hope this cleanses your mental/aural palate.

A song about a mass murderer on a date is an interesting choice. I'd prefer the Disney!

I’ve been out with a ‘singer’. He burst into song in the theatre - it was a play!

I think meat raffles might be an Australian thing - I’ve been to a couple here and they are brilliant

I’ve gone home with loads of steaks and chops and all sorts. So much better than a normal raffle, especially when you’re semi merry as you might wake up with a load of bacon for your hangover the next day.

OzGirl, that’s all very well but we’re talking a trestle table, a dollop of meat and a vegetarian. I NEVER saw him again.

A friend when we’re about 16/17 told me that her she had been in her same aged boyfriend’s bedroom the evening before. It was summer so his window was wide open! He whipped out his guitar and told her he’d written a song for her. He then proceeded to strum away and belt out a load of lyrics about how beautiful she was and how much he loved her. I think the chorus was him repeating “I love your” over and over. She thought it was lovely until the old man next door stood in his garden yelling really loudly for him to “shut up that fucking racket”!!!! again and again!
The boyfriend just carried on as though he didn’t register the interruption and kept wailing his undying love. With his eyes closed. Which was fortunate as my friend said she had the full on body shakes with trying not to laugh at the absurdity. The boyfriend didn’t acknowledge the insults at all which just made it funnier.
He got off with someone else a few weeks later and my friend was so upset. I thought she had a lucky escape.
OP I think you see this chap again, he’s probably working on his repertoire as I type this. Don’t stifle him!!! 😂😂😂😂😂

Tell him you had to end it due to creative differences.

You need to send him a song clip that explains you are dumping him.

Sounds like he is more interested in the idea of a relationship than an actual relationship with someone who has their own thoughts and desires. One to avoid.

However, please do go out with him again for our entertainment. Thank you in advance.

I just saw your find a kind way post. I think it would actually be more helpful to point out that he seemed more interested in performing what he thought was the ideal date than in meeting and getting to know someone. Women aren't action dolls with bendable arms and legs that exist to allow him to act out his Hollywood romance fantasies. They are individuals with their own needs, desires, preferences, opinions etc. Dating should be about getting to know someone not making them your muse.

Give him the chorus of “So Long,Farewell,Auf weidersein, Goodbye ://m.youtube.com/watch?v=Qy9_lfjQopU

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Meat raffles are a thing here too. At least turkey raffles at Christmas , aah glorious country life.....

I've been to a pub in rural uk with a meat raffle too, it was eye opening

This thread is exquisite.

(I think meat raffles are an Irish thing?)

So after he texted me multiple times asking me how I was and if I wanted to grab another drink with him, I sent the following text:

^Hi Singing Man, I enjoyed our date and I think you are a nice guy, but I don't think there was a spark there for me. I think it's best to be honest. I hope you find what you are looking for and I wish you all the best. Sonjing
^
His reply:

Hi Sonjing, I appreciate your honesty and I felt the same lack of spark. I had a good time during our date though. I wish you the best too, Singing Man

Why was he pestering me for a second date if he didn't feel a spark....?

Either he didn't feel the spark but thought it was worth a second date or he did feel a spark but you just said you didn't so he's styling it out.

Thats code for "yeah, me too, but I thought there was a chance of getting a shag out of it".