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WOMAN! This is why you are wrong.

42 replies

SodTheBloodyLotOfThem · 02/10/2018 10:33

Inspired by many, many threads, I have come up with a (Not exhaustive) list of why you, as a WOMAN, are wrong:

  • no children - you are cold and selfish. Doesn't matter the reason. But if you were a MAN you would be independent and ballsy.
  • children and working - OMG why did you even have kids to let someone else bring them up? (Note a MAN does not get accused of this)
  • children and stay at home - OMG you are a leech on your MAN or society
  • go out lots with the kids - how will they ever learn to walk and amuse themselves? You are making them spoiled.
  • stay at home lots with the kids - Why are you not socialising them? They will be the weirdo in the corner unable to make conversation at 45 years old
  • wear makeup, stylish clothes, heels etc? Selfish shallow tart
  • wear comfy clothes etc? - lazy slob
  • single parent? Hang your head in shame WOMAN. Even if your partner of 10 years fucked off with another woman or a midlife crisis, or abused you throughout your relationship, he is a MAN and can do no wrong.

Also your house is too clean/Not clean enough, you spend too much time on your own interests/socialising because you are selfish and not enough time because you are dull and boring, You should do Everything for your partner and DC otherwise you are lazy but you shouldn't do all the stuff because you're emasculating/infantalising them.

I am sure there is more. But I am PISSED OFF that there is literally nothing a WOMAN can do without drawing criticism. Even on MN.

OP posts:
cantfindname · 02/10/2018 10:35

Yup. Tell you one thing... you might be a WOMAN but you have got this right.

Yourenotericlove · 02/10/2018 10:36

Just live your life and don't worry about what anonymous strangers say on the internet.

Mamabearx4 · 02/10/2018 10:36

Yep

Bombardier25966 · 02/10/2018 10:52

Most of those criticisms come from other women though, not men.

If we can't be kind to each other, how can we expect anything better from men?

Original poster
SodTheBloodyLotOfThem · 02/10/2018 11:01

But it isn't just anonymous strangers. It's everywhere, it's insidious. It affects every woman and girl every single day.

OP posts:
Yourenotericlove · 02/10/2018 11:14

It doesn't affect me because I couldn't give 2 shites what unimportant people think or say.

Yourenotericlove · 02/10/2018 11:16

And I doubt very many people think what you're saying anyway.

TitsalinaBumSquash · 02/10/2018 11:20

People criticise people for everything the do or don't do. This ain't limited to women, it's just the criticism changes topic for men, same it way it changes due to age/religion/class. It's all bollocks. Humans judge why our even meaning to often.
The human race are NOT nice.

misscockerspaniel · 02/10/2018 14:00

It is the funeral today of Diane Leather.

Never heard of her? A few weeks after Roger Bannister broke the 4 minute mile, she was the first woman to run a mile under 5 minutes.

She didn't get the recognition she deserved ... because she was a woman.

HollowTalk · 02/10/2018 14:08

What about:

You are wrong if you don't accept a man in a pink frock could be the woman of the year.

You are wrong if you think a man shouldn't be able to race in a female-only race.

You are wrong if you think that a women-only panel could consist of all men in lipstick.

You are wrong if you think that men who've raped women shouldn't be allowed in female prisons.

RudeZebra · 02/10/2018 14:08

Never heard of her? A few weeks after Roger Bannister broke the 4 minute mile, she was the first woman to run a mile under 5 minutes.

Eh? So she achieved something, that had already been done and to a better standard? Why would we have heard her name?

I've run a mile in 20 mins. I'm pretty sure that the history books won't remember me either!

EnidButton · 02/10/2018 14:22

You need to calm down and stop getting so angry. You're hysterical. You're exaggerating and looking for problems.

If you were a man you'd be assertive and getting things done.

EnidButton · 02/10/2018 14:23

(On the off chance the other replies have thrown anyone off, I agree with the OP)

Heatherjayne1972 · 02/10/2018 14:29

Affects us all
When Teresa may was elected she was described ( by a man) as a ‘bloody difficult woman ‘
If she was a man she’d have been ‘driven focussed and ambitious ‘

Yourenotericlove · 02/10/2018 14:31

You think most people think childless women are 'cold and selfish' and most people think women in make up and heels are 'selfish shallow tarts'?

Or maybe OP is exaggerating a bit.

Xiaoxiong · 02/10/2018 14:36
  • children and working - OMG why did you even have kids to let someone else bring them up? (Note a MAN does not get accused of this)
  • children and stay at home - OMG you are a leech on your MAN or society*

I literally got both of these today, in the same conversation, from a family member. I would also add - OMG you are a leech and wasting all your expensive impressive education and letting down the previous generations who fought so hard for you to have a career.

Feels like I can't win.

Ali1cedowntherabbithole · 02/10/2018 14:36

And don’t forget how lucky us Wimmin are.

When our DH’s babysit/take care of their own children.

When our DH’s Do anything around the house.

When a penis holder takes the time to explain stuff to us. Like what a woman is.

Ali1cedowntherabbithole · 02/10/2018 14:37

And what hollowtalk said

nomorepeoplepleasing · 02/10/2018 14:50

At work:

If you focus on your own ambition and are direct/no nonesense with junior staff you are a bitch/power hungry/untrustworthy

If you are nurturing and help other staff members, you are mumsy and unambitious.

If you are over 40 and wear comfortable shoes and neutral coloured unshaped clothes and no make-up you have clearly got to an age where you have let yourself go. If you don't you are mutton dressed as lamb.

Yourenotericlove · 02/10/2018 15:08

Where do you work where people say those kind of things?

Birdsgottafly · 02/10/2018 15:25

Yourenotericlove,
""And I doubt very many people think what you're saying anyway.""

I've heard all of them. Judging by the comments, so have many other Posters.

Asterado · 02/10/2018 15:31

Can I add for a working Mum:

  • if your child is unwell and you need to stay home to look after them, you’re letting your team down. Can’t you find someone else?
  • if you find someone to look after your sick child the other parent and you go into work, ‘who’s looking after the baby? Didn’t they want their mummy?’
marvellousnightforamooncup · 02/10/2018 16:02

If you are raped or assaulted you should have said no louder or not had a drink or reported it sooner or not have led him on.

Yourenotericlove · 02/10/2018 16:25

It's a widespread view that women who wear heels and make up are 'selfish shallow tarts'? Where?

Fromage · 02/10/2018 16:28

People saying no one says these things - yes they do. They say it on a website called "mumsnet" in a section called "AIBU."

Also, women, are you driving? Have you ever driven a car, or a bike (motorised or otherwise)? You are wrong.