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Any who co-slept (And doesn’t now)?

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gothefcktosleep · 30/09/2018 19:50

Sorry, I know I should post this in Sleep but I need an audience.

If you co-slept with your baby how the hell did you get the baby out of your bed? At what age?

I have a 4 month old daughter who I have co-slept with since the second night we brought her home.

She always ends up on the breast before bed, even after sinking a bottle. I don’t know another way to get her to sleep.

I can’t get shush pat to work (maybe I’m a moron). I try to let her fall asleep co-sleeping then move her into her Next to Me but she either wakes up instantly or not very long after - big crying that pulls my heart apart.

I don’t know what to do. How long should I keep trying to move her over in to her N2M for? Or should I resign myself to the fact she just wants to be close to us and get a bigger bed... (my friend’s solution).

HELP 🤯

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SnuggyBuggy · 30/09/2018 19:52

I'm in a similar situation. I get about 2 hours in the next to me and then after that she only settles cosleeping. It's ok for now, quite nice even, but there is always the fear she will be there forever.

StinkySaurus · 30/09/2018 19:54

Do you mind cosleeping? If not maybe just stick with it?

I think the next to me mattress is very hard, so maybe if you can get a mattress topper this may help your LO?

Shush pat doesn’t work for me either!!!

Worieddd · 30/09/2018 19:55

I’m still co-sleeping with my 3 year old. Wasn’t planned and he actually managed his cot in his own room from 12-24 months.
Currently pregnant with DC2 so need to sort this out Confused

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PippilottaLongstocking · 30/09/2018 19:56

I co slept with my first til he was almost 3, now he’s 6.5 and only gets into my bed if he’s had a bad dream (or if he’s woken up before me and wants a cuddle)

I’m still co sleeping with my 1 year old and intend to for at least another year

Madwomanuptheroad · 30/09/2018 19:57

It's a process, have coslept with all my kids. Usually I put them in their own cot at around 10 to 12 months for the night (before for naps so they get used to the place). However we all played musical beds for a while. just do what feels right for you.

BertramKibbler · 30/09/2018 19:59

My babies coslept until 6m. I then edged them into the Next2Me with me right on the edge of the bed and a hand in with them, then in the Next2Me alone and now at 12m they go down in their own room sleepy but awake with no fuss.
With me son we didn’t have a bedside crib, he went into a cot in our room at 6m and at first bedtime took about 45 mins of patting his back until he slept with cosleeping from about 4am when he woke and with time he needed less and less help to sleep. By 18m he was in his own room, sleeping through,put to bed sleepy bit awake.

TheCatFromOuterSpace · 30/09/2018 19:59

Both dc coslept at various points.

Dd pretty much stopped of her own accord at one year old. Ds was still in with us at nearly 2, so we gradually moved him into his own bed and then into his own room. He still likes to come into our bed if he wakes in the night. Some children just need a cuddle to go back to sleep.

Four months is very very young, and was the low point for sleep for both of ours. So I wouldn't try to move her right now.

smeerf · 30/09/2018 19:59

I bed shared from 4 months to 7 months. He just grew out of needing to feed all night - it was just a phase. I still feed to sleep but he seems to fall into a deeper sleep now and I can lift him into the cot without waking him. I spent hours attempting that at 4 months but he just wasn't ready. Your baby is only little!

gutrotweins · 30/09/2018 20:00

We co-slept for about a year. Ds went straight in a single bed with a guard at the side, no trouble at all.
He screamed and screamed and screamed in a cot and we couldn't stand it!

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gothefcktosleep · 30/09/2018 20:02

I love co-sleeping... I love her, I love that when she wakes in the night we don’t have any drama, I love seeing how content she is when she’s sleeping and hearing her breathing and her little noises.

It just feels like we should be trying to move her into her own space ( like the other babies I know 🙄)

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ButtermilkBiscuits · 30/09/2018 20:03

We coslept until DS was a year old then did the method where you go in every few minutes but leave it longer each time. It was rocky at first but now he won't sleep in our bed and if I put him in with me, he'll get up and go to his cotbed and try to crawl in!

IHeartMarmiteToast · 30/09/2018 20:06

If you're happy, she's happy, you're all sleeping well... why change?

fanks · 30/09/2018 20:06

Enjoy it, do what feels right. Everybody is different, I loved it Smile

I co slept with all 4 of mine and they all transitioned out without drama when they were ready.

StubbleTurnips · 30/09/2018 20:06

We cosiest / sleep with our 2. Super king bed helps. One is 5.5 but has terrible night terrors so gets in early doors but goes to sleep in own bed, the other is nearly 2 and we've just started putting them in their own room. We love it though, something so beautiful about them snuggling up to you on a cold dark night and feeling safe.

YeOldeTrout · 30/09/2018 20:06

Between 22m & 3 yrs they finally got into own bed.

Creatureofthenight · 30/09/2018 20:06

We bed shared from about 6 to 9 months to get us through sleep regressions! Once she started sleeping a bit better we moved to a floor bed in her own room. I still feed DD to sleep and am too short to get her in a cot without waking her so the floor bed was the best solution.

Helpimfalling · 30/09/2018 20:09

I love love love co sleeping with my child I didn't do it with my others but I'm thoroughly enjoying it

It was an issue for my husband I feel amongst other things and we are now separated but that's fine he was a twat and now at nearly aged two me and my girl are the best of friends and we love snuggling just me and her at night I wouldn't change it for the world our bond a unreal thanks god

But I think if I wanted her to sleep in a bed she would also be happy she's such a confident little thing and I think co sleeping has helped

Josieannathe2nd · 30/09/2018 20:09

I co-slept with my first till he was 18 months, he’s 7 now and happily been in his own room for years,The second till he was 2 and again he’s in his own room now. The third prefers to co-sleep with my husband and he’s almost 2 so sometime soon will probably see if he wants his own bed. I think they can transition at different ages, perhaps adjust your expection of how soon? Unless it stops workibr for you

madeoficecream · 30/09/2018 20:09

I co slept with my son until 6 months when I put him straight into his own room in his cot.
That worked really well. I think when he knew I was there in the room he wanted to be near me... but in his own room he couldnt smell or see me so just went to sleep. I think at six months he was young enough not to get distressed by the thought of being alone so he quickly adjusted to being in his own room.... I think if id left it until older it wouldve been much harder.
I do think when we were co sleeping he woke up more often because he knew I was there. Since going into his own room he very rarely wakes in the night and sleeps for 9-11 hour stretches! (hes 3 years old now)

elQuintoConyo · 30/09/2018 20:10

We co-slept until about 3. He went into his own bed and slept through from the first night. I loved watching him sleep, hearing his snuffles and snuggling up. He may climb in if he has a nightmare, but DH will take his bed as at 7yo he takes up too much space!

DS was also a cot refuser - and a playpen refuser. God that child could scream!

stressedtiredbuthappy · 30/09/2018 20:11

Don't worry about other babies you know(and you DON'T know what goes on behind closed doors!!!)
You're happy, she's happy, just keep going

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gothefcktosleep · 30/09/2018 20:12

Thanks for everyone’s responses... it is reassuring there are no 16 yr olds still co-sleeping.

Would like to have sex with DH at some point 😂 suppose that’s what her nursery place is for.

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anotherangel2 · 30/09/2018 20:16

Coslept from 6 months to about 20 months when I moved DD into her own room. She has a 3/4 double with guards on the side, we can cuddle her to sleep and when needed durring the night we can hop in with her to either settle her or stay if needed or if we fall asleep there is plenty of space.

One of my friends would no cosleep and her DD was in his own from 6 months. He is 5 now and gets into bed with her very night. His friends are the same. It is entirely for children to want to snuggle up.

TillyTheTiger · 30/09/2018 20:17

I coslept until about 18mo, aftet that he started the nights in his own bed but usually ended up in with me around 2am. He's now 2y4m and finally sleeping all night in his own bed, although I often have to go in once in the night to settle him. I honestly miss him now! I definitely don't regret having him in with me until he was ready to sleep by himself.

anotherangel2 · 30/09/2018 20:18

Would like to have sex with DH at some point 😂 suppose that’s what her nursery place is for.

Put the mattress on the floor so she is safe (post 6 months) and then use spare room/sofa etc. DD tends to sleep more deeply at nap time as was less likely to wake up and interrupt us.