Is anyone around to help me make sense of this? :(

[NotMadeByDesign]

Right, this will come across like a troll I think but I promise I am not! I went no contact with my mum about 8/9 months ago, after lots of abuse for years and treating my children VERY different, it was hard, I kept feeling guilty but after talking to a counsellor I believe I have done the right thing. Then today my ex sends me pictures of screenshots my mum has sent to him. My DP has been messaging her, asking for nudes, pretending to be my ex, she didn’t give them(that I can see) and also didn’t initiate, but why? He comes clean and reactived his normal profile and admits it’s him and he does actually want the pictures and to flirt. I just don’t know what to do, I am distraught, my heart feels like it’s going to come out of my mouth :(

So it's your current DP who's been messaging your mother, asking for nude photos? And he has pretended to be your ex?Sorry but this isn't believable.

Does your partner have form for things like this?

Oh shite. This is a biggie. Wtf

You don't know what to do??

I think you do!

Here what do you mean you don't know what to do? Get bloody rid fgs!!!!!

Ohmydayz... what do you mean has he form for this???? What's that got to do with anything????????????

Leave. The. Bastard.

That's hilarious! It's not true... is it? If it's true, there's no decision to make. You get rid of the DP.

What I mean is, does he normally do unacceptable things like this, does he lie, has he cheated, is he a prick? Or is this totally out of the blue? What do you think I meant??

Ohmydayz ... But what has any of that got to do with anything. He's asking her mum for nudes fgs

I know I have to get rid, he’s at his mum’s, but I’m not even angry, just sad. I expected to be angry. And I now don’t have anyone to talk to really. I just feel overwhelmed :(

Who cares if it's out of the blue

Eh? What! So your partner fancies your mother and has been asking her for nude pics pretending to be your ex boyfriend? Why would he think she'd send them to your ex, did they have a thing? Why is your mum in contact with your ex anyway? Is your partner totally stupid? How did they know it was him pretending to be the ex? How quickly can you leave the utter bellend?

So many questions.

What? I'm so confused....

Luvly12, I'm asking because it's a very random thing to do, especially if there is no backstory, I mean.....it's her mum fgs, she is nc so it's a bit weird for him to be in contact with her but to ask for nudes pretending to be someone else is bizarre!

I would say it’s out of the blue, but what do I know? I clearly don’t know him well enough if he’s done that. But it doesn’t make any difference even if it is. I still can’t take him back, he’s clearly shown his true colours.

Your dp is asking your estranged mother for nude pictures. WHY.....WTF....... Is he ok in the head. Completely Bizarre. Is he planning on taking this further. The only plan I would have to take this further is kicking him out. Strange What did he think was going to happen

My mum thought it was my ex adding him on Facebook, and she was hoping probably for information on me. I don’t believe they ever had a thing. When he asked for the nudes she said she didn’t believe it was my ex, so he activated his normal account which has been deactivated for some time now, to say it was him, but he said he wanted to flirt and have nudes still even when she knew it was him. Apparently because we’re NC he thought I wouldn’t find out...

This is one of the strangest things I've heard on here. Definitely don't take him back

Yeah, ok.

If this is even true so many B.S Threads recently then you get rid of him. That's the only option, right?!

It’s the strangest thing to happen to me, I definitely didn’t expect something like this. I won’t take him back, I hope he feels ashamed. He’s at his mums now, and it sounds petty but I knew he would lie why he’s back so I text his brother and told him. I refuse to be blamed for this.

So was it the current dp or the ex?

I’m sat in bed sobbing, i only moved to a new town a couple of months ago, I don’t have any friends here yet :(

It was my current DP, pretending to be my ex.