Is anyone around to help me make sense of this? :(

[NotMadeByDesign]

Right, this will come across like a troll I think but I promise I am not! I went no contact with my mum about 8/9 months ago, after lots of abuse for years and treating my children VERY different, it was hard, I kept feeling guilty but after talking to a counsellor I believe I have done the right thing. Then today my ex sends me pictures of screenshots my mum has sent to him. My DP has been messaging her, asking for nudes, pretending to be my ex, she didn’t give them(that I can see) and also didn’t initiate, but why? He comes clean and reactived his normal profile and admits it’s him and he does actually want the pictures and to flirt. I just don’t know what to do, I am distraught, my heart feels like it’s going to come out of my mouth :(

That is the most deliberate attempt to fuck with somebody that I have EVER read on here. Your current ''partner'' attempted to get nude photos of your mother (with whom you're no contact for good reason) by pretending to be your x. Holy fuckin' moly. Cut that man out of your life. Please check out Meredith Miller inner integration on youtube, you have attracted another abusive narcissist in to your life.

So how did you find out?

meredith miller on youtube

I will take a look, i thought my life was starting to turn around eventually, but it seems I’m back at square one now. I’m also upset he pretended to be my ex, my ex and I get on oKay, he’s always been fine with me, but something like that could have lost him his job.

That is SO weird, what your partner did. SO SO weird. In time, you will be glad that it was so awful that it was clear to you that you had to end it. If it had been less horrifying you might have forgiven him out of a lack of self love.

That happened

Well that’s true I suppose, I probably would have but I definitely can’t now. I’m so confused. I have questions like did they ever sleep together and I tried to ask him, he says no but I obviously don’t believe it.

How could that have lost him his job? How would anyone find out? Surely it wasn't public for everyone to see?

Well according to the screenshots my mum has reported it to the police.

Russel19. Read the OP. NotMade. I’m so sorry, he’s done this to you. It’s really bloody awful. It would be anyway, but when you’ve gone NC as well, it’s just so nasty. I would forward the screen shots to his mother, not just tell his brother. Oh and any of his mates I had contact numbers for. Sick, warped, bastard. I’m sorry you’re so alone there, but we are here, we can help you move forward 🌷

Sorry but why do you believe this? It's ridiculous. Either you are a troll like you said or you've been sniffing glue.

@Annie I did! But can't work out why her DP would send her the screenshots??? Surely he would just know she would finish with him..... What has he got to gain from it?

I dont think hes committed an actual crumlin offense though has he? He is a complete scumbag though

I'm not doubting you op, I don't know you from Adam. But I hand on heart swear I've read something almost identical to this before. Not recently but it's very familiar.
Anyway, have a drink and get rid

@Russell19 Her ex sent the screenshots, not her DP.

How would her ex have the screenshots? I just don't get it at all...

It is confusing. When my mum found out it was my DP she sent the screenshots to my ex(through the Facebook she already had-she had assumed he had made a new one at first I guess?). Not a criminal offence I don’t think, but the screenshot said my mum had had lots of weird things from different accounts over the last few months. Of course that could be exaggerated. I don’t know.

@Russell19. the way I read it was her DP sent messages to her mum pretending to be her ex. Mum didn't believe they were from the ex so screenshot and sent them to her ex (presumably via a different platform). Ex then said they weren't him and sent them to OP.

Oh right. So I'm guessing your ex said that it wasn't him to your mum...then what? How did it then turn to your partner admitting it was him and still wanting a photo? And how did you know it was your partner and that he said that if you don't talk to your mum?

Wha? How does this happen? Ltb of course. Find your people, those who have been through this, and build your self esteem! You are so much better than this!

Russell. Her ‘D’P admitted it was him in the messages to her Mum when she said she didn’t believe it was the Ex. He admitted it was him and said he still wanted the pictures & to flirt with her...so he can’t even say he was trying to set the Ex up.

Then of course her Mum sent the screen shots to the OP’s Ex to show him what the ‘D’P had been doing. ‘D’P could have got the Ex fired from his job as well. Fuck only knows why he said he was the Ex, would have been easier to get away with if he’d just done it under a fake name.

curiouser & curiouser.