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Has anyone else’s Child split head open

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SayZ · 24/09/2018 07:22

Need advice reassurance I’m going out my mind with worry.
My little ds cut his head open about 6 weeks ago it looks awful a long scar. could I ask you about recovery time did it take a long time to fade, did you need to use any treatment?
Every time I look at him my heart drops don’t know whether to ask to see plastic surgeon again who weirdly said at time (didn’t push it was too upset) that revision surgery would probably be offered if ds was a girl as boys worry less about facial scars and psychologically it’s less worrying for them 🤔
Should I see another dr? Ds is nearly 3 and accident about 6 weeks ago think scarring looking worse now than at the time seems bigger and more pinched :(

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EleanorLavish · 25/09/2018 17:10

OP did you post about this a few times when it happened?
My DS split his forehead open when he was 2.5yo. He has a scar, doesn't bother me in the slightest.
If you are the OP from before I really think you need to let this go, it really isn't healthy to obsess like this,IMO. I don't mean that unkindly, but he won't give a fiddlers and you are just determined to not let this go.
(apologies if not previous poster or seem harsh)

wrenika · 25/09/2018 18:57

I split my forehead when I was wee and I still have the scar. It's not the end of the world though. Mine happened around 25 years ago!

HeyMicky · 25/09/2018 19:02

DD1 split her forehead to the bone 2 years ago. I can barely see the scar now - they grow so quickly at this age. It was red for a while though.

I used Kelocote, it's available on amazon. Siliconec so similar to what you're doing. I can't recommend it enough. A friend also used it on her son's face with the same excellent results

FunkyHeroCat · 25/09/2018 19:22

DS1 did this when he was 2 - it was so deep you could see his skull Shock. I can now report that at 14 he has a really tiny silvery line that you can only see up close there. Honestly, they heal so fast!

SayZ · 25/09/2018 21:59

I am Eleanor have name changed but it’s me sadly still obsessing I just can’t let it go his poor face is a reminder of what happened and I feel awful for him. I just want him to look like my little boy again I know that’s a terrible thing to say I just see his scar and then him. I love him so much

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SayZ · 25/09/2018 21:59

How long did it take to look better cat

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SayZ · 25/09/2018 22:00

Kelocote is the one we’re using mickey

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Winterskynight · 25/09/2018 22:16

Is there anyway you can show us by covering his face?

EleanorLavish · 25/09/2018 22:40

Ah, I’m sorry OP. You are obviously really struggling with this.
For what it’s worth my sons scar has really faded with age, he is 6 now. And his was very deep and had to be stitched.
Have you thought about talking to a professional about your feelings? They are valid, but maybe someone could help you accept it?
You are a great mum, these things just happen.

JynxaSmoochum · 25/09/2018 22:46

I have a scar from my teens. It was obviously red in the first year then settled. Most people are oblivious to it although I tend to keep make up subtle if I bother, it gets accentuated by products like eyeliner.

It is normal to gain scars through life. They are intrusive at first but fade to a part of a person's story. Lives are not perfect.

Both my DCs have little scars from tearing the skin on their faces. One jumped into the fireplace while playing in a sleeping bag. I can't even remember what the other did to his forehead, but there is a photo of him aged 2 with a plaster in that spot. He's probably gained a new one today by running into a door and splitting his eyebrow!

I don't remember the details but I can remember posts about a DC having a facial injury/ scar from a typical childish incident. These things happen. They are normal. Parents can not prevent every little mishap and accident. If you are feeling disproportionate emotions about this (guilt? disappointment?) it may be worth some councelling to explore these feelings and put them into perspective.

Ollivander84 · 25/09/2018 22:56

It will be fine
Here is my after and before, 10 months apart and I put nothing on it except the odd bit of body lotion

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SayZ · 26/09/2018 07:05

Thanks all I think I do need to speak to someone I was hoping that it was just the initial shock but 6 weeks on and I still feel so guilty and the incident keeps popping into my mind. I was at a child’s party last weekend with my eldest and kids were running around and slipping over I keep wincing in anticipation that they would do the same it’s made me very fearful of how easily these accidents can happen.

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Winterskynight · 26/09/2018 07:14

How did it happen op?

SayZ · 26/09/2018 07:36

He slipped on the wet changing room tiles when I was getting him changed at swimming entirely my fault. It was an accident but an accident caused by my stupidity. I chose that room as the other were dirty, it was wet I was rushing. Everything leading up to that happening was entirely down to me- I chose to get us membership at that place, I urged us to go that day, I chose that room etc etc I wish I could turn back time but I cant

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redsummershoes · 26/09/2018 07:41

sayz it's an accident. they do happen.
he could have split his lip open with a plastic baby spoon eating a yoghurt at home.
an accident.

JynxaSmoochum · 26/09/2018 08:20

Risk assessment: Swimming pool changing room
Hazard: hard, wet changing rool floor.
Risk of slips
Potential damage: bruises, cuts (low severity, low risk) concussion, breaks (medium severity, very low risk.
How to reduce risk: walk don't run, sensible behaviour
Benefits of activity: swimming is fun, excellent fitness, learning to swim reduces risks of drowning.

Do benefits of activity outweigh the potential for harm? YES!

He's had a minor accident. They happen to every child. I'd be worried if a child never had one because they weren't exposed to risks because they would miss out on so many beneficial and essential experiences. It looks worse because it's the face and the skin tears easily, also there's a lot of blood flow for all the facial muscles and nerves. If it was a knee or an arm, it would feel totally normal.

When DS ran into the door yesterday, it was one of those "ooh" 😖 moments. I fulfilled my parental obligations by meeting his enotional needs (hugging, kissing, reassuring) then his physical (blood coming through... get appropriate dressing) more emotional (cheering him up with laughing) then getting on with the practicalities of getting him and other children to school reasonably punctually and handing care over to school. Today he has a fine black eye which he'll probably proudly show off. There isn't a reasonable way to mitigate what happened (we need doors in the house! Constantly micromanaging not to run would be damaging to him- he may have learned from experience.... nope, I doubt it) It is just one of those things and is barely a paragraph in his life.

Every child has slips and falls. Parents can not prevent every little misfortune.

shallichangemyname · 26/09/2018 09:33

My DS got an awful injury, from his hairline almost to his eyebrow. You could see the bone. They didn't stitch because they said that it would scar less. That was 12 years ago and you can barely see it now. I can't remember how long it took to fade but it wasn't long at all. Certainly within months it was a very thin line.

thaegumathteth · 26/09/2018 09:38

I think you need to get help with your anxiety rather than anything else OP

badtime · 26/09/2018 09:40

OP, it sounds like you have been really traumatised by this. Your response isn't normal. Seek professional help, before you really do damage your child by trying to protect them from everything by wrapping them in cotton wool.

Zebraantelopegiraffe · 26/09/2018 09:41

My son split his between his eyebrows, he was 21 months. He's 9 now, yeah you can still see it but it's very fine and faded, not obvious at all.

Chickenpox111 · 26/09/2018 09:49

My son did last year late August, I have attached a picture from a few weeks after he did it and what it looks like now. I was so upset but you can hardly see it now, I did use boots scar cream on it after it had healed for the first three months but I cant say for sure wether if it helped or not.

Screaminginsidemeagain · 26/09/2018 09:53

Kelocote. Silicone gel is the only scientifically proven treatment that helps with healing and looks.
We had a huge gash on the forehead here- failed and hardly noticeable now

DianaPrincessOfThemyscira · 26/09/2018 09:59

Yep - nearly 7 year old DS split his head open to the bone, needed it stitched under general. He was only two.

Don’t even know if you can really see this in the pic? But it healed very well and is now practically invisible. I can’t remember if he saw a plastics doc or not but it did heal exceptionally well.

DianaPrincessOfThemyscira · 26/09/2018 10:00

Oops here’s the pic!

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SayZ · 26/09/2018 15:43

Chicken your pics are so reassuring! My ds are very similar to the before pic but his scar is longer than your ds’. Can I ask did it look ‘pinched’ before it started fading hard to tell from the pic thanks

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