Fuck I'm pregnant

[fixingabrokenhesrt]

I've been going through the shittiest of shit times recently as those of who have followed my previous threads will know. In the middle of all of this I ended up in bed with one of close friends.., and now I'm pregnant, I'm in absolutely no position mental, financially, practicalness (currently live at a hospital for an undetermined amount of time) but yet part of me feels like I should keep them. I just don't know what to do 😭

And there's also the possibility this baby could of the same condition as both the fixing children and I don't know if I could deal with that

Oh my fixing.

You don’t have to make a decision today, tomorrow or any time soon.

Give yourself time to reach the decision that works for you.

there’s no easy answer. I think you do need to consider telling the hospital though because of medication / treatment etc.

Re: living in a hospital, are you an inpatient in a mental health unit? Not that that's a reason not to proceed with a pregnancy, but it adds a layer of complexity. Do you have a CPN or social worker you can talk to?

Leliana, Fixing is at the bedside of her very poorly son.

Oh Fixing

Oh darling I have no words.

First things first: pregnancy aside, how are you?

Ah, ignore my comment then. I didn’t realise it was your child who was the patient.

@fixingabrokenhesrt I've been following your previous posts and my heart goes out to you for everything you have gone through the last few months.

I don't have any practical advice I'm afraid but just wanted to reiterate how much support you have on here.

Is there anything doctors can do to give you an idea of what the chances are of a new baby having the same health condition as little fixings? I would also discuss counselling with your GP before you make a decision.

Oh no. Don't rush into a decision. Do they know if the genetic issue comes from you? Assuming this baby is from a different dad, maybe that means it won't have the same condition?

Oh Fixing! I've been on your other threads and I don't really know what to say except to take your time with whatever decision you make.

Unfortunately I am the carrier and not their dad 😭

Lots to get your has round then, Fixing.

If you knew this child was healthy, would that influence your decision? If so, find out about ants natal screening.

I would also find a counsellor to tak to.

I honestly don't know I wish I did but I'm so confused about all of it

Oh my, I've just been reading your other thread, I'm not sure how I missed it.

I'm so incredibly sorry my lovely, sending you lots of love & strength whatever you decide to do

You need to talk to your Doctor, and find out what screening you can have and how soon. At least that way you can make an informed decision. No one will judge given what you've been through.

I remember your other thread . I'm so sorry to read you're still in hospital with your LO.

How’s big fixing doing OP?

I can imagine that this pregnancy has completely caught you off guard. I’m not sure what I would do in your situation, so have no advice to give. Just sending my love and reminding you that you need to make the decision that’s right for you. There’s no right or wrong answer xx

I haven’t seen your other thread(s) but I suggest you ask your GP about counselling and the possibility of genetic / prenatal testing if you want to consider continuing the pregnancy.

As others said you don’t need to make a decision immediately but I think it would be wise to get counselling ASAP to get some support to talk/think through your options.

If the GP isn’t helpful, I believe BPAS and Marie Stopes offer impartial counselling ie no requirement to terminate the pregnancy.

I wonder if the organisation ARC might be helpful too.

Ahhh. Sorry I got the wrong end of the stick re: living in hospital. So sorry to hear about your little one. I second previous commenters' suggestions that genetic counselling, and talking to your children's specialists, might provide some clarity. So sorry you're in this situation.

Thinking of you fixing xx

Thinking of you hun... you have some time huni to have a think ... can you speak to the midwife team and ask them if they can help with talking to someone / testing etc... xx

(((Hugs)))

Is there a counsellor attached to the genetics side you can talk,this through with x

As you are the carrier, I'd definitely, look into genetic testing asap and then base my decision on that, especially after what you have been, and are going, through.

Oh bugger. I'm sorry lass.

How far along? Is there time for you to get your thoughts together before having to make a decision?

Oh bless you. Have you spoken to friend?

Just offering a hand hold OpHope you manage to get some sleep