I have twin DDs (late teens) who are very different. One is outgoing, loads of friends, always invited to parties, out every weekend, likes a few drinks, had a girly holiday in a lively part of Greece this year. The other is quieter, has a couple of good friends but they are all fairly quiet, prefer the cinema, meals out, that kind of thing to parties or clubbing. She doesn't like alcohol at all. She's at home a lot more than her sister. Also had a girly holiday, but camping in the UK. I'd say both girls are happy!
I'm increasingly aware that family (particularly MIL!), feel that my quiet twin is missing out and she 'should' be out partying, drinking and 'having fun' as she puts it. She doesn't accept my view that her 'fun' is different from her sister's and it's starting to grate.
I've also seen this attitude in other areas - at work for example, the extrovert outgoing people seem to get on further, the quieter ones get overlooked. As though you have to be seen as extrovert as that translates to 'confidence' which is bulllshit. If anything I'd say my quiet twin was the more confident of the two and more comfortable in her own skin!
It's just made me think about the whole thing in more detail than I ever have before.
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