OH not happy about holiday

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My friend has just split up with her fiancé. She's distraught, they had a holiday booked for two weeks time

She's begging me to go, she won't even take any money off me for it - gorgeous hotel - very nice of her. She is distraught

OH of just under a year isn't happy..

It'll only be a week..he doesn't want me to go even though we have no plans for that week

He's being a dick, isn't he?

We don't live together or anything

Sorry guys friend was here

We've already been away on our summer holiday together and are off to America just before Christmas so it isn't a lack of time spent together

My annual leave entitlement is healthy - I can more than afford it

He doesn't have to do anything except miss me 😂

I'll have my phone, we'll be able to keep in touch

We are going to this place

www.thomascook.com/destinations/spain/canary-islands/tenerife/playa-de-las-americas/sunprime-ocean-view/

Adults only. I don't drink much or "party"

”We've already been away on our summer holiday together and are off to America just before Christmas so it isn't a lack of time spent together

My annual leave entitlement is healthy - I can more than afford it

He doesn't have to do anything except miss me

I'll have my phone, we'll be able to keep in touch”

What reason has he given for not being happy then?

It's just all

"Oh right. I see"

"I wish you weren't going"

"Has she not got other friends to go with?"

You see those comments would piss me right off.
You're much better than me. I'd be telling him she'd be coming to America with me if he didn't sort himself out. (But I have raging PMT and may not be in the most reasonable mood right now!).

Does he make comments all the time? Has he said anything nice?

"That's lovely you're supporting a friend"

"What a great opportunity for you, go have a fab time"

"Place looks amazing, bet you'll love it"??

This holiday has just came about the last two days..we go shortly

He never says anything negative about anything..except this. So I can't be too hard on him

Is Tenerife even lively? I could maybe see his point if I was going to Ibiza or Magaluf or somewhere mental but I thought Tenerife was fairy quiet

Just been to the same resort this summer. Make sure you got to Siam Waterpark, it’s brilliant.

That bit of Tenerife is quite busy, it will be great at this time of year. Close to the airport, easy to get to, lots to do.

Get out your bikinis, dresses and sandals; you should have a lovely time.

When he said 'I wish you weren't going' didn't you say 'why?'

Oh I am a do-er of things

Kindle will be loaded up, waterpark visited

Holiday was vair expensive for friend, she won't take any money towards it so I'm gonna load up a card with euro for her instead

A break will be nice. I'll sort him when I'm home 🙄

I think he might be jealous.

I'm sure if it had been the other way round he would happily go to support his friend.

You will be having a lovely time while his at home... jealous

My friend had a horrible break up around a big birthday, my DP didn't bat an eyelid when I mentioned ne and said friend were off to Vegas for 10 days (it didn't eat into our joint finances, we did live together) and a decade later I'm still with DP.

What exactly is his problem?

This would be a red flag for me. Is he going to show himself to be controlling in future?

Surely he should be super pleased for you getting a lovely free holiday.

Nice holiday OP, we went to Loro Parc the other week, brilliant day out. Add it to your list.

I think he's just a bit miffed that I'm content to disappear off

I dunno..I'm no big deal 😳

Mind you, I did inform him rather than ask if he'd mind

Maybe that's it?

Mind you, I did inform him rather than ask if he'd mind

Why would even consider doing anything else? FFS, he's a boyfriend of a year, not your spouse of 20 years and you have 2 small children together and 10 days of leave left for the rest of the year. He's not your boss or your landlord.

None of his business. I'd be reconsidering the relationship.

Have a lovely time.

Would it even cross anyone’s mind to ask not tell a bf of 1 year that you are going on holiday with friends, when you don’t live with or share finances with them and you have plenty of holidays booked with them? I think it would be a concern In this position if you didn’t have friends wanting to go on holiday with you. I am in the baby years but love the idea of holidays with girlfriends again down the track. It’s really weird. Maybe he’s the one op but you had better make sure that he’s the one who understands perfectly you can holiday with friends.

DH and I have been together for several years and I wouldn’t ASK him before I did something like that. So long as it didn’t eat massively into joint money and we had no plans that week I would be going and he would happily wave me off.

Your boyfriend’s sullen comments would annoy the life out of me and I’d be telling him to sort his fucking face out.

No back story at all, just plodding along

I think that ^ speaks volumes!

Sod him. Why would you even need to ask for his permission? Have a great time, it looks amazing.

My exH told me I couldn't go on holiday with a friend after I'd brought up our 2 sons for 7 years, and worked too. Friend was also married with 2 sons and both of us just wanted a break, relaxing, walking, reading. Apparently I had to worry what his mum and dad and the neighbours would say....ridiculous.

Long story, but it was one of my last straws. About 5 months later I was in Canada on holiday and he was looking after our sons...because we had split up!

Your boyfriend sounds very selfish and does not have your well being at heart, I fear the relationship is all about him, not you.

”I did inform him rather than ask if he'd mind”

Why would you ask if he’d mind? Why would he think you should ask him if he minds? Nothing to do with him!

You should listen to him and stay home.

I'll go in your place! 😂

Hope u laughed when he said that... What a knob

I'm jealous! Hotel looks fab! Playa is central for bars/clubs but either he trusts you or he doesn't!

Just because you're staying somewhere lively doesn't mean you're going to be doing anything untoward!

My only concern would be if you're in one of the lower rooms you might be disturbed by noise from the bars/clubs.

I love Tenerife but haven't been able to afford a holiday for years.

Sorry your friend having a rough time, lovely of her to be so generous. Lovely time of year to go too.

Have a lovely time and tell him to get a bloody grip!

When he made the comments, you could have asked him why he was making negative remarks and whether he had something he wanted to say about your decision to take a holiday.

His behaviour and your interpretation of it suggests he is needy, at best!

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