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friend using me for wifi.

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choccywokkydoodah · 13/09/2018 07:38

my friend recently popped in for a visit and asked if she could hook up to my wifi as she had been cut off due to not paying her bill and she really needed to do something online. No problem i said. not she has started "visiting" me everyday sometimes twice a day and just sitting on her phone hookdd up to my wifi doin whatever she is doing. I cant help but feel used as she hardly speaks during these visits just sits doing her online business. I dont want to be a bitch and confront her about it but at the same time i dont want to get used as a free wifi provider. Last night i swiched my modem off when i saw her arrive. seconds into her visit she asks what has happened and if my wifi password had changed i acted as if i dont know how to work it when her 11 year old pops up wih oh its been turned off then promptly turned it on and hooked on to check her facebook. It is really starting to annoy the life out me. suggestion what to do would be great TIA. xx

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Haireverywhere · 13/09/2018 15:53

Word it like this.

I have been feeling used. I'm not happy with you coming over here to use my wifi.

OP you need to go on an assertiveness course. You actually apologised to a bunch of strangers on the internet for not replying because you've been at work!

You owe us nothing. This is another reason why people like this 'friend' take advantage of your kind nature.

You can do this!

WalkingTed · 13/09/2018 15:54

she sure is cheeky.

DarlingNikita · 13/09/2018 15:59

her 11 year old pops up wih oh its been turned off then promptly turned it on and hooked on to check her facebook.

She's obviously raising her kid in her own image. I'd have said 'Mini-CF, don't mess with my wifi please.'

And yes, she is a massive CF. And doesn't sound like a nice person generally.

IHeartKingThistle · 13/09/2018 15:59

Lovely training from Hair there! She's right!

Though you do sound lovely OP.

WaxOnFeckOff · 13/09/2018 16:03

I was going to same re the name of your network. Change it to:

This is not an internet cafe
Fuck off cheapskate user
Fuck off (insert name of CF here)
etc etc

LeftRightCentre · 13/09/2018 16:04

FFS. Just don't let her in anymore. Use your H as you're too wet. What Taco said, 'Now is not a good time for you to pretend to be my friend to use my WiFi.' She's a cunt.

WaxOnFeckOff · 13/09/2018 16:04

send her a message using your wifi.... :o

LeftRightCentre · 13/09/2018 16:11

Or message her. 'My Wifi is no longer available to you. I'm fed up of being used for it.' And then she will fuck right off and you'll likely not see or hear from her again.

Witchofzog · 13/09/2018 16:13

Oh yes. Do change your Wi-Fi code to one of the above suggestions. And please update too. She sounds awful. Does she have many friends?

happinessischocolate · 13/09/2018 16:15

Change the password

Change the name to fuck off cheeky fucker

Turn off the box

Let her in when she arrives

Sit and watch her face as she tries to log in once her cfdd has switched it back on

Stand at the front door and make sure the door hits her on the way out

😂

Ignoramusgiganticus · 13/09/2018 16:15

What a CF.

WhereYouLeftIt · 13/09/2018 16:24

"She is actually not a nice person to be friends with anyway she is very self centered and only intrested in talking about herself i have been getting increasingly frustrated with her for a while now."
Somehow, this does not surprise me at all Grin!

Wishing you resolve for dealing with her choccy, you CAN do this. I'd probably open the door to her and, before she can even open her mouth, say in an exasperated tone of voice "Are you here to leech off my wifi again?" Probably followed with a "Well you can't, so eff off!"

FanciedAChangeToday · 13/09/2018 16:29

As a pp said she has probably realised she can sit outside your house and use your WiFi rather than coming actually in the house. Is she sat in her car outside Grin?

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choccywokkydoodah · 13/09/2018 16:54

thanks yo you all for your motivation i am definitely getting this sorted tonight. enough is enough.

we have changed the password and My DH is in the process of changing the router name to We Are Not A Internet Cafe no free wifi here.Wink

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DGRossetti · 13/09/2018 16:55

DH is in the process of changing the router name to We Are Not A Internet Cafe no free wifi here

Alternatively, just hide it so you can only connect if you know it's name ...

QueenOfCatan · 13/09/2018 17:03

Just be careful still as if you leave the box unattended and it has a connect button on it she'll still be able to connect without the password if she knows the name of the box. I've been doing it with my new laptop because I'm too lazy to put in the code

LoniceraJaponica · 13/09/2018 17:12

How can that work if the password has changed?

OMGItsPierre · 13/09/2018 17:17

Just knock her out.

BMW6 · 13/09/2018 17:55

Oh just tell her to fuck off for Pete's sake.

TeaByTheSeaside · 13/09/2018 19:32

Has she been round yet OP? Did you tell her to do one?

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choccywokkydoodah · 13/09/2018 19:49

so an update its a long one so as not to dripfeed it all out..... Around 6:30 my daughter came home and said she had seen "Friend" t the bottom of our drive in her can with her 2 kids. she had.came round with her 11year old and her 8 year old in tow. about 15 minutes later she comes to my door I let her in asked what she wanted and she said she was just popping in for a visit. Not even 30 seconds in and she whipps out her phone..obviously not auto-connecting to wifi so she says to me whats up with the wifi in here. I asked her what she ment she told me she had been trying to use wifi to make a call to her boyfriend on whattsapp and it wasnt letting her connect.
I told her we had changed the password and she asked me why i had done that and can i hand over the new one as she had an important call to make to her boyfriend and had no ther way of contacting him.... i said outright No!!!!! she was absolutely raging asked me what the fuck was I going to do as she had to phone her boyfriend. i told her straight i wasnt happy and that I was basically being used.... she actually turned round and called me a fucking cow and argued it didnt make any difference to me who used my wifi as we already pay and doent cost anymore. i cant get over the cheek of her after a few crossedwords she stormed out and told me i was out of order her boyfriend was expecting her call and i was being a twisted cow.

I am actually gobsmacked....

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badg3r · 13/09/2018 19:54

Gosh you are right to phase her out. On the plus side, at least she can't send you any rude WhatsApp messages Wink

Well done for standing up for yourself.

ThanosSavedMe · 13/09/2018 19:58

Yay. Well done you.

If she were a proper friend she’d apologies for her behaviour but I doubt she will.

Well done for getting rid of your cf

Unknownunknowns · 13/09/2018 20:00

Well at least now you know! Good riddance!

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choccywokkydoodah · 13/09/2018 20:01

ThanosSavedMe it is not like me to stand up for myself like this. it has taken a long time. it got very heated very quickly and it was all on her part. She has a reputation of being very mouthy and is one of the types who pride themselves on being straight to the point and taking no shit from nobody type.... which is the total opposite of me.

I realise now she is nothing more than a bully. she has done loads of things like this in the past and it has took me along time to finally snap with her. xx

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